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GTKY 5/9 Edition

1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)?

2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day?

3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc.

4. What's one of your pet peeves?

5. What's going on this weekend?

Bonus: We always love a PIP!
Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

It's been a long road to here...
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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Re: GTKY 5/9 Edition

  • 1. I try to stay positive even during hard times and trust that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and all the hard times are just part of the journey.

    2. Only mothers day plans at the moment is that I am working.  Have to talk to the siblings to see if we want to take my mom out for dinner.

    3. Hmm right now I am wishing I knew a quick cure for poison ivy because I def got some while doing yard work the other day.  Something random about me...the majority of my family is from Nebraska and until recently my grandparents owned a 5000 acre buffalo ranch.

    4. Noisy people. 

    5. Saturday is a busy day.  Dropping off our hazardous waste because it occurs on the 2nd Saturday of every month.  Then walking in the March of Dimes.  I am really proud of myself for how much I was able to raise at 1105 and donations are still coming in.  Then rushing to my brothers wedding shower where we are sampling possible foods for the wedding.  Depending on how I feel after that a friend is having a wine tasting/watching the Bruins game party that R and I may end up at. 


    The bump hasn't been uploading my pics at of late :-(

    Me: 30  DP: 30

    TTC#1

    IUI#1 9/26/13 BFN

    IUI#2 10/26/13 BFP beta #1 99 #2 456

    2/20/2014 Brynlee Madeline is taken too soon at 19weeks she was perfect

    IUI#3 6/10/14 BFP beta #1 276 beta #2 722 20w A/S shows we are having a girl

     

     

     

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  • 2brides2brides member
    1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)? Knowing it will always get better. It always does...even if it takes longer than you would like.

    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day? Church, teaching a class at church, lunch, getting the kids' haircut, and cleaning the house/yard in prep for the kids's party next weekend.

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc. I have learned more about football in the past 6m than I have in the preceeding 40y. That is what having a football obsessed son will do to you. :)

    4. What's one of your pet peeves? People who don't do what they say they are going to do.

    5. What's going on this weekend? Kids have their spring concert at school tonight. I am leaving work early to get dinner and then feeding/dressing them and 2 other kids in their class (one mom just had surgery and the other is the music teacher at school.) Questionable soccer game in the AM ( possible rain) and a furious clean of the house and cleaning of the yard (if it isn't raining!) We also need to plan the kids birthday party which we are hosting next weekend. Sun - see above! :)

    tried to upload a pic of the boys, but they are on a blocked site. :(
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    @2brides did you let him/them watch any of the draft last night?  What did they think?

     

    Married to my amazing wife 6/12/10 
    TTC since 6/11
    Unmedicated IUI #1 - 6/28/11 - BFN
    Unmedicated IUI #2 - 7/25/11 - BFN
    Robotic Myomectomy (Fibroid Surgery) - 11/15/11
    Unmedicated IUI #3 - 4/24/12 - BFN 
    Progesterone Supported Leuteal Phase IUI #4 - 6/21/12 - BFP!!
    Baby Boy G Born 3/24/13

    On to #2, are we crazy?
    IUI #1 - 11/28/14 - BFP!  Beta #1 (11DPO) 34, Beta #2 (13DPO) 101, Beta #3 (20DPO) 3043
    Ultrasound at 6w4d shows a single, fluttering heartbeat.  Say hello to Sticky Ricki!

     

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  • 1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)? I have to say that my wife is the one that always keeps me going.  She is one of the most positive people I know.  She has an amazing way of having a good cry if it is needed, and then seeing the positive, recognizing the amazing life we have, and bringing me with her.  I know she probably looks to me for that, too, but I think she is better at it.  It is one of my favorite things about her.  We also have this lucky little cloud that floats over us.  It sounds silly, but it is true: we have had multiple things that have "worked out for us" a day, a week, a month before we needed them to, like we always sneak in the door before it closes, or like the road rises up to meet our journey as we are taking it.  Sometimes maybe we go on a little different journey than we thought, but we feel so, amazingly lucky. 

    Thanks for asking this question today, @2MamazinSeattle.  I needed to remember that feeling. :)

    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day? We are going camping with our rad church, accompanied by DW's mom and her friend.  It should be freaking spectacular.  We are renting a big car to haul us all, and then sharing a cabin with our friends and their four boys, who are under 6.  And William is sleeping through the night!  It is amazing.  I might write a post about this, but it refers to question 1.  Basically, he hasn't slept through the night in months, and we needed him to by Saturday.  He has officially been a perfect sleeper for the last three nights.  Whoop!

