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Lee81 · May 2014

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5296492?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063

RedZee · May 2014

Saw that and thought it was interesting and was going to post it.

Has anyone been told they're not allowed to NIP? The only time I've had an issue is with FIL who gets REALLY uncomfortable and has made stupid comments about the science behind nursing. Even though I know it's my right, blah blah blah, I either put a cover on or take the opportunity to not have to be around him and leave the room.

ncase2 · May 2014

I live in a very conservative area, and while I've never tried to NIP, I've also never seen anyone else NIP. I'm sure if I tried, I would probably be asked to move it to somewhere private. Once in Hobby Lobby I asked to use an empty classroom to nurse and one of the associates told me no, but then the manager came by and allowed me to - they said they'd never had anyone ask before, nor had anyone ever nursed in their store.

Lee81 · May 2014

My boobs were a big giant failure and they tried to starve my baby, so I never really had much opportunity to nip. I don't think I would have had a problem around strangers, but it would have weirded me out to whip out my boobs around fil. I probably would have covered up.

stephl3055 · May 2014

I've seen quite a bit of coverage on those ads, but that university is also local to me. I'm wondering if they will get someone to help distribute them now that they seem to be getting a lot of attention.

Phalaenopsis · May 2014

I was in a toys r us and asked if they had a place to nurse. They did not, so I had to sit in a plastic chair at the front of the store so that all the creepers that were checking out could watch me (and yes, there were creepers). You would think a baby store would have a designated place! I refuse to sit in the bathroom.

RedZee · May 2014

Phalaenopsis said:

I was in a toys r us and asked if they had a place to nurse. They did not, so I had to sit in a plastic chair at the front of the store so that all the creepers that were checking out could watch me (and yes, there were creepers). You would think a baby store would have a designated place! I refuse to sit in the bathroom.

The TRU near us has a nursing room. It is dumb that yours doesn't have one. And I've definitely been watched by creepers. I use a cover almost all the time because I don't like being watched.

sleepy33 · May 2014

The best place ever to nurse if you are out is in the nursing room at Buy Buy Baby. That shiz has recliners, couches, soft lighting, a sound machine, a changing table, ottomans. It is like heaven on Earth.

sleepy33 · May 2014

You know who gives me the most grief about NIP? My mom. "Do you want to go to the car?" "Do you want a blanket to cover up with?" No, mahm, geez. Stahp.

jennlin · May 2014

I nip everywhere, have never had an issue. I made someone uncomfortable on the airplane, but he was adult enough to just look te other way and didn't say anything.

My family is my biggest opposition. My parents think it's weird and always ask if I have to do it right there...and my FIL said something to me about it, but h fought him back really well and he's never said anything since.

My cousin tells me I need to yell the word boob before I start so he knows to not look at me for a few minutes..

Otherwise, it's no problem. I've been waiting for someone to challenge me.

hartsl01 · May 2014

I've NIP plenty of times but have not ever had anyone say anything. I've had stares and then what I assume are whispers. I will NOT nurse in the bathroom. Nope, nope, nope. I do use a cover just because I'm more comfortable with it and DS doesn't mind.

We were at the zoo on Sunday and they have an amazing nursing mother's area. It's a huge room that only mothers and children are allowed into. It's got 3 separate 'stall' like rooms that have a curtain you can close with a recliner, foot rest and side table. It's also got a toy table for older kids with several recliner's around it so mother's can watch older children. Plus changing stations with a sink for hand washing and whatever else. It was fantastic!

Lee81 · May 2014

sleepy33 said:
The best place ever to nurse if you are out is in the nursing room at Buy Buy Baby. That shiz has recliners, couches, soft lighting, a sound machine, a changing table, ottomans. It is like heaven on Earth.

Babies R Us has the same type of setup which makes it that much more surprising that Toys R Us does not.

elllaf · May 2014

I'm confused. At the end of the article it says the law doesn't protect them from harassment (true) and refusal of service in public.
I thought federal law stated that as long as you have a right to be in that place you have the right to nurse there...?

