TTC Baby Girl

missxo143 · May 2014

Hello Ladies!

I am currently a mommy to three handsome boys, my DH and I are going to try for a baby within the next 6 months and would like to try and sway our chances for a baby girl, yes we know that the baby can and will be either a boy or girl! and will be just as happy for either but are praying for a healthy baby and hoping for a girl!

I just removed my mirena BTW on Saturday, & just got my first period since August Yesterday.

I have read the Shettles book, and I know someone who actually followed the book to a T and concived a girl..

Has anyone tried it and been successful?? Also what else have you tried ? Vitamins, Food, timing? Ovulation kits?

Please no negativity! Just a mom here trying to help our chances of a little girl

TIA

colacrock · May 2014

I suggest going to https://www.in-gender.com/ It's a website all about swaying methods and has a message board to talk to other women to see what they have done or are doing for swaying. I looked through the message boards a few times but it wasn't my style.

You probably won't get a lot of advice from these boards, since we are all pretty much just happy that we are having a baby at all. Good luck.

golfingdarwinfish · May 2014

"I have read the Shettles book, and I know someone who actually followed the book to a T and concived a girl.."

Please do not assume they concEived a girl because they used Shettles. Also, please do not ask for no negativity, it is basically a guarantee you will get more of it, and rightfully so.

lovesazzie · May 2014

There are websites with specific forums for this, I suggest you google one of those.

larbeadles · May 2014

I don't think this board is gonna take kindly to this post...just a warning...I'd move it somewhere else

And honestly...yeah...I don't think science supports any of those methods. Nature dictated these odds a long time ago...50/50.

portentosa · May 2014

Kimbus22 said:
Sex. Sex usually works. Of course, sex got me a boy first and then a girl. So....crapshoot.

OMG! Same here!!! What are the odds??

OP. I didn't even know there were websites dedicated to trying to influence which sex you conceive, but since there are I suggest you go find one of them.

TeeJ526 · May 2014

I'd be surprised if OP comes back. She also posted this TTGP and it's got 6 pages already.

golfingdarwinfish · May 2014

Nicb13 said:

MrsMuq said:

OP, I think you're bat shit crazy. (I'd love to say what I actually think but it would probably get me banned.)

I also don't think you really deserve another baby if all you care about is whether LO will have a penis or vagina.

Do you know how many women here have been trying for years to have a baby, how many of the women here have suffered loss (or multiple losses), and the ones who have embarked on either IVF or adoption battles? So many women here would pray just to have one, ONE - healthy, sticky baby, and you're prattling on and on about how you have 3 boys and now you want another one, but only if it's a girl. And oh, let me not forget, no negative responses. ::insert huge eye roll::

Well holy shit.

I know this meme is incredibly overused, but it's so damn appropriate.

allrightmeow · May 2014

Don't listen to these hormonal haters OP. Allow me to share with you the method my DH and I used that worked for us. Buy a high powered microscope and a pair of teeny tiny tweezers and simply pick out the blue sperm. This can be tedious because those suckers are fast but, be diligent OP. Remember to swish the dish around from time to time as I found the stray blue one will hide behind a cluster of pink ones. Please please remember to gasp them by the tails and not the heads!

Trust me OP. I won my fourth grade science fair!

Girl or boy I hope you have a healthy baby. There is nothing you can do to get one sex over another. #TeamGreen

allrightmeow · May 2014

LMAO. Oh OP, You do know that many of the ladies in TTGP don't give two craps about what sex their potential baby will be, right? They literally just want A baby.

::Grabs popcorn goes to lurk in TTGP::

Ceridwen21 · May 2014

Douche with pink lemonade.

BABY DUST 4 U!!!!

dr_pr · May 2014

TeeJ526 said:

I'd be surprised if OP comes back. She also posted this TTGP and it's got 6 pages already.

My first thought was "at least she posted here and not TTGP," but then I lurked and realized she posted it there too. All I took away from TTGP was how much I want some ice cream right now.