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc. I think I'm going to start a dog-walking business. We live in a beach town and I might call it "Sandy Paws Dog Walking, where dogs get presents every day of the year."  It is so ridiculous that I like it.  Also, I like really, really cheesy things because I think they make fun of themselves, but then I worry that people don't know I'm being redonkulous and that they might think I only find it funny on the first level and not on the next.  I think this is a hipster flaw, but I'm too old to be a hipster.  I'm like the aged hipsters on Portlandia, though I would deny it vehemently if anyone said it to my face.  But it is probably true.  

    4. What's one of your pet peeves?  In general, uncouth behavior.  Elbows on tables, no manners, etc.  Ooo! No placemats or tablecloth.  When we eat without placemats I feel like I should be standing up with a stack of plates and then winging them out like frisbees to rattle on the hard wood, preferably with a cigarette dangling from blood red lipstick-lips.  That said, we do it.  But it irks me something fierce.  

    5. What's going on this weekend?  The aforementioned rad camping trip.  Yay!

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    37, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (12) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.

    5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered.  All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd.  4 fertilized.   Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853.  Yay!


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  • pauljlpauljl member
    1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)?

    @2mamazinseattle that is the exact phrase I was planning on using! I've had three family  members in and out of the hospital over the past month. For some the prognosis is not good- and in fact is rather frightening. Hearing the word degenerative is tough. So, I've been breaking out that good old saying from my Grandma to remind myself that time marches on! I also really like one that's been floating around Pinterest that reads 'Whenever I have a really bad day, I just remind myself that so far my track record of surviving bad days is 100%. And I like those odds." I'm also lucky to have a job that centers on so much hope- children! I think this helps me on tough days. 


    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day?
    I'm going home to visit my mamma! She doesn't live far, but it's always nice to go home for a visit! I bought her a grandma's scrapbook kit, which suits her perfectly. 

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc.
    No matter what I do as an educator, I will never ever be able to get everything done and please everyone. I know this translates into other professions (and LIFE) as well. It just feels like teachers are under a microscope right now . We are either too tough, or too lax. We move to fast and the kids aren't getting it, or we move to slow and we don't cover it all. And what's more important than classroom culture and achievement?   TEST SCORES!  (End rant.)


    4. What's one of your pet peeves?
    Hm. Maybe I should have written my last answer here instead :) 

    An easy one though is the your vs you're thing. Makes my skin crawl (How's that for a southern phrase?)

    5. What's going on this weekend?
    My birthday is also tomorrow, so C bought me a birthday/almost-a-mother's day combo gift. Lots of celebrating this weekend with the family! Birthdays and Mother's Days...oh my :) Plus I'm tracking out today- which means three blissful student free weeks. Lets me recharge so I'm more effective when we come back! 


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  • 1. I try to stay grateful for the things I have and goals we have accomplished. Sometimes I start to get down in the dumps because there is so much I still want to accomplish or thought would have happened by now but then I just have to think about how far we've come in 5 years or 10 years. I may have anticipated that some things would have gone a different way and some things would be easier but over all the trajectory has been forward and positive and we have a lot to be thankful for now in this moment.

    2. Mother's Day is also my grandmothers 90th birthday. She is having a party at her favorite Chinese restaurant and lots of people are coming, it should be fun!

    3. K is on her way to my work right now for the work baby shower. She's never visited me at this job and has never seen my office (in 4 years!!) So this is exciting!

    4. I have to agree with everyone- flaky behavior, not following through, generally being unreliable.

    5. This weekend is mostly my grandmother's big shindig on Sunday. Tomorrow we are planning to do some shopping and run all our errands.

    Have a fabulous weekend everyone!!!

    @rkbo yay LB! You are moving here just in time for Pride next weekend!

    A & K, married 7/1/13.

    After 10 months of ttc via medicated IUIs and two early losses, we finally got our boys- Perfect premie twins born 5/27/14.

     

     

  • 1. I try to remind myself how fortunate I am. At the age of 30 I own a house (only 5 years left to pay), I drive a brand new car, my wife's car was brand new when we bought it and we have a motorcycle. Those things and my student loans are why funding IVF is tricky, but I digress... For the most part, we do everything that we want to do. It is hard at times, but I always try to be thankful for what we do have and our positions in life. It could be infinitely worse. Thank you for asking this. I'm in an emotional slump, and this helped.

    2. We are looking at a joint dinner with my parents and her Mom and siblings. We all get along so we try and combine holidays when we can.

