Motherhood Catch-22

Drea926 · May 2014

By the end of the school day, I usually miss DS so much. I tend to talk about him more to my last period class, and unless it's a Monday faculty meeting or some other extenuating circumstance I bolt out the door at 2:30 just after the buses pull out.

But then...

after a while, I find myself counting down until bedtime so I can finally relax and unwind.

This seems like such a weird cycle. Please tell me other people feel similarly!

kelly321 · May 2014

i work part-time, so i rarely reach the "cant wait to get back to them" stage, but ive had to go to multiple-day conferences and its the same thing. (sorry for no caps- tyyping one-handed bc of the carpal tunnel)

djm31012 · May 2014

I can see what you are saying. Every single day I am dying to get home to him. I race out of here as fast as I can and I cherish every single second of my 1.5 hrs with him at night. Probably kiss him and suffocate him too much but really i dont care, thats my time and im the mom. But then while I am home...I sometimes find myself thinking of all the things I need to get done.....eat dinner myself, pack his daycare bag, pack my lunch, take a shower, maybe (just maybe) talk to my husband about his day and if there is even just one tiny second left for me...watch real housewives of anything until i fall asleep and start the cycle over again. I have talked (btched) about how this FTWM life isnt sustainable for me....thats exactly the reason why!

DublinMama · May 2014

That's me! I show pictures to people all day, and then I race into DC to get him and smooch all over him. Then I buckle him in the car, and he proceeds to screech the entire way home and I wonder exactly why I was in such a rush lol.

I think it's actually a product of the line of work we are in, partially. We are in front of people all day, interacting, assisting, putting on a show. It can be hard to do that 8 hours a day, then go home and do it for another 3 or so. Both things are totally natural to me. It's obviously natural to want to be near your baby and be with them. But it's also perfectly natural to need personal space and time when you're not catering to someone else every minute.

Drea926 · May 2014

DublinMama said:

That's me! I show pictures to people all day, and then I race into DC to get him and smooch all over him. Then I buckle him in the car, and he proceeds to screech the entire way home and I wonder exactly why I was in such a rush lol.

I think it's actually a product of the line of work we are in, partially. We are in front of people all day, interacting, assisting, putting on a show. It can be hard to do that 8 hours a day, then go home and do it for another 3 or so. Both things are totally natural to me. It's obviously natural to want to be near your baby and be with them. But it's also perfectly natural to need personal space and time when you're not catering to someone else every minute.

Thanks for this. I needed it!

tamarar5 · May 2014

Completely the same over here!

eriannc22 · May 2014

I feel like this all the time, both on the days I'm home with him and the days I work. I miss him so much when he's not around, but ugh can you stop clutching at my legs and play quietly now? Totally normal...

jesuisfatiguee · May 2014

I completely relate, as well. Also to the PPs who said they miss him sometimes after he goes to bed.

singingsea · May 2014

Yup! I think about him all day long and race out the door to head home. About two hours in I start the bedtime count down. It sounds awful. I love him so much but my job is pretty physical and after eight hours of work I'm beat.

mattanda2011 · May 2014

I am a school nurse, so same deal of being "on" and with kids all day long. I feel the same way! I rush home, and then after about 30 minutes of all the snuggles I desperately want to sit for just 30 minutes by myself before I continue entertaining my child. And I do really start to think about and worry about all the house work that needs to get done.

There was a small window of time when DD was still napping when I got home and I could lay on the couch for 30 minutes. It was glorious! I got to recharge, but then loved getting her up when nap time was over and got all the snuggles. Obviously in my ideal world this is what would happen all the time!

Now I just try to do low key activities for 30 minutes or so when I first get home, so I can sit and watch her play and not have to be the complete entertainment...it doesnt always work, but sometimes does help!

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