I pulled a bean bag off a shelf in Target and sat in the middle of the aisle and nursed LO last week.
#babyhasgottoeat
#itwasquitecomfortable

jeneshields · May 2014

I'm somewhat on the flip side. I've actually had people tell me that I should not be ashamed to cover up or nurse in a public restroom. But I choose to.

We were at a zoo/museum with DH middle school class for a field trip. I chose to use the bathroom instead of attempting to walk around and nurse under a cover. Plus push the stroller. I was in the last stall but had the door open so I could watch my stuff in the stroller; but you couldn't see me unless you tried to use that stall. Well a girl in her 30s tried and I ended up getting a lecture from her that I shouldn't be in the bathroom and should be proud to NIP.

Even after I told her I chose to she continued on and would not let up. LO finally got too distracted so we left. I appreciate that everyone wants to stand up for this issue but I choose to use a cover or use the restroom.

However I consider myself lucky that LO has gotten used to the cover and that I can nurse him standing so I'm not sitting on the toilet seat.

blueeyedrose86 · May 2014

I only cover up in front of my male in-laws, but then it's only a half assed attempt because DD hates it. I'll NIP all day son!

sweettooth87 · May 2014

Yup - I was asked to cover at my daycare on base (it's GOVERNMENT RUN btw!). Anyway, I obvs said no and that it was illegal to request me to. They asked again the next day and I went to the boss lady. All is well now. I NIP w/o a cover pretty much everywhere. I'm descrete about it and you can't see anything. I wear a nursing top under all of my shirts so that my nursing top covers my other boob and my stomach and the extra top covers the top portion of my boob that LO is feeding off of.

CateOfChicago · May 2014

I guess this is either my uo or fffc. I'm uncomfortable around people who nip. Not my close fam or friends but for sure around those I wouldn't share a dressing room with. I deft think everyone should wear a cover when with others and particularly men (except DH). I bf for 4 months, until my sucky boobs failed. I always excused myself. I'm a little conservative though. I know it is my fault for being uncomfortable.

jennlin · May 2014

CateOfChicago said:
I guess this is either my uo or fffc. I'm uncomfortable around people who nip. Not my close fam or friends but for sure around those I wouldn't share a dressing room with. I deft think everyone should wear a cover when with others and particularly men (except DH). I bf for 4 months, until my sucky boobs failed. I always excused myself. I'm a little conservative though. I know it is my fault for being uncomfortable.

Particularly around men? I'm sorry, but I can't get on board with this. If you had just said everyone, it wouldn't bother me as much...you're conservative, that's fine. But why can't men learn to either look away if it bothers them, or better yet, respect the woman's body enough to not be a walking hornball that can't separate boobs as sex objects? It's the unwanted "sex appeal" that makes people so uncomfortable.

psychdoc12 · May 2014

I love NIP and hate covers. Baby's head covers most of the boob anyway. Never heard anything from anyone and would laugh in their face if I did. Don't like it? You leave.

Weljadraak · May 2014

Ooooo the infamous breastfeeding = sex debate. There is something so wrong with you if you get those wires crossed. Also hilarious because of how porn - ified our society is.

CateOfChicago · May 2014

Hey hey now. I never said anything about it being sexual. I said I'm uncomfortable not turned on. I would do it if I didn't have a choice (like on a plane). I would never ask someone not to do it and I don't leave the room when people do it. I'm just a little uncomfortable, as I would be if a man had his pants undone. As I said, I know it is my own discomfort. I'm probably a little jealous that bf didn't work out for me and am angry at all boobs in the world.

kelle017 · May 2014

I've nursed uncovered in front of my parents siblings and in laws except my FIL. He'd be fine with it, but I just don't want to. I go into another room.
I've nursed in restaurants covered and my car uncovered.
I haven't figured out how to nurse without showing boob- babies head does not cover them. If I could I would do it.

kellyk17 · May 2014

I NIP w/and w/out a cover in New York, Austin, Dallas and DC. The only place someone gave me a weird look was DC. They looked like a tourist so who knows where they were really from.

