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Baby Brunch / Shower Questions

dawnangela79dawnangela79 member
edited May 2014 in August 2014 Moms
I am not really into Baby Shower's. I've been to so many in my life and they are all the same boring thing. I have an awesome friend who offered right away to plan a very small gathering of my closest friends and keep it simple and somewhat sophisticated, no games!! We decided to have a Baby Brunch at a very nice beach restaurant in our area. No games, no crazy decorations, just a nice Sunday brunch with cocktails and mocktails and fun girl talk. As a perk of my profession, I am able to entertain at this location for free, with the expectation that I always leave a generous gratuity. I would like to pass this along to my guests, and cover the cost of their brunch (including drinks) but would also like to request that each guest leave their own gratuity. That's the main idea....we had planned to put this on the invite "The brunch is compliments of Mommy-To-Be, but requests you provide your own gratuity" My question is, is that tacky? Or should I not mention anything about covering the cost of brunch and then just 'surprise' everyone at the end of the meal and ask then that they leave their gratuity? The restaurant is somewhat upscale, and although I don't think any of my friends would not come because of the cost of breakfast, I also wouldn't want them to be concerned over it? What do you think?


** Thanks for the feedback Ladies! I'll plan to make sure everything is covered, including gratuity!! Do I need to put that on the invite? "Brunch is compliments of Mommy To Be" or is it assumed??
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Re: Baby Brunch / Shower Questions

  • shevaCCshevaCC member
    The showers that I've been to at restaurants have all been paid for by the host, so that would be my expectation coming in. But maybe it's a regional thing? If they're expected to pay for the gratuity then I'd put it on the invite so there's no confusion. Otherwise I'd just pay it unless the hostess offers to. Depending on what you mean by a "very small" gathering, 10 people x $20/person would leave you with a $40 gratuity (20%) which would be less than the hostess would otherwise have had to spend on food/drinks for the occasion.
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  • IvyMagic828IvyMagic828 member
    Yeah, I would have to agree that it would be tacky to expect guests to pay for any part of the meal.  I've never seen that done before and I think it would put people off.  Usually the host/hostess covers the cost, so if your friend isn't going to do it, I guess it would be up to you. 
     
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  • ValancyyValancyy member

    I agree with the pp's.  If I was invited to something like this I would assume the meal would be paid for, and I would bring a gift.  Is there an expectation of gifts?

    I have to add that I read this as "Brady Bunch" at first.

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  • Allison7Allison7 member
    I have to agree with everyone - I have never attended a shower big or intimate where I was expected to pay anything. They will bring gifts and the host provides a meal, including gratuity. 

    If your friend offered to host, then *technically* she should pay the gratuity. It will be much less than if she had to pay everyone's meals. If your friend is not in a financial position to do that, then you should cover it. They will spend way more on gifts than you will spend on their gratuity. 


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  • kiley820kiley820 member
    Yeah, I don't think either is a great option. If it is an expense issue, maybe have a smaller gathering? I wouldn't be too thrilled if I was invited to a shower and had to leave the gratuity for the meal, on top of bringing a gift. Also, like PP said, if this is your plan….DEFINITELY let them know rather than springing that on them when they arrive. I'm sure it won't be a deal breaker but it would be nice to know so they can plan ahead. Most people (or at least me) don't carry cash on them and I can imagine everyone trying to leave a separate tip on a CC. Don't think that would go over well. 
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  • dawnangela79dawnangela79 member
    Thanks for the feedback ladies! I'll plan to make sure everything is covered! Our August 2014 Moms are the best!!
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