Sleep training heart break

GalLaura · May 2014

We started sleep training tonight. It is just 10pm and I want to give up. He is taking it so badly. My dh is consoling him and that is not the norm. I have always consoled him in the night. It's simply breaking my heart. Why does it have to be this difficult? It's going to be a very long night. I keep telling myself, what's the alternative? Is it that bad to wake up several times a night. He is only little once.

I want to do what is right by my little guy. It just feels terrible.

slepert · May 2014

how did the rest of the night go? we need to do this too, but i am scared.

RedCherry1109 · May 2014

It will be okay. If you don't want to do it then don't! I didn't and none of my kids would sleep through the night but after they turned one they slowly started too. I had LO CIO it out once at nap time. When I went in there, I didn't pick him up, I just let him hold my hand and talked to him. That was the best nap ever!!

Cricket81 · May 2014

Good luck! You know what your family needs. My baby sucks at sleeping so I know it can be super stressful for everyone involved. Keep us posted and know you've got a lot of mamas supporting you from back in the states.

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TheTamedShrew · May 2014

The first night is the hardest! How did it go?

GalLaura · May 2014

Hi ladies, thanks for your support. The first time he woke was the hardest. He cried for a good hour and 15 minutes. Even when we comforted him he wouldn't stop crying. He woke again and whimpered and put himself back. Around 3am, he cried a bit but not as bad as first time and then again at 5am. If the crying was at the level of the first wake up, I would have thrown the towel in. I wonder what will happen tonight now.... It's the first time he didn't have a night feed either.

Needless to say, I've smothered him with kisses and hugs today and we went to the park right after breakfast.

natalie115 · May 2014

I feel ya...I never thought I would be able to let him CIO, but we seriously had no other option. I couldn't keep waking up every 2 hours and he really only wanted to sleep in my arms all of a sudden. It's heartbreaking and I hated it (he's still crying a 1-2x a night so in still hating it). I realized pretty quickly that the going in there made it worse. He would escalate whenever he saw me walk out. If I didn't go in it would be 30min crying and if I went in every 15min he would cry for an hour and a half.

Good luck! I know it sucks...if you don't feel right about it then don't! Go with your gut, you know what's good for him and for you.

LBeez13 · May 2014

Hope tonight goes a little better. For us the first 2 nights were the worst an then the 3rd night was soo much better!

kelseypie · May 2014

Sorry you're having such a rough time. The only option that worked for us when DS was up every single hour was co sleeping. Hope something works out for you guys soon.

GalLaura · May 2014

Hi @subliminalrabbit‌! Every day is getting better. Thanks for asking! Last night there was no sobbing. I sort of cheated though. I put lo down to sleep barely awake. I was told by Tresilian(the baby sleep midwives in australia) not to do that. I couldn't bare the sobbing at night again. Anyway, He woke up a few times and whimpered but put himself back to sleep! It's a miracle! Lol

How are you doing? Decide about work yet?

GalLaura · May 2014

Back to sobbing at bed time tonight. This is so hard. Plus lo is getting a cold and I'm praying it's not going to escalate because then I'll be at square one again. Poor kid. I just wish this came a little more natural for him

No longer the best · May 2014

Ack!! @subliminalrabbit that is the first I've seen of your news (I couldn't keep up with spam this week) CONGRATULATIONS!!! That is such wonderful news for you! Like that is cheering me up right now!

Sorry @GalLaura didn't mean to derail your thread there honestly just do what feels right to you! If you want to put him down drowsy/asleep etc DO IT despite what people say. If you are at your wits end and about to lose your shit and you need to let him cry for your sanity DO IT. I'm sorry though it is so tough.

GalLaura · May 2014

@subliminalrabbit‌ this is fantastic news!!!!!! Yay!!!!!!! So happy for you!

Thanks everyone for the sympathy. It means a lot. So hard to see my little guy sobbing.

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