I was so surprised and happy how easy it was and how cool people were about it. We had a big friend mother's day picnic Sunday and I realized later one of the pics i posted to FB has my good friend nursing her 6 wk old. Not one person commented about it, but my friends circle is pretty cool about it/liberal.

calibr8te · May 2014

I love NIP. At my library classes there is always a row of women nursing uncovered. I will often take it outside even in my own home because it is just too nice out right now. If I am going to cover up, I only do it to help keep E focused on the task at hand.. he is deft a distracted eater when out and about. And I will use an A&A blanket as a shield when sitting on my balcony just to be polite to my retired neighbours that are always outside as well.

Lee81 · May 2014

CateOfChicago said:
I guess this is either my uo or fffc. I'm uncomfortable around people who nip. Not my close fam or friends but for sure around those I wouldn't share a dressing room with. I deft think everyone should wear a cover when with others and particularly men (except DH). I bf for 4 months, until my sucky boobs failed. I always excused myself. I'm a little conservative though. I know it is my fault for being uncomfortable.

I don't have a problem with someone being uncomfortable with nip. Discomfort is an automatic response that we have limited control over. I'm sure there are things that make me uncomfortable that seem silly to others but I just can't help it.
I do have an issue with thinking everyone should wear a cover. No one else should have to be made uncomfortable so that you don't have to be. I'm going to hope you meant something more like you wish everyone chose to wear a cover. I also wish everyone chose to do the things I want them to do

LC122 · May 2014

@CateOfChicago‌, try again. I think you need a better analogy than "a man with his pants undone". Do you really want to compare nipples to penises?

sleepy33 · May 2014

Lee81 said:

I guess this is either my uo or fffc. I'm uncomfortable around people who nip. Not my close fam or friends but for sure around those I wouldn't share a dressing room with. I deft think everyone should wear a cover when with others and particularly men (except DH). I bf for 4 months, until my sucky boobs failed. I always excused myself. I'm a little conservative though. I know it is my fault for being uncomfortable.
I don't have a problem with someone being uncomfortable with nip. Discomfort is an automatic response that we have limited control over. I'm sure there are things that make me uncomfortable that seem silly to others but I just can't help it. I do have an issue with thinking everyone should wear a cover. No one else should have to be made uncomfortable so that you don't have to be. I'm going to hope you meant something more like you wish everyone chose to wear a cover. I also wish everyone chose to do the things I want them to do

Well put.

tashad18 · May 2014

I don't breastfeed, but I have no problem with people who do so in public. I think it is a very brave thing to do considering all of the negativity that people throw at women who NIP. I don't care if you wear a cover or not. It doesn't make me uncomfortable.

I've been uncomfortable by a woman who was NIP 1 time and that was because I had my DS1 with me (4 at the time), and we were in the store, and she literally pulled her boob out before getting LO out of the stroller and had her boob hanging there for about 1 minute while she talked to her friend and got the kid out.

tpeale · May 2014

I work in a pediatric ER and you would not believe how many nurses and doctors who talk crap about women who "just whip their boob out". I live in NC and Nip is not the norm. Even DH wants me to cover up, but LO has other plans! He hates being covered up.

CateOfChicago · May 2014

@lc122. You try again. I never said a man showing his penis. I said pants undone. As in, I just had a big meal and need to unbutton my pants. Unless this was someone I am very close with, I would feel uncomfortable.

LC122 · May 2014

CateOfChicago said:
@lc122. You try again. I never said a man showing his penis. I said pants undone. As in, I just had a big meal and need to unbutton my pants. Unless this was someone I am very close with, I would feel uncomfortable.

Yeah, that would be weird. Who does that? But it doesn't have to be unique to men in the way breastfeeding is unique to women. And is it about exposure or not? Someone could undo their pants without exposing anything. Women can breastfeed with varying degrees of exposure. So is it the exposure or the act itself? What about it makes you uncomfortable?

I just think it's a weak analogy. I'm not sure there is a strong one, apples to oranges, ya know?

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