Meery82 · May 2014

I've got to agree with MrsMuq on this one. It's one thing if someone has a 4th (or however many) child because they want a 4th child, regardless of the sex, but when someone keeps popping out babies until they get the preferred genitalia, I find that absolutely disgusting. What does that say to the previous children? You didn't have a penis/vagina and therefore weren't good enough, so I had to keep making more kids until I got it right. Ugh. These are children, not accessories. Maybe a unpopular opinion, but had to say it.

@nicb13, your situation is not the same thing. You had another child because you wanted a second child, not because you only wanted a little girl and decided to have more only because you got a boy.

FrodaBaggins · May 2014

The thing is that there's no way to prove that your friend following the Shettles method perfectly had *anything* to do with the sex of their baby. There is no way to prove that ANYTHING ANYONE does can affect that. My mother told me when we were TTC that male sperm swim faster, but female sperm "last longer." If anyone can point to a peer reviewed, established scientific study where this has been proven beyond a shadow of a doubt, maybe then I would believe that having sex a few days before you O will be more likely to produce a girl. But until then, no one's going to be able to give you any tips or tricks that will be something you can bank on. Try Shettles if you want and do your own little scientific experiment! After all, his research was based 100% on anecdotes!

portentosa · May 2014

I agree with @Meery82 Having more kids just to 'keep trying for a different sex' doesn't send a good message to the other kids. One of my bosses is expecting his third kid soon....his third girl. He told me today that he's "so jealous" of me for getting one of each all ready. I'm sure it's just polite small talk and I know he loves his kids.....but it was kind of a weird thing to say.

I already get weird looks from some people when I mention wanting one or two more. I've been told that I "don't need more because I already have one of each". Uh....ok?

Meery82 · May 2014

MrsMuq said:

Meery82 said:

I've got to agree with MrsMuq on this one. It's one thing if someone has a 4th (or however many) child because they want a 4th child, regardless of the sex, but when someone keeps popping out babies until they get the preferred genitalia, I find that absolutely disgusting. What does that say to the previous children? You didn't have a penis/vagina and therefore weren't good enough, so I had to keep making more kids until I got it right. Ugh. These are children, not accessories. Maybe a unpopular opinion, but had to say it.

@nicb13, your situation is not the same thing. You had another child because you wanted a second child, not because you only wanted a little girl and decided to have more only because you got a boy.

My aunt and uncle did this. They had 5 girls before they had a boy. Their 3 oldest girls have heard for years they weren't good enough because they weren't boys. All 3 are in intensive therapy.

How sad.

WashingtonQueen · May 2014

Meery82 said:
but when someone keeps popping out babies until they get the preferred genitalia, I find that absolutely disgusting. What does that say to the previous children? You didn't have a penis/vagina and therefore weren't good enough, so I had to keep making more kids until I got it right. Ugh. These are children, not accessories. Maybe a unpopular opinion, but had to say it.

I guess I'm missing the part where she said this. Or is there some magical number of kids you can have?

Meery82 · May 2014

WashingtonQueen said:

but when someone keeps popping out babies until they get the preferred genitalia, I find that absolutely disgusting. What does that say to the previous children? You didn't have a penis/vagina and therefore weren't good enough, so I had to keep making more kids until I got it right. Ugh. These are children, not accessories. Maybe a unpopular opinion, but had to say it.

I guess I'm missing the part where she said this. Or is there some magical number of kids you can have?

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Well, I got off on a tangent there. Maybe OP feels that way, maybe she doesn't. And I don't care how many children people have (except for the Duggars; I think they're gross), as long as it isn't for sex selection.

MrsAdventure · May 2014

I had these friends a few years back (who moved and I lost touch with) who had seven boys, yep 7 boys. At the time, the eldest was 7 or 8 and the mom was pregnant with, you guessed it, another boy. They were extremely open about their plans to keep trying until they had a girl. Last I heard, they were pregnant again, though I never did find out if it was a boy or girl.

