s/o Sex Thread

peanutmuse · May 2014

I have two questions...

1) How often are you getting it on?

2) Compare it (in terms of quality) to pre-pregnancy sex (either this pregnancy or previous ones). And/or compare it to sex while you were pregnant.

peanutmuse · May 2014

1) We're in a pattern of every 2-3 days now.

2) For some reason, I find climaxing much more intense now than I ever have. It's fantastic.

Tylynngrace · May 2014

1. We do it like 2-3 times a week.
2. I don't know if it's just hormones or what but orgasms feel so much more intense, and I feel like I have more of them. Also afternoon sex is way better than nighttime sex.

ChuggingWater · May 2014

peanutmuse said:

I have two questions...

1) How often are you getting it on?

2) Compare it to pre-pregnancy sex (either this pregnancy or previous ones). And/or compare it to sex while you were pregnant.

once a week

well, since the sex book has come into play, excellent. Prior to that? Awful.

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worleygirl · May 2014

Ugh. We aren't back in the saddle yet. Took a while after DS too. We use NFP and I can't chart due to no period yet. Condoms suck since I'm kinda dry from bfing. Yes we've tried lube. I figure once I'm done bfing it will normalize but we are at like once every 10 days now. We are normally 2-3 times a week. I also keep getting fever blisters on my mouth which doesn't help. Stupid lack of sleep.

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cja06 · May 2014

Wondering if I am the only one who hasn't had sex since giving birth...like not even attempted it? Sad, but true. DH won't allow it until he gets snipped, because his boss told him how their 4th child was a result of "one slipping past the goalie." His boss had a vasectomy and and a week later they found out they were pregnant. DH doesn't want to take any chances at all.

Good news is Friday is V-day. Bad news is after the surgery, he has to wack off like 25 times and then get re-tested to make sure it was effective, so we have at least 2-3 more weeks. I'm hoping I will get birthday sex on June 10. I really miss it.

SunflowersBride · May 2014

We are at about 2-3 times per week. A little less than before baby, but we are both so tired now that sleeping often takes priority!

MeganWorden · May 2014

1-2 x a week now (during pregnancy it was 3-4 times a week and prepregnancy it was at least every other day)

up until the last 2x it has been ok. Nothing special and not as good as pregnancy and prepregnancy sex. Then lo started going down for the night a little earlier and I feel like dh and I hot our groove back!

pregnant sex was fun but by the end we had to get really creative and I was starting to really miss normal sex!

KimberlyTX · May 2014

Once every other week or so. I'm so exhausted by the end of the day, and I'm struggling with my post-baby belly, so it's hard to get in the mood. Quality-wise, it's pretty much back to how it was pre-pregnancy.

SandFHasse · May 2014

1. Once or twice a week. It just depends on his work schedule.

2. Better then pregnant sex and better then before.

MiaMyPuggle · May 2014

1. Once a week if we are lucky. Pretty bad.

2. Hurts like hell and I'm not enjoying it at all. Praying he's done quickly and he drags it on bc he wants to get me off. He doesn't realize that it's awful for me right now. Haven't Oed in so long.......

km_md · May 2014

@bridefromafar - you aren't alone!

We haven't even attempted it. Between long, crazy schedules, lack of sleep, lack of birth control, it just hasn't worked out for us. I'm BFing so I can only do the mini pill, and I'm decent with NFP but I haven't had a period yet to go by. We don't even know for sure if we will be having a second and if we are, it isn't going to be right now! I guess we could pick up some condoms but neither one of us is super thrilled about that route.

peanutmuse · May 2014

@MiaMyPuggle -- why don't you tell him it's painful?

Sweetiejules12 · May 2014

We have ST 2-3 times a week, more if we are awake at our trailer. I think he like the rock and roll, plus the baby sleeps better there. I have to agree with PP my gag reflex is very bad since having the baby, I have almost puked twice on him. I think we are better together since having the baby, he really pleases me vs quickies, although a sneak away quickie is always nice.

MJamison1020 · May 2014

In the beginning it was once a week but the past month now that I'm back to work and we're back to some type of routine it is every other day, sometimes every day. We didn't do it much the last few months of pregnancy though so I feel like we're making up for lost time. And no one is hating that. I orgasm a lot easier and more often now. Thanks Baby.

