May 2014 Moms

NBR/NPR- Rant rant rant!

I'm pissed! First, I have a mild case of post partum depression. :/ I finally come out with it and tell DH. Then, his dad calls at holy crap late, well it was 9, but that's late for us, we sleep like old people. Anyways FIL calls to announce he's coming down to visit in 3 days and plans to stay for 10 days! He already bought the plane tickets ad rented a car! Do what now?! The only reason he called to tell us was because his BFF, which happens to be a woman, told him it's inconsiderate because I just had surgery and I'm trying to adjust to life with 2u2. Darn straight I am! They are dead weight, no help at all just more stress and people to feed. My SIL was coming along because she wants to go to the beach every damn day and get a tan! Uh...firs of all... DH takes our only car to work, I can't drive, I can't get in the water, my incision is healing I don't want sand in it and I have a newborn and a 1 year old, I can't expose them to the sun so much, what is she crazy?! SIL is the rudest brat I've ever seen, won't even make her own bed much less clean or cook a meal, she says she's not girly so she doesn't do it. Umm...woman...what makes you think I'm the pink powderpuff girl??? The fact that I cook 3 meals a day, do laundry, clean the house and care for my children?? That's called being an adult...you should try it some time. Okay so, finally after much bickering we convince them that they need to post pone the trip, that they are paying with FILs moms credit card points. So he says, "okay, fine, set it up!" Why us?? We aren't the ones who hastened up and set up a surprise visit. Fine, whatever, we will do it just to get them to come later, I need alone time to gather myself and hopefully move past this depression. Well, we end up having to dish out more money than I'd like to cancel the flight so they can post pone it! Why do we have to pay for their bone headed idea?! GRRRR I'm on fire! Then MIL is still hounding us about wanting to know all the details about the birth of DS! Oh and as icing on the cake, I have a UTI and my hemi is poppin it's freaking head out again. :/ I just want to be home alone and cry so I can start moving past all of this.

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Re: NBR/NPR- Rant rant rant!

  • jcf2133jcf2133 member
    My ob said to me that the only people who should be around initially are people doing things to you (you know- like a masseuse, or a doctor) or doing things for you. It sucks to put up the money to postpone these folks a bit, but I think you were really smart to stick to your guns and do so. So many people would have just caved and agreed to it despite their concerns. You're taking care of your babies, and yourself!
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  • TnpeachTnpeach member
    You are an amazing momma. I know you will do what's best for your family and new baby. FIL should have asked, and since he didn't, he's stupid. Stay strong, momma.
  • Thanks guise! If we didn't dish out the money to post pone they would of came. They are inconsiderate like that. I know it'll be worth it when i don't have to deal with them next week. Hope I can feel better soon, thanks for the support, I really appreciate it!

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  • tjkdlhbtjkdlhb member
    I'm sorry you have to deal with this. 



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  • DaisyTortillaDaisyTortilla member
    edited May 2014
    That's true...I hadn't thought about that. I'm going to have a chat with them...i cannot have this happening.

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  • I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of that right now, @dbautista88. I hope you're able to talk some sense into them and put them off. You deserve a break!

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  • I would tell your SIL and FIL this would be the perfect time to suck it up and help you around the house! No beach for their visit. They will be cooking, cleaning and playing with your 1 year old. Perfect time for them to be respectable adults, If that's possible? I'm glad you stood your ground and don't pay for their reschedule!
  • Thanks guise! If we didn't dish out the money to post pone they would of came. They are inconsiderate like that. I know it'll be worth it when i don't have to deal with them next week. Hope I can feel better soon, thanks for the support, I really appreciate it!
    You're much nicer than me. I straight told my dad if he showed up on my porch uninvited that he wouldn't be allowed in. Took him about 3 days to apologize for being blatantly rude. Then the rest of the email was him preaching at me. Then he followed that up with an email the next day about obedience. I read neither.

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  • Send them an invoice for the money you spent to reschedule. So not your problem.

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  • Craved1Craved1 member
    I would have told them that they would have to stay in a hotel vs being the one with a newborn and dealing with all that! I understand people wanting to come to help/visit but with a newborn it's not the best time to turn your house in to a bed and breakfast. NO WAY! If they get mad then they can get over themselves.
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