Mother's Day Fails

edaire · May 2014

Anyone have a Mother's Day fail story they want to share? DH had to work today so he gave me my gift last night. He gave me a shower caddy (because he was tired of my things falling on his head when he showers) and 2 thermal glasses (which I don't drink from) and a card that wasn't written in or signed. And nothing was wrapped. I was polite, but wow!

Also, my dad burned the steaks, which he never does.

kelle017 · May 2014

My h gave me $20. Thanks. But pretty much he's massively hungover from his birthday party last night so today kind of stinks.
#pitypartyforone

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jennlin · May 2014

Both my kids are sick with HFM, my husband has a fever of 103. I made myself a bowl of cereal for breakfast and got through half of it before I was interrupted. I now have a half bowl of soggy cereal. I'm starving.

BrittanyCupcakes · May 2014

Aside from the exploded bottle of wine in the freezer that I had to deal with (I totally thawed that shit and ran it through the strainer and had a glass anyways!) and having a bottle of cold water poured on me in some strange attempt at being funny, DH told me he was going to cook for me today but that I have to clean the kitchen first. He did try to buy me flowers at the grocery store on Friday while we were shopping, and I told him not to. I just don't see the point in being there when he buys the flowers. Now he's going to make me a chicken because he wants to eat a chicken.

I really don't care anymore. This day feels just like my birthday. A lot of hype for nothing. I'd rather not acknowledge it.

I have eaten four cupcakes today.

scamberlous3000 · May 2014

I got a hand made card drawn with markers on computer paper which would be sort of cute if I hadn't had to ask him to make it for me because I had nothing else to show for my first Mother's Day b/c he sucks ass and had nothing planned for me at all. He never goes out of his way to do anything special for me. I absolutely can't stand him at the moment.

MargaretC5 · May 2014

DH really tried today, but it did not work out so well. He told me it was a surprise and I would not know until we got there. He planned a trip to the Botanical Garden. It was a great idea, I loved it! But he only brought the stroller not the baby carrier, so there were only a few trails we could go on. He also did not bring a hat or sunscreen for DS, so we could not really take him out of the stroller for too long. DH was planning on buying us lunch there, since they were selling picnic lunches for Mother's Day, but I am a vegetarian and they did not have a vegetarian option.
We still had a good time, but it was a bit of a fail. We are planning to go back another day with the carrier, a hat, and our own picnic.
After reading the other fails, I thanked DH again.

hendy02 · May 2014

today has had some highs and lows. high: DH was up before 9; even DD was surprised when we came down from her room at 8 and he was on the sofa. he never ever gets up with them in the morning, even for work days. low: he sat around for an hour playing on his ipad as DD talked about how hungry she was. i made her a bagel, which then spurred him to make breakfast for us. high: me not making breakfast. low: DH making biscuits. we did the whole 30 in april and have stuck to it pretty well since then. i guess he just wanted biscuits and mothers day is a good reason for them? just annoying since i go through making so many freaking paleo meals for 6 weeks and that's what he does. anyway... then there are no plans all day. so i have to walk the dog, as usual. i'm doing laundry, as usual. worked in the yard. high: he did make dinner, a roast in the crockpot. so yes, it's definitely nice to not worry about making dinner. but low: a roast is a simple thing to make paleo, but he used some freaking packet of premade seasoning with sugar in it. again... it just bothers me to go through the effort for so long, only to have him blow two simple paleo meals just for no reason.

but at least he is in town this year. last year, he left MD morning for a bachelor party. lame. oh, and it's all totally last-minute, which bothers me. MD is not a surprise, we all know it's on the calendar. but last night at 9pm he was at kroger (getting biscuits) and cards, which DD then signed this morning. she also painted me a picture yesterday. cute picture, but i stay home with her and we paint almost daily. and this year we have two kids. i guess i just expected something more special. fail.

Lee81 · May 2014

My mother's day has been eh so far. Dh gave me my gift on Friday rather than waiting for today. It was a headset for my phone. For the two minutes a day I'm on my phone, I'd rather he saved the money but I'm hoping I'll be glad I have it once I get used to it.

Yesterday, he wanted to order sushi for dinner. He said it was for mother's day, but it was just because he wanted sushi. Whatever, I like sushi and it was delicious.

Today, I haven't even gotten a "Happy Mother's Day" from him. I guess he figures we already celebrated. He got up and decided he was going to shampoo the carpet in the bedroom. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that it's done, but if he had asked what i wanted to do, I probably would not have chosen to spend my first mother's day cleaning. To be fair, he never said i had to help but if I didn't he would find some way to throw that back in my face the next time we get into an argument.