Now, they were very sweet people, but I seriously eye-rolled them for the 'a girl at any cost' approach. I kinda figure at some point you have to think, 'gees, it's just not gonna happen' cut your losses and adopt a nice little girl Chihuahua that you can dress up in all manner of repulsive cuteness. I mean 8 boys, ranging in ages from 0 to 9 sounds like punishment to me.

I witnessed a fight more than once between the boys, it was like something out of a cartoon, where they were all rolling around on top of each other, limbs flying every where, couldn't tell where one kid ended and the other began. Dad reached and and started grabbing kids and hauling them out of the pile. Everyone came out with scratches and bite marks, bleeding everywhere. I realize that a lot of that is parenting, but I feel like it's also boys being boys to some degree. I just don't get how having that much chaos just to have a girl could ever be worth it! Enjoy the kids you have, they are not collectors items!

allrightmeow · May 2014

trombgirl said:

I agree with @Meery82 Having more kids just to 'keep trying for a different sex' doesn't send a good message to the other kids. One of my bosses is expecting his third kid soon....his third girl. He told me today that he's "so jealous" of me for getting one of each all ready. I'm sure it's just polite small talk and I know he loves his kids.....but it was kind of a weird thing to say.

I already get weird looks from some people when I mention wanting one or two more. I've been told that I "don't need more because I already have one of each". Uh....ok?

We have a DD and decided to go team green with this one. We constantly hear "I hope it's a boy this time so you can have one of each" from family. I grew up with all sisters so a house full of girls is ok with me. Even my nephew who is 8 has started saying "I hope its a boy so Im not the only boy in the family anymore". I feel like that comes from hearing family members make comments.

spinsemeyer · May 2014

We only had sex 2-3 days before ovulation instead of day before/day of - and we conceived a boy. We didn't try anything further than that because really all we wanted was a healthy baby, and if we hadn't conceived in our 3rd month of trying we would have started trying closer to ovulation. But yeah, didn't work for us. Which is of course FINE!

spinsemeyer · May 2014

Guys, the OP did say that she realizes the baby could still come out either flavor, and she just wants a healthy baby really. Is it so wrong to have a small hope that it's one sex or the other? I mean, I hope the baby has my husband's full head of hair and my family's green eyes, but if he doesn't, that doesn't mean I won't love him or will keep trying and trying until I get the baby I dreamed of!

Yeah, it's obviously insensitive to post this on TTGP, absolutely the wrong place and I won't defend the OP over there. But on this board, people get to complain about all kinds of shit that people with fertility struggles dream of even experiencing.

Mizoo · May 2014

Nicb13 said:

Meery82 said:

I've got to agree with MrsMuq on this one. It's one thing if someone has a 4th (or however many) child because they want a 4th child, regardless of the sex, but when someone keeps popping out babies until they get the preferred genitalia, I find that absolutely disgusting. What does that say to the previous children? You didn't have a penis/vagina and therefore weren't good enough, so I had to keep making more kids until I got it right. Ugh. These are children, not accessories. Maybe a unpopular opinion, but had to say it.

@nicb13, your situation is not the same thing. You had another child because you wanted a second child, not because you only wanted a little girl and decided to have more only because you got a boy.

Ok I get the bolded but how do you know that's what OP is doing? I just think people are ganging up on her for no reason. They are trying for a 4th child and hope it's HEALTHY but would like a girl. What is so wrong with that? When I was trying to get pregnant, I hoped I would have a girl too. Are my priorities fucked up? Nope.
My nieces mom did this. She kept having kids (4 girls) until she finally popped out a boy. None of which she could afford or cared to be a parent to. It was all intentional. I don't get that from this person at all. I don't see what you all are perceiving her intentions to be.
ETA: I just saw that you admitted to going off on a tangent. Ok, makes sense. People in general that do what you are saying are assholes. I agree.