MiaMyPuggle · May 2014

peanutmuse said:

@MiaMyPuggle -- why don't you tell him it's painful?

I did. But, I realize that I need to work thru the pain so we can have regular sex again. Happened with DS as well. Took a good few months until it was actually pleasurable. Tight and dry =\= a good time.

cowscrub · May 2014

2 to 3 x's a week most weeks. Some weeks none just because of crazy schedules.
It back to pre pregnancy I would say. I just wish my body was so I wasn't so self conscious about it all.

peanutmuse · May 2014

MiaMyPuggle said:

peanutmuse said:

@MiaMyPuggle -- why don't you tell him it's painful?

I did. But, I realize that I need to work thru the pain so we can have regular sex again. Happened with DS as well. Took a good few months until it was actually pleasurable. Tight and dry =\= a good time.

I guess I'm confused. If you told him (as stated above), then why doesn't he realize that it's awful (as stated below)?

MiaMyPuggle said:

2. Hurts like hell and I'm not enjoying it at all. Praying he's done quickly and he drags it on bc he wants to get me off. He doesn't realize that it's awful for me right now. Haven't Oed in so long.......

mrsjenni · May 2014

1. Around 3 times/week.

2. Sex is better since having kids. Harder to make time for. But better.

MiaMyPuggle · May 2014

@peanutmuse .... I told him that it hurts, not that's it's awful (as I see it) bc I don't want him to feel like shit bc our sex life right now is sub par and he's hurting me (unintentionally). I know that it will get better if we continue and I'll just work thru the pain. He still wants me to benefit from it, but it just doesn't work bc of how uncomfortable it is right now. Make sense?

valigrl21 · May 2014

1.) A few times a week.
2.)

Not good right now. It's still sort of painful. But I am trying to work through it.

ccip82 · May 2014

1. About 1-2 times per week now that I'm home.

2. It's good when I am in the mood too...which is only half the time...I've been exhausted lately.

karah4816 · May 2014

1. About 2-3 times a week which is way less than before the babies were born
2. Way better! I don't know why but my husband has gotten a lot more generous, I'm not questioning it just going with it.

peanutmuse · May 2014

MiaMyPuggle said:

@peanutmuse .... I told him that it hurts, not that's it's awful (as I see it) bc I don't want him to feel like shit bc our sex life right now is sub par and he's hurting me (unintentionally). I know that it will get better if we continue and I'll just work thru the pain. He still wants me to benefit from it, but it just doesn't work bc of how uncomfortable it is right now. Make sense?

Got it.

Sgriff1 · May 2014

WTH! Apparently the majority is 2-3 times a week. Jealous!

We're about once a week. We had one night of good sex, otherwise it seems to be quick and all about him

Pregnancy was hard, my big belly weirded him out so we weren't really doing it. I may have to look into this book everyone's referring to! It's pretty boring over here and I'm dying!

Roses87 · May 2014

1. We have only done it 2 or 3 times since giving birth (4months)

2. Its been good each time. We are just so busy and exhausted by the end of the day. I would like it to be more frequent. I want to invest in this sex book everyone is talking about.

eta: I was on pelvic rest most of pregnancy. I got the ok at about 36 weeks to come off pelvic rest. So after 36 weeks and going so long without it, it was amazballs.

candypantsls · May 2014

1-2 times/week. I'm good with that.

Averaging pre-preggo sex, and post-baby sex together, quality is about the same, but more intense sometimes.

sehudson821 · May 2014

I must get this book!

We're a couple times (1-3) per week. I'd say it's about the same as before. Only I don't want it nearly as often. I guess I'm still self conscious about my body.

MrsGraham06 · May 2014

Not as often as either of us would like, and we're interested on different days. We've probably had sex like 10 times in the last 4 months, more likely less.

Pregnant sex just got awful, but the big O was always amazing if I could get there. It's kind of hard to remember pre-pregnant sex quality, since I've got a 7 YO (I just know it changed). We are currently too tired to get back to the rabbit status that gave us our boys, but give it time (and sleep!) and we'll get there!

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