    3. I had three sets of some teeth. I had braces in middle school and had to have many extra teeth pulled before I could get them. Also, I have such a small jaw that I am missing 4 teeth but you would never know it. There simply wasn't room for them all.

    4. One pet peeve is when I'm trying to talk and people talk right over me. This used to be a battle with C. I call her on it all the time, whether she does it with me or others.

    5. Tonight we are going to a good bye party for one of C's cousins and his girlfriend. They are leaving for Wyoming for at least the summer. For once, I have no idea what the rest of the weekend holds. Definitely time on the bike as long as there is no rain. Also definitely getting groceries. We cleaned out our fridge last night and there isn't much left besides condiments and two drawers full of Gonal-F ;).

    Bonus PIP - C roasting marshmallows for s'mores for our 5 year old neighbor and me. We didn't have our sticks ready so she used a grilling fork.

    Me: 30  DW (aka C): 29

    Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12

    ***CP mentioned***

    We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm.  8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy.  We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET.  I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013. 

    11/14/14 -  Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good. 

    12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2

    12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)

    1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2

     ****All Welcome!****

    We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.

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  • 2brides2brides member
    JGY said:

    @2brides did you let him/them watch any of the draft last night?  What did they think?

     

    Carter did (well, we did!) It was only about 40m of it since it started at their bedtime, but it is taped and he will watch it this weekend! He was beside himself excited and was telling me all types of sports facts. LOL. I posted on FB that it was like watching tv in a foreign language! :) I love that it excites him so much! :)
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  • 1. It has to be Laire. Her unfailing optimism astounds me, and she's like a child, she treats every day as a new day, no matter what. When I first met it, it was actually a little bit terrifying, and I thought it made her childish, but now it's possibly my favourite thing about her.
    2. Mother's day was in March here, so it's already passed for us, but we went out with my mum and Laire's mum.
    3. I speak Italian almost fluently.
    4. When non-American people use their cutlery like Americans. I mean, fair enough if you are American, but otherwise you just look like a twit.
    5. Sleeping. We've had a really mental past couple of weeks, and it'll be nice to just rest.
  • JazibelJazibel member
    1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)?
    I haven't had a chance to read the whole thread yet but I really appreciated the responses to this question that I have read. I've been having a really hard time being on an emotional roller coaster since Owen was born.  I know the hormones postpartum are crazy - but phew. If things don't even out by my next midwife appointment (Tuesday) I'm going to have to ask for additional help/advice, etc. Anywhooo. It was inspiring to read all of your responses :-)  One tool I've used to inspire myself in the past is making a list of "things" I'm grateful for.  Seeing everything spelled out in black and white helps put life in perspective sometimes.

    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day?  Nothing planned but I'd love french toast and extra sleep - please ;-)

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc.  The reading glasses I am currently wearing have white duct tape on the side holding them together. (Kaden broke them and I've been waiting to get a new eye exam until after Owen was born since your eyes supposedly change during pregnancy).  Getting a new pair is definitely on the "to do" list - but hey duct tape is Amazing!

    4. What's one of your pet peeves? Really loud eaters (as is chewing, swallowing, etc.)

    5. What's going on this weekend? Homework right now while the family naps. My Capstone presentation/defense tomorrow morning. My brother & sister in law are coming over Saturday too.  Sunday studying for my final Exam (which I hope to take Monday morning).  Really I can't wait for school (and this MBA program) to be over!!!
    All of that interspersed with baby cuddles and extra squeezes for my toddler who's working hard to adjust.  
  • 1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)? I have to agree with @2brides -- I know that it always gets better.  When my mom died at 55, I really could not imagine the rest of us moving on...but we did.  Things don't necessarily fix themselves (my mom isn't coming back), but you find ways to deal with them and it gets easier.  Since then I met my wife, got engaged, got married, and started a family.  Do I wish my mom was around to be a part of that?  Hell yes.  But that doesn't keep me from enjoying these times myself.  The hardest part of TTC was not knowing when or how it would end.  But I knew that my wife and I would be on the other side of it at some point, together, and we would learn how to handle whatever the end result would be.

    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day?
      Oy...touchy subject.  Obviously we can't celebrate with my mom; my MIL is out of state.  My sisters, dad and I usually do dinner and a gift for my step-mother; she's not our mother but she is A mother and it just feels right to honor her.  This year I offered to host dinner and now I'm regretting it.  My wife's working and I'm going to be tired after our childbirth education marathon on Saturday.  I'm hoping we can just do take-out instead.  But my sisters and I still haven't settled on a gift, and I don't know when we will.

