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Letting them cry it out????
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My LO likes to take a long nap in the afternoon/ evening then wants to eat for like two hours after that. He doesn't ever seem satisfied. I don't mind feeding him, if he needs it, but my nipples start getting sore. My husband thinks we should let him cry it out and don't feed him. The only way to calm him down is feeding. I get frustrated cuz it hurts, and my husband is no help in soothing baby. Should we let a 3 week old " cry it out"???? I feel he has a need, and that's why he is crying, and we need to fulfill that need. What do you all think?
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Re: Letting them cry it out????
Don't ever let your newborn CIO.
If your nips hurt and you can't deal, give a bottle. But don't starve your baby because you're sore.
Once your LO is old enough to talk and tell you they're hungry you wouldn't say too bad, I just don't feel like tending to your needs. That's exactly what you're doing if you choose to ignore your baby's cries.
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As a new mum, I was always worry about whether or not I am doing it all wrong/being unsure. (Who wouldn't be??)
I was dealing with a reflux baby and going through hell until I sought advice off other mums and numerous trips to the doctors!!!
having your husband putting doubts in your head would definitely make you ask the question too. It's not an easy job and they don't come with manuals!
My advice is to make sure there are no other issues I.e wind/reflux etc
My reflux baby started feeding differently which gradually worsened which started when she was about 4 weeks old.
She also has a hard time bringing up wind which can cause them to feed abnormally - long periods of time are now spent on bringing up the wind to help curb this behavior
Every baby is different so feeding behavior can only be gauged on their growth and development which would only tell you if they aren't getting enough as babies cant over eat!
Their patterns/routines change often depending on growth spurts and new developmental changes as well making it harder to gauge what is normal and what isn't and no baby is the same!
You will read everywhere that breast fed babies should be fed every 2 - 3 hours taking about 45 mins to an hour to complete - but text books don't work for everyone!!!
If you are finding the behavior worsening definitely speak to your doctor, as there may be underlying issues. Otherwise keep doing what you are doing!
It's definitely true that your baby only cries when they need something from you, go with your gut instinct!
Best of luck with your bundle of joy
No, you don't let them cry it out when they're 3 weeks old. Even when they are less than 3 months old, after they're 3 M then you can start training them to go to sleep using the CIO.
Your new born needs to be fed. If your nipples are sore use a bottle, use formula, but feed him.
I think you need to talk to his pediatrician, you're misunderstanding the information you are reading on the internet. Don't believe or do all you find on the internet. Talk to the professionals either the pedriatician or a lactation coach, please!
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You can't let a 3 month-old CIO. You can't do CIO until 6 months at the earliest.
@haygurlhay
According to Baby center (see below) you can start the CIO training between the 4th and 6th months. That's why I suggested her to talk to a professional and not to believe or do all she reads on the internet. I am not a professional neither are you. She better talk to someone who really knows for the sake of that baby.
Here's a link for reference:
https://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-training-cry-it-out-methods_1497112.bc?page=2
ACCORDING TO BABYCENTER:
Baby sleep training: Cry it out methods
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I'd like to give the Ferber method a try. How do I do it?
First, wait until your baby is physically and emotionally ready to sleep through the night, usually between 4 and 6 months of age. Ferber doesn't designate a precise age at which to begin his technique, since it can vary so much depending on the child.
If you're not sure whether your baby's ready, you can always give it a try or discuss it with your child's doctor. If you encounter too much resistance, wait a few weeks and try again.
"Don't worry about the haters... They are just angry because the truth you speak contradicts the lie they live."
-Dr. Steve Maraboli
@haygurlhay @jessevans10
That's why I recommended her to talk to her pediatrician. I am not a professional neither are you as I told you, neither is 3 months or 6 months, It depends on each case. I don't see how anyone with common sense would be raising a child based on an stranger's opinion on a blog. It's her decision if she ask the pediatrician or not.
I'm done with this post.
"Don't worry about the haters... They are just angry because the truth you speak contradicts the lie they live."
-Dr. Steve Maraboli
"Don't worry about the haters... They are just angry because the truth you speak contradicts the lie they live."
-Dr. Steve Maraboli
No. Your baby should not be left to CIO. Not now. Not next month. Not until he/she is at least six months old and you are ready for this challenge.
Cluster feeding at 8 weeks is quite common. My second daughter is 15 weeks old and still cluster feeds a couple of evenings each week.
@AmyEs28 gave some good advice. I agree with her suggestions.
Don't feel bad. You did the right thing by asking about CIO rather than trying it.