All in all, I got a gift, dinner, and a clean house. I guess I can't complain, especially seeing some of these other stories.

amber0529 · May 2014

I got up & fed DS at 6:30 & he was back in bed by about 7. I heard DS on the monitor about 8. Right after my boyfriend comes in & says he's going to get me breakfast. I told him I heard the baby & he said it's OK go back to sleep. He leaves but doesn't take the baby...
So he gets home & he's all oh I was going to give you breakfast in bed. Well maybe you should've taken the baby with you. He got me mums that he's going to plant in the yard & a card that he didn't write in. He said the necklace I wanted was just cheap costume jewelry & it would be a waste of money to get it.

MangoMama82 · May 2014

My baby was so excited about Mother's Day that he simply could not sleep! Awake at 5:45 this morning instead of the usual 6:30/7, and too cranky to play. He woke up from his last nap at 11:30, and refused to go down after that. So I had to drive him around for 40 minutes so he would nap and make it til bedtime. He cranked out in his high chair while I shoveled salad into my mouth as fast as possible so I could hold him to keep him from being upset until it was time for bed. I adore my little man, but he wore me out today. Hallelujah for bed time!

Kittymom6 · May 2014

My day was good, but it got off to a rocky start. DD woke up around 4 am, and DH went to settle her down. She woke up again at 5 am, and DH was pissed because he "just" went in. He was letting her cry, and I couldn't stand it, so I got up and snuggled with her from 5 to 6:30 am before waking him up.

This afternoon I said something about this morning, and his response was, "what? I got up with her!" Turns out he doesn't even remember pitching a fit at 5 am and had no idea I had gotten up with her.

He had a fail with his mom, too. He bought her a card, but didn't send it yet. It was on the table when I got up. It said: "You put the GREAT in great-grandma." Um, she's a grandma, not a great-grandma!

ksimo6 · May 2014

Had a plaque made that he wanted for the tree we planted for LO. I never wanted it. I wanted a fucking massage gc.... Like I told him when he asked me "what do you want?" Ugh.

Jenball717 · May 2014

He tried, he failed. His plans went down in a blaze. Oh well, he will be fixing it this week.

I was just hoping for better since I have been struggling so much with ppd and everything. I didn't even hint that I wanted it to be a big deal, I flat out told him weeks ago and multiple times since. And this isn't even my first Mother's Day. He should have this stuff figured out by now...

BMom99 · May 2014

My normally thoughtful DH did absolutely nothing. I kept waiting all day for him to pull out a present or even a card but nooope. A few days ago I told him I wanted shrimp for dinner today. Around 3 I asked him what was for dinner and he looked at me like I was crazy because I always cook. I was annoyed by this point so I not so nicely reminded him that I asked for shrimp. He sheepishly admitted that he forgot and asked if I wanted him to go get some. Sure do buddy! I made him take the baby too and laid my butt on the sofa and watched TV.

The bright note of my day was that my Mom made me a handmade card with DS's footprints on the front. So sweet. I hope it shamed DH but I doubt he even noticed.

catycate · May 2014

Y'all better let your SO's know this shit won't fly next year.

slh6363 · May 2014

Glad Im not the only one whose DH was a major slacker today! Just to put it out there before I start complaining, Ive been pulling the Mother's Day card all weekend so he did let me sleep in when LO got up extra early today and also got up with him in the night when he woke up (which he doesn't usually do so not sure what's going on with that). Also got a back rub out of him last night...with nothing expected in return so that's a plus. But as far as today goes he pretty much planned nothing. He said he was going to do breakfast in bed but then since he got up early with LO he went back to bed once MIL was up who then tended to LO as he went back to bed (we are living with MIL until our new house is ready). So anyway BIL ended up going to get MIL and I brapeakfast while DH continued to sleep. When DH finally woke up I pretended not to be upset and go about our day. We loaded up LO and our dogs to go to the park which I did really enjoy (however my idea, not his). On the way there of course I couldn't hold it in and complained that he did nothing thoughtful for me. So then on the way back we stop for gas and he comes out with a giant card and flowers. So anyway we went about the rest of the day and went out to dinner with my family. Overall I had a good time Im just still a little ticked that he put absolutely no thought into it...which isn't surprising bc he never makes a big deal of special occasions or holidays. The thing is though I know he can actually plan good surprises if he actually tries bc he has in the past...although very few and far between. I did get a mani/pedi gift card although that doesn't really count bc I bought it for myself to go along with my mom and MIL bc that's what we got them. Ahh one day maybe he'll learn!

kelle017 · May 2014

@cdhaslag I'm sorry

@wedding06

My day did get a little better thankfully after he took a long nap. We went and got dinner to go and ate it next to a local dam and took a walk along it. And then went grocery shopping (so much easier with another person!)