    In the meantime, my dad sent an email to my sisters and my wife asking if they should do something for ME for Mother's Day.  Not for my wife and I, for ME.  My wife never saw a response so I am guessing my sister wrote back to him privately and pointed out that my wife should be included on any Mother's Day plans.  He has a great relationship with my wife and totally considers her a part of our family and I'm certain he thinks of her as the baby's parent, but I just think in his head she's more of a dad even though she's female.  It was sort of funny and annoying at the same time.

    My wife and I discussed whether we wanted to celebrate OUR motherhood this year and the decision was that it felt jinxy.  She's also working, so I don't know what we would have done anyway.

    On top of this, my sister's dog has some kind of mass on his abdomen; they don't know what it is but he is getting an ultrasound tomorrow.  That dog is truly like her child and if it is anything serious she is going to be an absolute basketcase for the foreseeable future.  So to be honest I kind of want to run away and hide from everyone.

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc. @2Mamaz' random thing made me think of this...I once read a (fictional) story about people having their loved ones' (humans) bones ground up after death and made into bone china.  I actually think it would be lovely to be turned into a beautiful pitcher or bowl or something rather than just rotting away in the ground, but sadly I don't think that is legal!

    4. What's one of your pet peeves? Entitlement.

    5. What's going on this weekend?  Marathon childbirth class on Saturday.  Mother's Day who-knows-what on Sunday.
    Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
    9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
    IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
    ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
    FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
    Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
    FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
    EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
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  • 1. I'm generally a very optimistic person but for the last 11 months or so I have found myself getting sad/depressed/disappointed/etc and not being able to "feel" that it will be better. Intellectually I can recognize that it will be better but I can't feel it and that is really hard. I feel like infertility stole a part of me with that. (I'm talking to my doctor about depression, don't worry!)
    That said, those feelings do generally pass quickly--sometimes within 20 minutes and almost always things feel better by the morning.
    Also @Manada spooning me almost always makes me feel better even if I'm upset about things related to her/us.

    2. We are taking M's mom to brunch.

    3. I want Cheetos. And bacon.

    4. People who seem to have no sense of who is around them and how what they're doing (stopping randomly, talking loudly, standing in the way of a door, smoking, wearing a lot of perfume) might affect other people.

    5. House cleaning and organizing tomorrow then maybe settlers of catan with a friend. Sunday we will drive 1.5 hours to take M's mom out for lunch.


    PIP: here's an outtake from our announcement video. Frannie resting her head on the sperm bank. We would have used it but if you don't know what it is, you can't tell it is a sperm bank.
    ****loss discussed*****

    We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.

    Our IUIs
    with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.

    Our IVFs:
    IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response

    IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
    BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
    2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
    BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
    1st ultrasound (3/6  6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm. 

    ***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***

    FET #1 December 2014
    Intralipid infusion on Dec 10. Transfer of 1 day 3 nine-cell embryo into my uterus on Dec. 19. (acupuncture immediately before and after)
    BFP on Dec. 27; Beta 1 Jan 2 (14dp3dt): 665, Beta 2 Jan 4 (16dp3dt): 1859, Beta 3 Jan 6 (18dp3dt): 4449, Beta 4 Jan 10 (22dp3dt): 12,251.



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  • 1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)?

    C inspires me. We always have the ability to talk things out and we are always able to discuss whatever the problem is even if it is involving us. I think having a partner is so awesome and C is what helps me make it through!

    C read a book once that involved something happening in a person's life and the person said they were like a pickle. Once you go from being a cucumber to a pickle you can never go back. This is how I feel about TTC...it has made me a pickle. Even though we are pregnant now, it still doesn't change the last year.

    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day?

    We are currently visiting my parents. We are having a picnic for my mom and grandma tomorrow...it's gonna be nice!

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc.

    It was so boiling Africa hot in my parents house last night. C and I keep our house refrigerator cold and last night I thought my skin was going to melt off.

    4. What's one of your pet peeves?

    Bad grammar and rude people.

    5. What's going on this weekend?

    Like I said we are at my parents this weekend. We are going to breakfast with my aunt this morning, then we are bottling the wine we made a few months ago, then probably just hanging out with my parents. Tomorrow we will have a picnic and then head back home!

    Bonus: We always love a PIP!

    I'm so lame...I never have a PIP...

    Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
    First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013

    C began IUI's
    7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140....  6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014

    03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!

    1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.

    Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!

     

    Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/

     

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  • 1. Well, first, I allow myself to wallow in it a bit. I think it's important for me just to be able to feel the pain/hurt/disappointment before moving on to the "time heals all" phase. I always get there, but for me allowing myself to fully feel my pain is my first step to getting to the other side.

