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No one to vent to.. You're it.

Frannavaldez9399Frannavaldez9399 member
in December 2013 Moms
So. This is petty, I'll say it. But these are the feelings I've had all day, and I think putting them out there may make me feel better. This is my first Mother's Day. After 12 years of losses and being told to hang it up... I was surprised with a bouncing (he's in his Johnny Jump Up at the moment lol) baby boy. Love of my life. Apple of my eye. It's no secret that this kid is my whole world. Well. It's Mother's Day. I have been talking about how grateful I am to have a Mother's Day, for about 4 weeks now. My husband is thick, so I've been talking about how wonderful it is to be the mother of his children.. Blah blah blah.. A chick at his work even contacted me to ask what I "wanted" for the day.. I gave her a short list. Mostly heartfelt things.. He could get pictures of the kids and throw them in a card.. He could have them help him MAKE a card.. And the big family purchase this year will be patio furniture.. He could totally get it this weekend and CALL it my gift. Guys. I got a bag of candy (that I don't eat) and a comicly large card. Full of friggin glitter. That I had to mop off the floor. Sigh. I'm so thrilled to be a mom. I am. My FB newsfeed is full of flowers and breakfasts in bed and pandora bracelets... I got candy. (He has already opened it and eaten over half). I'm not mad. Just confused and disappointed. Tell me I'm bitching for no reason and to suck it up.
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    Who is this woman who called and asked what you wanted? Odd.
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  • SnoopylovesbelleSnoopylovesbelle member
    I'm sorry that sucks :(. At least he did try and it's better than nothing. Maybe in a day or so when your aren't so upset ask him what happened? Say that you appreciate that he tried but you expected a bit more effort since this was your first Mother's Day after so many losses. You thought he was doing a bigger surprise since someone at work called and asked what you wanted and you were surprised that it didn't happen.
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  • fauxveganfauxvegan member
    My DH gets me candy then eats it. I think it sounds like YH tried. Let him know how you feel. It may help. BTW, my DH pointed to LO and said Happy Mother's Day. That's it.

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    Loolaide said:

    riv06marce said:

    My DH gets me candy then eats it. I think it sounds like YH tried. Let him know how you feel. It may help. BTW, my DH pointed to LO and said Happy Mother's Day. That's it.

    Your husband sucks too. Neither tried.
    Hahaha! This made me lol! Normally he doesn't suck at this stuff which is why I'm not upset. We had a really busy week/weekend, so I'm giving him a pass.

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  • Frannavaldez9399Frannavaldez9399 member
    Lol well, he thinks candy is a cure all.. And knows I don't eat it so I think he was just stumped. Also, his mother passed away maybe 8 or so years ago? I wondered if that has anything to do with it. The chick from work is getting to be my friend too. She's the only mom I know. Has two young girls. We've been out to lunch several times and she took our family pictures when LO was brought home. It's not like she's a stranger to me lol I could have explained that a bit better! I feel better knowing my hubby isn't the only clueless one. Thanks guys
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    hercules03 said:


    riv06marce said:

    My DH gets me candy then eats it. I think it sounds like YH tried. Let him know how you feel. It may help. BTW, my DH pointed to LO and said Happy Mother's Day. That's it.




    Was he being funny??

    Yes, he was trying to be funny. In his defense, he tried to take me out when he got home from work but I didn't feel like leaving the house.

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  • lifesaverzlifesaverz member
    Aww I'm sorry. I can relate as I've experienced similar kinds of disappointment on these types of holidays with my DH. Which is weird because he is so thoughtful the rest of the time, but sometimes just can't seem to get it together on the actual day, lol. There was one Valentines day where we had planned to "go out" on a different day, which we usually do so as to avoid the crowds, but because of that he didn't acknowledge the actual day at all, & I felt really disappointed. We ended up having a conversation & me explaining that what I want in these situations has nothing to do with monetary value, but is more about just the acknowledgement of the day.

    So anyway for mother's/father's day this year we bought each other perfume/cologne. Well I was afraid that since technically there was already a "gift" (which he didn't wrap or even give to me, it's still in the closet, lol) that something similar might happen & he would possibly just let the whole day go by, so I warned him yesterday (I hate to feel disappointed, lol) that I want him to acknowledge the day in SOME way...write me a card, say happy Mother's Day, make me something yummy, whatever it doesn't matter, but just do something, haha. So anyway he wrote me a letter. It was beautiful & perfect. Anyway I say all that to say that I have been there with the disappointment, & sounds like you may have to sit down & spell out with your DH that you were just looking for something thoughtful/meaningful. I think you'll feel better if you tell him, is it will help avoid future disappointment. Sorry this was so long!
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  • HerbanMomHerbanMom member
    Yeah... I'd be a little irritated for sure. SO completely forgot about mothers day until he was scrolling through his instagram feed, I got a card that he quickly went into the garage to sign and ran it in. Fortunately for me, having been a single mom for so long really got me used to not getting anything. Flowers or chocolate would've been nice. I could've really used chocolate after the rough week I had.
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  • mlwertsmlwerts member

    I'm sorry that happened to you! It stinks! DH didn't get me anything I was so disappointed! Heck I didn't even get a shower yesterday! I bust my butt for my family and he was just to lazy to get it done... He supposedly knows what he wants to get me... He has no excuse and he knows it! There is no free pass for him. He's in the dog house and now he has to work his way out! As PP's have said it's not about the monetary value it's about the thought. DD made me the cutest picture at daycare where her footprints were used to make a butterfly. If he would have done something like that I would have been over the moon. I would have been fine if he would have gotten me a card and said I have something for you it's just not here yet. BTW... I was out of the house for 5 hours yesterday...

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  • bty19bty19 member
    Yezbick9 said:
    Wait he's eating it? Sounds like he got himself a present. He doesn't get to eat it.
    For Father's Day get him a necklace with the baby's birthstone and matching earrings.
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