LO Hates DH

Kewii · May 2014

Well...probably not, but he sure feels like it.

LO is 8 weeks old. For the last week, she has been pitching a fit whenever DH tries to take her. Not just crying, but flat out screaming. She won't settle for him, no matter what he tries or when I give her to him (if she's awake, sleepy, or already sleeping).

He's getting really discouraged and I feel bad for him. He really loves our little girl, but he's starting to feel like there's no point in him even trying.

Any suggestions? Is it just a stage she'll get over soon?

AriaAmante143 · May 2014

This is happening in our house too. DH is so upset

. I keep telling him it's just a phase and she'll grow out of it soon but all he wants to do when he comes home from work is spend time with her and she just fusses at him.

coreyeliz · May 2014

I wasn't even realizing this was what was happening, but DH was gone last night and we basically skipped 90% of the fussy period. He was so good at calming her down before he went back to work, but now I'm always taking her back to soothe her because she just gets more and more upset. I really hope this passes. We need a weekend where DH isn't working or away so he can spend more than just a couple hours with us.

bumpuser9058414 · May 2014

Happening here too. LO is 9 weeks and it's just been the last week or so. I'm trying to let DH figure it out on his own but it's hard to hear the crying. He had him for over two hours yesterday while I got my hair done and they were fine. Can you do that?

LittlePigeon · May 2014

I am glad someone else posted this because it has been happening at our house too. I think the suggestion about swapping in to an activity rather than handing off is a good idea. Now that I think about it, we do have more success that way. I think I will try to do more of that.

Kewii · May 2014

Berry30 said:

Happening here too. LO is 9 weeks and it's just been the last week or so. I'm trying to let DH figure it out on his own but it's hard to hear the crying. He had him for over two hours yesterday while I got my hair done and they were fine. Can you do that?

That's actually when this started for us. I went to the salon for two hours last weekend and since then we've had problems.

We'll try switching in an activity instead of going hands to hands. At least its something to try.

SassyFlats · May 2014

Yep, we have the same thing happening! DH sat next to me last night on the couch and Kara grinned and cooed at him, but she doesn't want him to hold her! I told him it's a phase... Like the screaming until 1am phase and the hermit phase... It'll pass.

teachermommy9967 · May 2014

We are in the same boat. DH is always saying DS hates him cause he cries every time he holds him then calms as soon as I take him. I feel bad for DH he was do excited to have a son and DS doesn't want anything to do with him.

DTNZ4Ever · May 2014

Same here. But we figured out DS has his witching hour which seems to match up when DH gets home. Weekends are better.

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lazyreader · May 2014

Yep. This is going on as we speak.

happens when we go to grandmas house too

Kewii · May 2014

Thanks everyone. I showed DH your responses and I think it made him feel better.

Follow up: if your LO is in daycare, do they have the same reactions to the daycare workers?

ProudMommy030614 · May 2014

Colton perfers me but if Nate (my husband, I am with @LW78‌ DH is dumb!) is putting him to sleep he does skin to skin it's the only thing that works for him. Also I can't be in the room.

CruiseGirl28 · May 2014

Isla seems to love her daddy. But he's not very good at burping her, so she gets gas. Then she's crying, and he gets upset that's she's always crying when he has her. He also loses patience quickly.

He was amazing in the hospital. I think he lost some confidence when he went back to work. She's changed so much, so something she liked last week, she doesn't like now.

Today I left them alone and ran an errand. She was gassy and crying when I left. A few minutes later he texted me that he was going to cry because he was so happy. He sang to her and she quieted down and fell right asleep. He said "I love her so much." And he kept texting me photos.

bunniekrissy · May 2014

We had this issue with DS1. It lasted a couple of months but since then he LOVES his daddy. It will pass.

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