Feeling sad and anxious and exhausted

sasky · May 2014

I feel bad complaining like this but I just haven't felt like myself and I need to vent.

Obviously at 34 weeks I'm uncomfortable all the time. But I was not expecting the sadness and frustration that comes with it. I know there are people on bed rest with it a lot worse. But I am miserable that I can't do things and constantly have to ask for help. My family is more than willing to help, but I'm sure they are sick of my moods.

I'm anxious about this next phase of life. To the point where I'm questioning if this was the right decision, even though we went through so many fertility treatments to get here. I still have friends dealing with IF so I feel like an a-hole for feeling this way.

I try to get excited and I put on a happy face when people ask, but I'm mostly just sad and tired. Hoping I snap out of it soon and this is just one of the many ups and downs.

TheDairyQueenx3 · May 2014

Dont feel bad. You do not ease your way into parenthood of multiples (or singletons), basically belly flop face first into the waters of becoming mom and dad (for the first time or all over again). Even though pregnancy is 9 months that still is not the same once they are here.

It is scary and everything you feel is normal.

Once babies are here and you hold them for the first time those feeling will change, or they might not. Heck I am still adjusting to the fact I am a mom and my oldest is 4 years old. It never really sank in and I still don't feel ready. There is always that "next phase" when you become a parent and it never really gets easy. It just gets easier in some areas and harder in another.

Enjoy your time with your oldest while you can, don't ever feel bad and like you can't question it. You are about to start a new exciting and very scary chapter in life and im sure you are not the only one to feel this way. I know I felt exactly the same way the few weeks leading up to delivery.

pillowass · May 2014

My twins are almost 18 months and I have still not recovered mentally from the pregnancy, despite the fact that it was relatively smooth and uncomplicated. The loss of mobility is really, really hard to deal with, especially for someone who is used to getting things done without help. I love my babies so much (and I did then, too) but that does not take away from how difficult all of this is! (Don't even get me started on the unmitigated hell of the newborn phase!) Hang in there and try not to beat yourself up over these very normal feelings!

xtina78 · May 2014

So sorry you are having a hard time. You're going through a lot - your body is changing, your hormones are doing who knows what, and your life is going to change big time once babies are here. It's totally understandable to feel everything you're feeling. Try to give yourself permission to just feel the way you feel. But I would say if you notice anything like change in appetite, change in sleep, or really dark thoughts then definitely talk with your OB about it ASAP. A lot is known about PPD now, but depression/anxiety during pregnancy are a real thing too.

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