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Nanny share question

nosoup4unosoup4u member
edited May 2014 in Working Moms
Whose responsibility is it to find another family, the nanny or her employer?

The reason I ask is bc I mentioned the idea of a nanny share to our current nanny (she'll have a few hours less next fall due to DS2 being in preschool five days a week). She mentioned it again this week, but framed it that DH and I should find the other family to share her with. I honestly don't know if it's our job, and I asked her to possibly list an ad to help find someone. What's the protocol??
DS1 - Feb 2008

DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)

Re: Nanny share question

  • The family finds another family to share her with.

     

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  • You do... And wouldn't you prefer it that way?
    My TTC History:
    2009: missed miscarriage #1 at 9 weeks (trisomy 16)
    2010: Infertility
    2011: Diagnosis and treatment (low sperm count, anastrozole for DH, clomid for me + IUI)
    2012: Baby #1
    2014: Baby #2
    October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
    March 2016 BFP#5, due November 2016.

    My Charts since 2009

  • Thanks, all, I think we'll start looking and ask her to look as well.

    You do... And wouldn't you prefer it that way?

    I don't have a preference, since I won't be watching the theoretical kid she's taking on.
    DS1 - Feb 2008

    DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)

  • TheBorg7of9TheBorg7of9 member
    edited May 2014
    Yeah but you gotta deal with them a lot. The Parent might be in your house and your kid in theirs. You have to agree on a lot of things. We just drew up an 8 page contract for our nanny share. Both parties have to be pretty agreeable.

    Eta: words
    My TTC History:
    2009: missed miscarriage #1 at 9 weeks (trisomy 16)
    2010: Infertility
    2011: Diagnosis and treatment (low sperm count, anastrozole for DH, clomid for me + IUI)
    2012: Baby #1
    2014: Baby #2
    October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
    March 2016 BFP#5, due November 2016.

    My Charts since 2009

  • VORVOR member
    Are you talking a share where she'll be watching all your kids at one time? If so, trust me, YOU want a family that you like and can work with. And whose kid you aren't going to mind spending a lot of time w your kid.

  • She'd be wtaching DS2 for five hours, and DS1 for about 1.5 (tho his school has aftercare, so she might not have him). It doesn't matter to us, but she wants to watch someone else to make more money bc her hours w us are going to be reduced. Ugh, I'm hoping this isn't a giant PITA to coordinate! @TheBorg7of9‌ you have a contract w the other family, or it's w your nanny?
    DS1 - Feb 2008

    DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)

  • nosoup4u said:

    She'd be wtaching DS2 for five hours, and DS1 for about 1.5 (tho his school has aftercare, so she might not have him). It doesn't matter to us, but she wants to watch someone else to make more money bc her hours w us are going to be reduced. Ugh, I'm hoping this isn't a giant PITA to coordinate! @TheBorg7of9‌ you have a contract w the other family, or it's w your nanny?

    We are all parties to the contract. I got most of the language from care.com. The other parents and we worked out the contract in person and through emails. It took 2-3 weeks of back and forth, then we just offered it to the nanny and she accepted.

    My TTC History:
    2009: missed miscarriage #1 at 9 weeks (trisomy 16)
    2010: Infertility
    2011: Diagnosis and treatment (low sperm count, anastrozole for DH, clomid for me + IUI)
    2012: Baby #1
    2014: Baby #2
    October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
    March 2016 BFP#5, due November 2016.

    My Charts since 2009

  • So, you reduced your nanny's hours, and suggested a nanny share to make up for the money she is losing?  Sounds like it would be your job to find a family to share with.  If you leave it to her, there's a pretty good chance she will just end up looking for another job that suits her needs better.
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
  • I would think it is your job.  I am also curious (and maybe off base)  If you have another child wouldn't the pay be the same regardless of what your other child is doing? won't nanny still be taking care of your younger child?  


    and to that end of nanny is picking up your older child from preschool I'm of the mindset if you want your nanny to still watch her before and after you still pay her during preschool hours. it isn't her fault you chose preschool.  we will have this next school year with DS and DD in preschool 1 day a week for 3 hours. The nanny drives and picks up. She still gets paid those hours.
    Huh? Her hourly pay will still be the same w us, she's just working less hours overall. We pay her the same rate when she was watching both kids, even tho now it's primarily only watching one kid. She gets paid for the hours he's not in school. I think you're confused.

    Yeah, I do think I originally told her she could nanny share if she wanted to pick up more pay. I don't know if she'd quit, as she didn't want full day hours (ie 35-40 hrs/week) for this school year when we offered them to her.
    DS1 - Feb 2008

    DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)

  • hsampohsampo member
    I am a mother of 2 Amazing Kiddos, a 3.5 year old boy and a 1.5 year old girl.  They will be going to a pre-school daycare 3 days a week (Mon. Wed and Fri) starting end of August.  I will be needing care for them on Tuesdays and Thursdays only from 8am - 5pm.  We live in the West Loop too.
    Email me at heatherj@mikeditkaschicago.com if you want to team up and find a nanny together.
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