And he even started a yearly scrapbook tradition- kind of like that journal idea someone recently posted. He made the page himself too!

If last night hadn't been his birthday I think things would have been different. It was a big birthday (30) so I really didn't have expectations for anything today but I was disappointed still so he tried to make up for it.

#theremayhavebeentears

#okaythereweretears

#frommenotthebaby

lefnc82 · May 2014

DH really didn't do anything at all. This morning he was in the kitchen and I asked what we were doing for breakfast and he responds well I'm about to have a pop tart, I told him I'd really like to go out to breakfast and his immediate response was do you have the money? Yes things are tight right now but considering I knew he had not gotten me a gift or a card there's no reason not to have at least a nice breakfast out, and that was all I really wanted. So the day just started badly. I did get my breakfast out but that was pretty much it. Add to this that LO is teething all four of his top teeth at the same time, makes for a long day. At least we had a nice dinner with my family and my brother was sweet enough to get me a card. I did tell DH I expected better, not that I wanted gifts, just for him to at least help more with LO so I could have had a little downtime on Mother's Day.

kelle017 · May 2014

And sorry to everyone else who had sucky dh's. I want to return the favor to him by making it a cappy day, but I can't.

#icantbeabitch

#illgooverboardandmakehimfeedbad

#actuallyimightbeabitch

Phalaenopsis · May 2014

I saw baby for a total of 20 minutes this morning while I fed her before work. I was hoping to get out of work before she went to bed but today was just bananas. It sucked, actually. H did good though, hand written card, flowers, and wine.

elllaf · May 2014

#iwanttoslapyourhusbands

Jalee85 · May 2014

Le sigh - I feel bad for everyone's rough Mothers Day. We are celebrating tomorrow, but we had an argument right before bed. I guess I denied him sex not intentionally though. Just D is hard to put down and her naps aren't very long. He fell asleep during the basketball game and was snoring. So I wanted to Watch Once Upon a Time. He told me he wasn't sleeping and I told him yes you are. Why would I watch something I don't like because you are sleeping. So he left the room then we had a little spat when he randomly told me he was going to bed early. It was both our faults though. I need to learn how to balance my time with her and with him. He complains about me being on my phone all the time. However O13 is what keeps me sane.

#O134Lyfe

Ycu2013 · May 2014

Jeez. I wish I could hug you all. With all the work, worrying and everything else that us Mothers always do, I really wish you all had felt special today. I'm sorry. Your LO's think you're special and one smile or cuddle can help make it better. **hugs to you all*

emmylou78 · May 2014

I went to my Mother's house early before work so I could spend a bit I time with her. I get there and she wasn't even home yet. They stopped at mcdonalds. Then I had to come to work and deal with crazies. The patients are fine, but the families are over the top. How hard is 2 visitors at a time? I'm so ready for bed.

Mines more of a vent than a fail.

CatieG · May 2014

Have to add my story. My day really wasn't bad but DH put absolutely no effort into it. We spent the morning together at home and he helped with the kids but that is our normal Sunday morning. DH "encouraged" me to take the kids to see my mom, sister, and nephew to celebrate with them (two hour drive one way). He says he needed a break because I left the kids with him all day Friday to go on a bus trip to Poland for the day (I mentioned this briefly in another thread). He claims that was my Mother's Day gift, especially since I bought a bunch of pottery. Um...what if this trip had been another weekend?! Oh, and he has left me with the kids for several weeks at a time and I certainly won't tell him that's his FD gift *sheesh* He thinks he redeemed himself for not even getting a card because he vacuumed and straightened up a little. Ya. No. I do that when I have a free minute even with the kids around. He had 9 hours alone. He has no idea I'm a little pissed at him. We shall keep it that way.

ETA my MD gift to myself was a grande triple non-fat caramel macchiato. We don't have a Starbucks anywhere near us and my sister lives a 10 minute walk from one. Do you all see how easily pleased I am?! A card would've been appreciated *grumble grumble*

muffyvonmuff · May 2014

It's 230am I just got home from drinking after Mother's Day festivities all day. I am now going to initiate sexy time because I'm realizig DH deserves it. You are all fantastic moms. Crack that whip ladies, it will pay off in a few years.

edaire · May 2014

DH came home with a new iPhone 5S as a consultation prize. Bravo. More than anything my feelings were hurt. When I went to my parents house, they gave us a beautiful patio set with a sweet card all about how grateful they are to me for making them grandparents. I burst into tears and told them about my "gifts" from DH. My dad called DH on his way home from work and said "you better not show up empty handed". Love my dad. He always has my back!