I agree with this, I don't get the "girl-at-all-costs" impression from OP either. Hell, this is our first pregnancy and we had a sex preference. Of course the desire for a healthy baby of either sex trumped everything else, but we did both hope for a boy. Turns out we are having a girl. It doesn't mean I love her any less than I would have loved a boy, and I couldn't be more excited to be having a healthy little girl. :-)

WashingtonQueen · May 2014

With 3 boys in the house I was hoping for a girl too. Does that make me a bad person? No. Would I have loved a boy any less? Fuck no! Boys are awesome!

People ask me if we are done now since we "got our girl". Nope! We have decided on 2 more. Then people ask if we are trying to even it up, 3 boys and 3 girls. Nope! Actually, in a perfect world I would have 1 more girl and :::GASP::: 1 more boy. 4 boys and 2 girls sounds like my dream family. I know that we could get 2 more boys or 2 more girls and that's perfectly fine too. We want 2 more children either way.

WashingtonQueen · May 2014

And I also don't think it's the end of the world if someone tries to sway. As long as they don't get upset if the results are not what they were hoping for, it's not a big deal. May it take longer to get pregnant? Maybe, but that's their choice to make and does not effect anyone else and their fertility.

chardonnay24 · May 2014

For my first, we went out and celebrated my sister's 21st birthday, had drunk sex, and didn't use protection, and conceived a boy.

For my second, we went out and celebrated my husband's promotion, had drunk sex using a condom and spermicidal lube, and conceived a girl.

Good luck!

greeneyed_bride · May 2014

Natalie78WW said:

trombgirl said:

I agree with @Meery82 Having more kids just to 'keep trying for a different sex' doesn't send a good message to the other kids. One of my bosses is expecting his third kid soon....his third girl. He told me today that he's "so jealous" of me for getting one of each all ready. I'm sure it's just polite small talk and I know he loves his kids.....but it was kind of a weird thing to say.

I already get weird looks from some people when I mention wanting one or two more. I've been told that I "don't need more because I already have one of each". Uh....ok?

We have a DD and decided to go team green with this one. We constantly hear "I hope it's a boy this time so you can have one of each" from family. I grew up with all sisters so a house full of girls is ok with me. Even my nephew who is 8 has started saying "I hope its a boy so Im not the only boy in the family anymore". I feel like that comes from hearing family members make comments.

This happens to us, and it really bugs me. DH and I have known since before we got married that we only want two kids. We've been team green both times, and LO #1 is a boy. So this time around, everyone - including people I don't even know very well - keeps saying things like "Oh, I know what you're hoping for this time. I hope you get your little girl!" I hate that if I have another boy, there will be some people who will think I'm a little disappointed by my newborn son.

I don't think there's anything wrong with someone hoping for one sex over the other, but I do think it's odd when people broadcast that they really want the opposite of what they already have to every person they know in real life (like in some of the stories PPs have shared.) It just feels too much like saying, "these other kids I have just weren't what I wanted." I have a friend who has two boys and she and her husband wanted one more child (regardless of sex.) She actually posted on Facebook a week before their anatomy scan for their third to say something like, "We love our two little boys so much and would be absolutely thrilled with a third boy. It would also be a fun adventure to have a little girl, but we aren't hoping for a girl over a boy. Please don't feel like we need your condolences if we find out we're having a third boy." (But she worded it less weirdly than that.) I thought it was a sweet thing to say, but I also thought it was sad that she felt like she had to say it at all.

YTLCNURSE · May 2014

Are you serious? There's a 50/50 chance of either a girl or a boy. Just because you know someone who followed the book to the tee and it was successful for them, I guarantee you it was just mere coincidence. If you are really dead set on having a girl, then just keep trying until you get one.

shindylahoe · May 2014

Check out the Chinese gender chart and ttc when it predicts girl. The Chinese gender chart has been right about the gender of my baby all 3 times!

shindylahoe · May 2014

WashingtonQueen said:
With 3 boys in the house I was hoping for a girl too. Does that make me a bad person? No. Would I have loved a boy any less? Fuck no! Boys are awesome!

