Hi Ladies (loss mentioned)

LittleMsLewis · May 2014

I just found out I'm pregnant again after a MMC in march. I was 10 weeks preg, but u/s showed that the baby had never made it 5-6 weeks. I got my BFP Thursday using a clear blue with weeks indicator. It puts me at 4-5 weeks preg. I haven't called my doc yet. Kind of waiting the next week out to see if anything happens. Feeling happy-ish, but mostly just uneasy. Part of me wants to call and get betas checked, but with my last one, I had serial betas done when I had spotting at 5 weeks and they were rising perfectly. That's why we didn't catch the MC until I started bleeding again at 10 weeks. So I really don't see the point and would rather wait and get an u/s done when the heartbeat should be visible. Is that silly? Anyways, happy to be here and hoping we can help each other shake off the nerves!

laurenrae · May 2014

Congrats! I know it's so nerve wrecking, but for me I would go in right away. I suffered two miscarriages late last year and they didn't know why. When I found out I was pregnant again I went in the next day. They did blood work and put me on progesterone immediately. Hopefully it will make a difference this time. For me my decision was easy because I wanted to make sure I had done everything possible. Plus it eased my mind and nerves as much as it could. Good luck. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

megbmeg · May 2014

I think @laurenrae‌ makes a good pt about the progesterone. I hadn't thought of that. My first instinct is that it totally makes sense to want to wait until you could see the h/b. Your hesitation makes a lot of sense given the heartache you've been through. Congrats on the BFP! I hope you'll have a h & h pregnancy

polevaultRN · May 2014

Welcome and congrats!

LittleMsLewis · May 2014

Good ideas ladies! That does make sense. I hadn't thought to ask about progesterone. I think I will make that appointment, at least to discuss things.

MrsHamon09 · May 2014

Congrats and welcome!

thumper7912 · May 2014

I totally know where you are coming from! I got pregnant late last july and went to an appointment at 5 weeks and they did an u/s at 7 with a visible HB but saw a mass they wanted to watch. I went in at 10 wks for another and there was no HB and they measured the baby at 10 wks. When we got this BFP I called right away. But the doc doesn't seem interested in putting me on progesterone because I had a very successful 1st pregnancy with LO.. it makes me super uneasy. But that was just a phone conversation. So I might push it when going in next week. My vote is to make the appointment asap. I hope you have a happy&healthy 9 months!!

sweetpea2003 · May 2014

Welcome! Congrats on your BFP .

I totally relate to wondering what the point of betas are. I also don't get a whole lot of comfort from first trimester ultrasounds because to this point, all of my losses have been after seeing a heartbeat at 8ish weeks.

There is no right or wrong answer to how much monitoring you should have. It is really between you and your OB. Your OB can tell you what they feel is the best course. For me, because I am on progesterone suppositories, my OB wanted to run betas and have several first trimester ultrasounds because it would be against his standard of care to be "supporting a pregnancy that wasn't proven viable". I chatted with my close girlfriend who is an OB, and she agreed with that statement. So I have had betas this time, had an u/s at 5w4d (that showed nothing but a sac), and will have another u/s this week at 7w4d.

Obviously everyone's situation is different. If you are not on progesterone and your OB is flexible, do whatever is going to keep you mentally in a good place. For some that is a lot of hand-holding and monitoring. For others, it is to just chug along and not have worry about the call with blood tests or what is going to be seen on an early u/s.

Best wishes to you!