Being acknowledged on Mother's Day

Jellybean71514 · May 2014

Hi there....I'm dreading Mother's Day, in fact this week has been awful leading up to it with all of the hype, commercials and buzz on what to do to 'celebrate'..... well I don't feel I have anything to celebrate, I buried my son 2 months ago and I have no other living children. I am beyond depressed and crying more this week because of the constant reminders yet I keep thinking I am a Mother but I know I will not be acknowledged by most on that day- I know when Sunday arrives I will feel sad and also hurt by those who don't acknowledge me as a Mother- it sounds weird but that is probably the one thing that I am dreading the most- people forgetting about my son or not acknowledging me too in all of this even if I don't want to celebrate. I'm just wondering do I let it go or let them know I am a mother and I am hurt that I was not acknowledged? My fiancé still doesn't understand why I don't want to go out to eat with his family.....no I don't want to be in a populated place with mothers celebrating with their living children when I have to go to a cemetery to celebrate anything with my child. Sorry just needed to vent tonight - I've been having a really hard time this week xo

jonahsma · May 2014

Hugs to you, I'm thinking that maybe they feel that if they say something or do something for you that you would feel bad and they don't want to make you feel worse. So let them know, Tell them that you want to be acknowledged, you are a mother and you deserve it. Big big hugs to you,I will be praying for you. Btw did you have radiation treatment, already??

mmsweeney1 · May 2014

** pgal mentioned **

I feel the same way. I keep having people say Happy Mother's Day to the "mother -to - be" and that hurts me too. Last year I was a mother-to-be. Then I had my first son over the summer and yes, he was stillborn. But I gave birth to him and he is my son! It hurts me that everyone is afraid to acknowledge him because he is still part of my everyday.

I totally understand you not wanting to celebrate. I am only doing to it keep the peace I my family because of course no one gets it. (( hugs)) to you

Noethola · May 2014

lexusolsen · May 2014

I'm sorry he doesn't get it.

ikrystal · May 2014

Noethola said:

I love this. I've seen it before and I couldn't agree more. Hugs to everyone here.

Jellybean71514 · May 2014

Thank you all for the support- I love the quote too @Noethola‌ xoxo
@jonahsma‌ yes I had the radiation on Monday! All went well and I can now move on - thank you so much for asking and remembering! ....I will naturally have my regular follow ups so will go back for a MRI check in 6 months to just see progress but it went well and is finally over, looking forward to getting tomorrow over with too xo all of your support means so much right now esp when you feel you don't have anyone else to talk to -

angelsnight · May 2014

Ticker warning and rainbow mentioned

People just don't get it and it sucks. Most people didn't acknowledge me last year outside of close family tho I appreciate it.

This year I am so blessed to have my rainbow, but people keep wishing me a happy first mothers day. I expected it from co-workers, but even my brother and SIL wished me a happy first mothers day. They were there, they held my angel, they cried with us and they were there when we buried her. How can THEY not acknowledge that this is my second mothers day?

Big hugs to you and everyone here, tomorrow is a tough day.

jess123456 · May 2014

Hugs! Today is such a slap in your face kind of day and I feel the same about Father's Day. We are all mothers regardless of who acknowledges it but it is so hurtful for no one to acknowledge it. My sister told me last year "Happy Mother's Day" and I was so touched because no one has ever said that to me before. I have to believe that most who don't acknowledge you as a mother are just too afraid of being too touchy and hurting your feelings but what they don't understand is that saying nothing hurts even more. I want to say Happy Mothers Day to you and everyone on this board because we are all mothers.

Jellybean71514 · May 2014

@angelsnight‌ @jess123456‌ *hugs* and Happy Mother's Day

kflynn81 · May 2014

My MIL actually gave me a homemade Mothers Day card yesterday when we saw her....she made her own poem about Jack and everything. It was honestly the sweetest thing I'd ever been given and I felt finally for a moment that other people see me as a Mother too...not just myself

((hugs)) to everyone today

diamante1181 · May 2014

No one, except for my MIL and a few friends, have acknowledged me about Mother's Day. Not even my own family did, and truly I'm trying not to let it get to me. I'm sorry that your fiance doesn't seem to get it. Just know that you are entitled to how you feel, and that we understand you! *hugs*

Jellybean71514 · May 2014

My fiancé and I spent the day together just watching movies and eating really good food (we ordered out!) it was a better day than I expected .... I did the ugly cry in the morning and not one person other than my SIL and fiancé acknowledged me today but I am not letting it get to me, tomorrow is another new day xo

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