Am I overreacting?

aylafsu88 · May 2014

We spent the weekend having lunch/spending time with the IL's. For the most part I try to be laid back and just go with the flow when we spend time with them. This time though I almost lost it. We had lunch at a restaurant and the kids were getting antsy so they walked to the front to sit on the benches. It was slow at the restaurant and I could mostly see them from our table. After a bit I don't really see them or hear them up front so I tell the everyone that I am going to go check on them. My SIL then tells me that one of her kids had asked if they could go outside and she told them they could play/walk on the front of the sidewalk. My eyes about buldged out of my head and I told her I did not think that was a good idea for safety reasons. She looks at me, rolls her eyes, and tells me to calm down. I get up from the table and rush outside. I mean who lets a 7, 9 year old and LO play outside in a parking lot? All I could think about was LO running away trying to play tag and getting hit by a car or someone snatching one of the kids. I was pissed the rest of the lunch. When we get home I ask H about it and all he does is shrug about the situation like it is no big deal. This whole laid back reaction ticked me off even more but is now making me wonder if I am overreacting about the whole situation. What does J12 think, would you be comfortable with your kid in a parking lot?

aylafsu88 · May 2014

Thanks ladies. I was amazed at the whole laid back attitude everyone gave me and pissed about the entire situation. My SIL always says comments about being a FTM and being uptight but to me that is not being uptight at all. My kids safety is something that I won't ever relax about.

ThePinkSuperhero · May 2014

A 7 and 9 year old, maybe, if the sidewalk area was big enough. A toddler? No way, no way, no way.

reinedecajun · May 2014

ThePinkSuperhero said:
A 7 and 9 year old, maybe, if the sidewalk area was big enough. A toddler? No way, no way, no way.

This! I'd be pissed!

snickersforeveryone · May 2014

I'd be seeing red. Totally inappropriate for her to make decisions for your kid, for two kids under 10 to be expected to keep a toddler safe, to allow kids to play unattended in a parking lot, and then to act like YOU were the wrong one. She should have apologized at the very least. I don't care if someone is the most uptight parent in the world...you do not act like you think they are in the wrong when it comes to their child's safety.

And your husband should have backed you up!

Ugh, I'm riled up for you.

tiredmomsclub · May 2014

Nope not ok. The situation only reflects poorly on your SIL in my opinion.

pinkangelmoon · May 2014

I would absolutely NOT be ok with that.

zyas · May 2014

you are not overreacting at all! There is no way I would let Ava go play in a parking lot! Or on a sidewalk near a parking lot. No friggin way!!! My H is even more protective than I am so he wouldn't even let her out of his sight, let alone let her go outside with other kids. I can't believe your SIL was ok with them going out. Not only could they have gotten hit by a car, but they could have been snatched by a pediphile.

lilahbean13 · May 2014

I would be extremely pissed!! But h would have been also so he would have backed me up. If he didn't he would have def had an ear full

aylafsu88 · May 2014

@Trixie282 and @cbear2010 Yes. This is one of my main issues I had, LO loves to run and dart away. She thinks it is funny and playing tag, but near a parking lot with kids who do not understand that she does not get the concept of "danger" it is very unsafe.
@KSKim I completely agree. I those comments from her drive me nuts. I may be more lack with the second kid but not when it comes to safety. That is something I will never compromise on.

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