People ask me if we are done now since we "got our girl". Nope! We have decided on 2 more. Then people ask if we are trying to even it up, 3 boys and 3 girls. Nope! Actually, in a perfect world I would have 1 more girl and :::GASP::: 1 more boy. 4 boys and 2 girls sounds like my dream family. I know that we could get 2 more boys or 2 more girls and that's perfectly fine too. We want 2 more children either way.

This is my 4th (2 girls 1 boy) and people keep saying that I should have a boy to even the score. I honestly would have chosen to have all girls if I had a choice. That doesn't mean I don't love my son it's just that everyone's idea of family is different!

peanutbuttervibes · May 2014

shindylahoe said:
Check out the Chinese gender chart and ttc when it predicts girl. The Chinese gender chart has been right about the gender of my baby all 3 times!

Lol

Meery82 · May 2014

WashingtonQueen said:

With 3 boys in the house I was hoping for a girl too. Does that make me a bad person? No. Would I have loved a boy any less? Fuck no! Boys are awesome!

People ask me if we are done now since we "got our girl". Nope! We have decided on 2 more. Then people ask if we are trying to even it up, 3 boys and 3 girls. Nope! Actually, in a perfect world I would have 1 more girl and :::GASP::: 1 more boy. 4 boys and 2 girls sounds like my dream family. I know that we could get 2 more boys or 2 more girls and that's perfectly fine too. We want 2 more children either way.

Ok, I'll admit I wasn't clear in my rant: I don't know if OP is one of THOSE people and I wasn't necessarily saying that she is. I also think @nicb13 and @washingtonqueen misinterpreted what I was saying. I don't think it's wrong to have a preference or maybe try to "sway" things in the direction of a certain sex. It's when people keep having babies they had no original intention of having just to get the desired sex. And I don't think either of you fall into that category. Sorry for the confusion, ladies.

melaniedel · May 2014

I do not know if it was a coincidence, but DH and I were only together five days before O day (I was temping so im certain, but did not have my first period after mirena yet so didn't now that -only had it in a couple months). My boys were conceived close or on O day, because I temped and knew when to expect O. Good luck! Definitely worth a shot IMO.

spinsemeyer · May 2014

Nicb13 said:

spinsemeyer said:

Guys, the OP did say that she realizes the baby could still come out either flavor, and she just wants a healthy baby really. Is it so wrong to have a small hope that it's one sex or the other? I mean, I hope the baby has my husband's full head of hair and my family's green eyes, but if he doesn't, that doesn't mean I won't love him or will keep trying and trying until I get the baby I dreamed of!

Yeah, it's obviously insensitive to post this on TTGP, absolutely the wrong place and I won't defend the OP over there. But on this board, people get to complain about all kinds of shit that people with fertility struggles dream of even experiencing.

I was agreeing with you until this. WTF?? This board isn't just for people that are currently pregnant you know. You still need to be mindful of your audience or be ready to accept the shit storm you will start.

Of course anyone can read this board and it's important to be mindful. But we also don't need to respond to every complaint of "the baby's foot is in my ribs, I'm peeing 10 times a night, I'm barfing all the time" with "At least you're having a healthy baby!" This board (I'm talking about 2nd tri, not stuff like boards for people having trouble conceiving etc) is for all kinds of people with all kinds of experiences, and I don't think there's anything so terrible about saying "I'd like a girl, though I'd also love a son."

mamatobe1235 · May 2014

Kimbus22 said:

shindylahoe said:

Check out the Chinese gender chart and ttc when it predicts girl. The Chinese gender chart has been right about the gender of my baby all 3 times!

Or not. It was wrong about both of mine.

Wrong for me too.

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