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Worried for nothing?

RahturcRahturc member
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I had a miscarriage last year which was one of the worst experiences of my life. Now I'm 12 weeks and feeling all the symptoms (nausea, emotional, tender etc). Had our first amazing ultrasound and everything seems to be going well but I can't seem to stop worrying about getting too attached to the idea of having a baby, what if this one doesn't stick. Also, I'm struggling with a UTI that won't go away, afraid that this May harm the baby. Anyone else feel this way?
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Re: Worried for nothing?

  • E&B0811E&B0811 member
    ABSOLUTELY!!! I worry all. the. time. I have had 3 losses, one of which came last summer as a mmc dx at 9w6d after we saw a healthy hb @7w2d. It was, as you describe, the worst experience of my life.

    I am now 9w5d, am nauseous on and off, tired and have sore bbs. Like you we have had great ultrasounds. But my nausea is not as bad and bbs are not as sore as I would like. YKWIM? This morning I dry heaved in the shower and on the way to work and am convinced that it isn't Vigorous Baby, but instead is just my subconscious willing me to feel sick so I feel better. Side note - el shrinko is gonna love this! ;) Our next u/s is next Friday - practically an eternity away if you ask me. In the meantime I am trying to distract myself and repeat over and over, my baby is good, I am ok, the odds are in our favor, it will be good, today I am pregnant and I love my baby. Also, lots of deep breathing when it gets to be too much.

    I am so sorry you are feeling anxious and worried. Being PgAL is an awesome thing but it is also so scary and devoid of the blissful ignorance and excitement that (apparently) comes along with a pregnancy without an experience of loss. (((hugs)))

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    BFP 5/19/2013. MC 7/2/2013 (9w6d) with est. loss at 8w. Miso 7/3/2013 and emergency D & C 7/6/2013.

    BFP#2 11/6/2013.  CP 11/14/2013.  

    BFP #3 12/13/2013.  Beta #1 @ 15dpo- 239. Progesterone 27.  Beta #2 @17dpo - 90.  CP 12/21/2013

    Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  -Philippians 4:6-7

    All PgAL and PAL welcome.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    Yes, it is completely normal and even expected that you should feel this way. Being PGAL, I think we all have felt or still feel this way! It took several early ultrasounds and doppler heartbeat checks for me to start gaining confidence in this pregnancy. I think it was after last week's doppler appointment, when I was 15w3d and heard that strong, beautiful heartbeat again, that I finally let myself relax and start to get really excited about everything. You'll get there too as you continue to receive good news at your appointments. Hang in there! ((hugs))
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  • RayRay007RayRay007 member
    I'm hoping that after our 12 week appointment I might be able to let myself count on these babies coming home, but it may take a while yet and I think that is totally normal. 

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    bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!

    beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!

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