    2. Z's mom is still in town. Today is Mexican Mother's Day (MIL is Mexican). We're going to take a trip to the hill country - Fredericksburg - and do some wine tasting. With a baby. Hmmm. Maybe not too much wine tasting since Z doesn't drink, I'm nursing and therefore done after one drink, and Z's mom drinks very little. But, we'll also walk around and go into the shops. It's a cute town and we'll have fun. Unfortunately, I need to spend several hours on Sunday working. Blah. But, I told Z that I would like to work from a coffee shop or something so it's a little less depressing.

    @ball.and.chain - we have a very sweet woman who we pay to clean our house. She came yesterday and left a Mother's Day card addressed only to me. Made me cringe. She's a very sweet person, just not sure that she quite gets it.

    3. I really enjoyed reading this blog entry from The Happy Herbivore who is a proponent of a plant-based diet about the defense of her mantra, "progress, not perfection" and nutritional elitism. https://happyherbivore.com/2014/05/progress-not-perfection-wrong-elitism/

    4. People who talk on the phone in the bathroom.

    5. I think #2 sums it up.

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  • 2brides2brides member
    CrazyAunt84 said:

    3. C got struck by lightening back when she was in the Army. She was stationed at Fort Bragg and they were bivouacking (camping out in the field for training purposes). On their final night at camp, the seargent surprised them with some beer and they all went back to their tents. C was handing a beer to another soldier when the lightening stuck the tent. It hit C and was conducted to the girl taking the beer. C was put in intensive care. The other girl died instantly. To this day, C screws up every radio and TV she gets close to.

    holy crap! What a horribly sad story. :(
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  • 1. It's been a rough week on the board. What inspires you to keep going during hard times (in general)?

    This was hard for me to answer today. Hope I guess. Hope that one day I'll hold a sweet baby in my arms that's mine. We've been talking about this being our last IUI. If this one doesn't work ( doubting it will ) we will move on to IVF starting Aug/sept. We think. We think it is an egg problem with Sarah. But she wants a baby from her eggs of at all possible. I just want a baby...mine, hers, donor egg, adoption, I don't care... Just want a baby.

    2. Are you doing anything for Mother's Day?

    I called my mom. Sarah's moms 70th bday is next Sun so we are going to WV this coming weekend. I will probably sneak up on Sat evening/Sunday to see my mom and at least spend a few hrs with her.

    3. Tell us something random! Any thought will do...could be about you, something you read/learned lately, etc.

    When Sarah and I met and were just starting to take interest, I was at her house with her x ( they were still parting ways) and her new fling as we were all "friends". We were drinking. I had 1 drink and was trying to take care of Sarah as she was very drunk. As I was trying to pick her up off the floor, I braced the bathroom doorframe to stand her up and her x slammed the door not realizing my hand was there.

    I ended up loosing about 1/4 of my pinky finger on my left hand. It was a big snow storm and closest hospital was 30 miles away. I had to go in ambulance as I was loosing too much blood, was going into shock and bp was through the ROOF! (I handle stress so well).

    6 numbing shots, they had to pull my finger nail out and stitch me up. It still hurts!!! But at least my nail grew back.

    It's a great story to tell when you meet people and are getting to know them.

    4. What's one of your pet peeves?

    Pet peeve is defiantly not rinsing dishes!!!!

    5. What's going on this weekend?

    We got to meet our next door neighbors sweet and oh so beautiful twin girls. Ellie and Kate. Did I mention they also have a 15 month old daughter??? She had a c-section at 38.5 weeks. Both were 6.5 ad 6.8lbs and perfectly fine. While hard for us and we felt sad for us, it was fun to see them and see how drastically their lives were changed over night. :)

    Bonus: We always love a PIP!

    Here is a pip of the girls and their "big" sister.


    10 medicated IUI's (3 with injectables). 
    IUI #1 (medicated) Jan. 2013-BFP!!!!- Beta's didn't double, MTX shot for possible ectopic.
    8 IUI's between April 13-April 14 = BFN 
    IUI #10 and final before IVF, injectables May 2014- BFP!!!!  TWINS!!!!

    7 week ultrasound showed 2 wonderful heartbeats!
    8 weeks to the ER with vaginal bleeding while on vacations!  Diagnosed SubChorionic Hemorrhage.  Babies are both great.
    9 week ultrasound showed both babies are still great.
  • JazibelJazibel member
    @ATXmommas - Ash is so stinking cute!!  Love the pics :-)

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