alone, single, and sad.. :/

newyoungmom22 · May 2014

Hey ladies! i'm 22 years old and a soon to be single mom. My little princess is due in August.. My ex and I broke up a few months ago and today he PCS'd to Colorado.. I've never felt so alone. He really wasnt the greatest guy.. He lied and cheated constantly.. I knew me daughter and I deserved better which is why I cut things off.. and today after he left.. I just started bawling... im 25 weeks pregnant and I just feel soo alone. I have the support of my parents but I dont live with them and here soon I'll have to get my own place.. Even as Im writing this.. I cant stop crying.. I never thought I would be going through something so special alone. He never wanted the baby to begin with.. Its just really depressing.. I'm excited to meet my princess I just wish I had someone to share and enjoy this experience with...

JBbDixon · May 2014

I am so sorry to hear about the mess you're going through. As much as you know you might be better off without him, it's still so hard to face single motherhood for so many reasons. Do you live in Colorado? I know a woman who is going through something similar to your situation and is starting a project to delve into the challenges of single motherhood and start a community of folks to support single moms. She is hosting an event in Denver: https://www.facebook.com/events/559785697468355/?ref=ts&fref=ts

Your daughter is the light in this gloomy situation. You can do this!!

newyoungmom22 · May 2014

Hey no i'm actually in Texas, I think I would actually feel better about everything if we were actually in the same state..

portentosa · May 2014

I once faced the scary possibility of being a single mom with an unplanned pregnancy. It is scary, overwhelming, and sad to think about, but many women find an amazing well of strength in them and can overcome a lot. You can too! Like PPs said, lean on loved ones and find local resources that can help you out. ((hugs))

Pinkrose1012 · May 2014

Lurking here, even though I can not relate to what you are going through. The single parent board is a great place for you to start. The ladies on that board are really helpful and supportive.

MrsLaLaBug · May 2014

Sounds like you are a strong smart woman and made a positive choice. Even though the positive choices aren't always the easiest, from what you've said, you and baby girl will be better off because of it. That may not bring comfort right now, but I agree with PP about surrounding yourself with family and friends who you can share your special experience with. ((Hugs))

mrsH1112 · May 2014

Hi...

I can only echo the sentiments of what alot of these other ladies said. Its got to be really hard right now emotionally going through a breakup and all the emotions from your pregnancy. Let lots of freinds and family in and really lean on them. Im sure all the positive people in your life want nothing but the best for you and your baby girl.

Once you think you are up for it in the next few months, look into what programs are available to you for financial assistance and legal assistance.

Good luck!

Leysin97 · May 2014

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Although I have no personal experience with this I know it must be difficult. Hopefully you can find a support group. Meetup.com might have some single parent groups in your area. I agree with pp you might try contacting DHS, if anything they might be able to refer you to other organizations/support groups.

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LindsayTrevor · May 2014

The fact that you made the right choice when faced with a tough decision, shows how strong of a person you are! Like others have said, lean on your family as much as you can and other support systems in your community, but you are strong and you will get through this! That baby girl is a blessing and once she is born the love you have for her will allow you to find even more strength within yourself, I promise. Love and hugs to you.

TaneeDec12 · May 2014

I completely understand what you are going through because I was alone during my first pregnancy. My daughter's father was a complete jerk but him being a jerk made me so much stronger. Today I have fiance who she calls daddy and a new baby on the way. So this is just a test one which I believe you will strongly succeed in. Just know that your bundle of joy is your world now not him. You will be a good mommy.

larbeadles · May 2014

My best friend in the entire world went through this at 19 years old, and she made it through! Finished college, is an amazing teacher now, and is also now married with two other beautiful children. Stay strong and you can do anything!!

runningmama22 · May 2014

OP, Another single mom going through a similar thing here - bf broke up with me when I was about 5 weeks. Just after I found out. But a week before he was all "I love you, I'm spending my life with you, this is what I want to name our kids." It's been lonely as heck some days. Family and friends can help a little... a lot actually, I probably don't realize how much they are helping. I cry often too. Him moving away might be a blessing in disguise... at least you don't have to worry about running into him with another woman out and about (I just experienced this on Easter, fun times)... hold your head up. You're doing the best you can and that's what counts - be strong for that little girl, she's your one true love now

Definitely look into resources in the community around you... I'm in the process of doing the same right now.

CallieT05 · May 2014

I really hate to sound like an echo but, you are a strong young woman. You will be empowered with the strength you need to take care of your beautiful baby girl!

emoxymoose · May 2014

If you don't want him to be in her life you can leave as is, but if you don't have a preference either way it sounds like you have some options. You said pcs so I'm going to assume he's military? You need to call his chain of command after he in processes and let them know your situation. Your child is entitled to benefits such as health insurance and half his BAH as support. All pending a paternity test.

runningmama22 · May 2014

Also OP, come to single moms board! The ladies there are very welcoming and have been in similar situations. I posted there yesterday, and am overwhelmed with how strong everyone is. It definitely has helped me feel less alone, and more optimistic I can do this... you can too!

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