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SHAWNACPA · May 2014

DH really tried and after ready everyone's posts, maybe it wasn't so bad.

DH went out for breakfast and brought it back, but he spilled the coffees when he got out of the car (no big deal, we have a coffee pot so I made coffee). Then we ate and opened my gift. He taped a white rose on the package, but he wrapped it Saturday morning so it was almost dead (no big deal, I trimmed the stem and put in water and it perked back up). I had mentioned that I wanted a closet organizer for DD's closet a few weeks ago, so that is what he bought me for Mother's Day (not really a gift for me, but I do like things organized, so I can see how it thought it was a good gift). Then we were going to spend the day on our property playing, but the wind was so bad we couldn't really get DD out for long. Went to his mom's for dinner, which was Birthday for his sister and Mother's Day for mom and sister (literally - no one even said happy Mother's Day to me while we were there - it was like they were going out of their way to make sure I knew I wasn't included). Then we come home and start a movie while I rock the baby. But she decided to fight sleep (which she never does), so DH decided to let her play until she got tired, so we played until midnight when I FINALLY got her to bed.

BrittanyCupcakes · May 2014

So we had a heart to heart last night. Apparently he had other stuff planned but decided to treat it like a normal day because I got so grumpy after the water bottle incident. He had meant for it to be playful. We talked it out and spent the evening cuddling in front of the tv. He got up with the baby this morning and let me sleep in, and cooked breakfast.

MissLauraPants · May 2014

Mine was not too great but not crazy bad either. My boyfriend tried to be nice and said I could buy anything at Macys since he has a gift card to there. I looked but could not find one thing so we just ate at the mall.
Avery has possibly three teeth coming in at the same time and was incredibly fussy all day so he was definitely challenging. I did manage to distract him with going to the pool where he was okay.
Then we had some friends come over and ask if we wanted to get sushi. Avery is usually good going out so I of course verbally noted this to my friends and halfway through the dinner he went crazy. So my boyfriend tried to pay the check and his card got declined so I paid.
Then the baby woke me up super early and now I am working 12 hours. boo.

kirbabe · May 2014

I had to work, I went in at 4:30 (awake at 3:00 to nurse LO). I busted my ass all week prepping for MD at work, so I was just exhausted already. But it went really smoothly, everyone loved my dessert presentation. The owner gave all the moms (only 4 of us out of about 40 people) gorgeous bouquets. He also gave me a very sweet card. One of my favorite line cooks also gave all the moms a red rose, since it was our last MD together, since he just put in his two weeks. It was very sweet and thoughtful!

My attitude kind of soured towards the end, though. One of my bosses (whom I am actually very close with, his wife even watches LO two days a week) was laughing about something with my assistant, I tried asking what they were laughing about and he (trying to just joke around, but it was very mean spirited and hurtful) comes back with, "This is Asst's and my bonding time right now, we weren't talking to you!"

It just rubbed salt in the wound, I was missing my kids and my own Mother's Day because I was required to be at work, I worked almost 60 hours preparing for the day, I was working on my day off, I was the first person there and already there a couple of hours longer than I had hoped I would be, I was beyond tired, I only had time to pump once and was in pain. It just hurt to be intentionally excluded from a conversation. I was already grumpy (but I was putting on a happy face, I don't like to make everyone else suffer for my bad attitude), but this put me over the edge. He knew I was pissed and was trying to make all of our stupid little inside jokes that we usually just crack up over, but I was just ignoring him. After 45 minutes of me giving him the cold shoulder, he told me I should just leave (which isn't his call, it's the banquet chef's), I jumped all over that.

DH didn't buy me anything, not even a card. DS1 made a necklace and a coupon book in Kindergarten. I know he wanted to buy me a card, I heard him ask DH about it several times, but DH didn't take him. DH did cook dinner (tacos, that's about the extent of his cooking abilities), but he spent the remainder of the day playing on his computer.

Edited: hit post on accident.

layali · May 2014

My first Mothers Day was not bad, especially after reading some of the stories you all have shared!

DH was very thoughtful and showed his appreciation in actions. He made breakfast and dinner (however, he does all of the cooking so this wasn't really unusual behavior). I did get a card with a sweet note and 2 carnations (um, ok). I was really hoping for a pedicure or a massage. Or something that says 'mom' on it. I guess my 'love language' is "stuff". :P

And then, DS was sick off and on all day. We ended up taking him to urgent care instead of going out to lunch because of all the vomiting, but once we got there he was happy and acting like himself. The doctor did take a look at him but there's nothing wrong, he's just got a bunch of congestion and his little body is getting rid of it every way it can.

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