Sex question (tmi)

charlyp86 · May 2014

So I'm 6 weeks pp (check up isn't until next week though), and dh and I tried to have sex a couple days ago and as soon as he tried to uh "enter" it really hurt like the skin around the opening was being stretched. I had minor tears on the inside but could feel some stitches pretty close to the opening and I'm pretty sure they've dissolved but it's like the skin there is tighter because of it making the opening smaller I guess.

My question is if others have experienced this and if so, how long did it take for it to sort of loosen up again down there so it didn't hurt during sex?

strawberrytree · May 2014

A couple weeks/months iirc? I do remember lots of lube was used at first. (this was with my first...haven't braved it yet this time!) Lube will be your best friend.

Erikahenderson1 · May 2014

It hurt sooo bad, like an Indian burn or paper cut where I got stitches. But that same experience we found a position where he was barely rubbing down (if that makes sense) and it was amazing. Can't wait for it to be normal again though.

momofmanyinthemitten · May 2014

Definitely try lots of lube. DS's nurse practitioner had this problem, but it never resolved on its own. She had to have reconstructive surgery.

janice9821 · May 2014

I had the same stretching sensation. My doctor recommended massaging the sore spots. I was like, "Massage the inside of my vagina?" Really?" but DH was more than willing to help with that because he can't enjoy sex if I'm not enjoying it. And it did help.

Emztron500 · May 2014

My midwife recommended aggressively massaging the area with castor oil to break up the scar tissue, but said not to do it until 8 weeks. Maybe try gentle stretching with fingers/lube before going for it?

chichi589 · May 2014

I hated the feeling we tried a few times for us to be able to. Finally shower sex was it that we could actually have sex probably because I was more relaxed.I feel like before the shower I was just waiting for it to hurt and would tense up the shower helped relax me.