Update on my Dad and Your Love Stories

Samby86 · May 2014

I had asked for some healing thoughts last week for my dad as the doctors had found a tumor in his face. Last night we had a family meeting as my parents got the biopsy results and it is adenoid cycstic carcinoma. The doctor did say he has patients who live for decades after this but it is a cancer that likes to follow along nerves. He will need to have an all day surgery where they will remove his jaw, his ear bone as well as several face nerves. They are using his shoulder bone to build his jaw again. Or part of it anyways. It will look like he has had a complete stroke and his speech will be affected. But the doctor seems positive that he will still be able to smile and open and close his eyes. He will need to be off work for atleast 3 months from the surgery and then another 6 weeks for radiation. The doctor kept reasuring them that this is what he does and he is good at it.

I also mentioned that my parents are still so in love after almost 32 years of marriage. Because I believe in the power of positive thought, I was thinking about love last night and everyones love story. It also happens to be 2 years this month since my DH asked me to be his wife.

I came home from work and dinner was made. I thought this was very strange and even asked him what he wanted. He assured me nothing, he just was home early and thought he'd cook dinner. We ate. Right after dinner he stood up and said "You know how I told you that your wish was my command? Well some wishes just take longer than others" and he pulled out a ring and got down on one knee. I just kept saying "Your serious right now?". It wasn't super romatic but it was still perfect.

Would any of you be willing to share your engagement stories or for those of you not married I'd love to hear the story of how you met your SO. Let's turn my frown upside down. Share your love stories with me!

Bee1112 · May 2014

Hugs to you!

My H's proposal wasn't overly romantic, that just isn't us. It was while we were making dinner on a Tuesday. It really was perfect.

I love your story! It made me tear up a little bit! But I'm a huge baby like that.

JackoftheBox · May 2014

OH!! That's so romantic

It was Christmas time and we went to pick out a tree (i had never had a real Christmas tree before). We got it home and we were getting ready to decorate it. Well b/c we are a little sappy we get a new ornament each year to add to the tree. DH says "BTW I put the new ornament on the tree i hope you don't mind i picked it up?..." So I go over to find it and from a beautiful ribbon there is a gorgeous engagement ring hanging from the tree. DH then proposed. It was really sweet!

smg2302 · May 2014

FX that your dad recovers very quickly!!

DH got engaged at a Yankees game on the Jumbotron. Totally over the top and totally awesome. My classy self responded with "Are you f---ing kidding me?1?!!" and then 20 minutes later a yes.

nittanyllama · May 2014

So sorry about your dad, thinking of you and your family.

MH and I were living together in a tiny apartment next to a park in the town where I was going to grad school. He had the ring and waited for it to snow one night so we could take a walk in the park like we often did. I was bundled up in sweat pants and boots, he got down on one knee in the baseball field under the lights and told me why he loves me. He knows how much I love snow

carabassa27 · May 2014

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this.

As for our engagement story...H had gone on a trip to England with his family while we were in college. When he came back he told me he found the place where he wanted to ask me to marry him. After we had both graduated, we went to England together, and through hints he had dropped I'd gathered it would be in a garden somewhere. In Stratford-upon-Avon we went to three different gardens (related to Shakespeare somehow), and in the third I immediately saw the place he must have been thinking of. There was a bench in the shade of an ivy covered trellis, overlooking a fountain in the garden.

We sat down, and he said, "So, this is where I was sitting two years ago when I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you." I grinned. "So, will you marry me?" I (still grinning) said yes, we kissed, and he got out the ring. And I said "Holy crap!"

YellowBag · May 2014

Hugs for all your dad and your family are going through. I think that proposal was very sweet and romantic.

Spur of the moment we decided to blow off studying for finals and do some Christmas shopping in the next town. He started driving around the traffic circle that one side=Jared's, the other side=the mall. I thought he was fucking with me when he pulled in to Jared's. When the clerk asked how he could help us, D said "we're buying an engagement ring today." We did (and I had a panic attack over the price as D had literally just quit his job). He wouldn't let me have it until the next weekend. We took a spur of the moment trip to my hometown (a 4.5 hour drive in the middle of finals week) so he could ask for my parent's blessing. Then he asked me at my parent's kitchen table (while they were in the middle of a pinochle game) "So, you wanna get hitched?"

ImJessesGirl · May 2014

Thoughts and prayers for your dad and your family and that he recovers quickly and completely.

Jesse's proposal was a total surprise. We aren't very romantic or mushy people and I honestly thought he was months away from even being ready for such a thing. He took me back to where we had our first date, had our friends meet us there. He asked our friend who worked there to play the song "Sunshine" by G love and Special Sauce ... he stood up, got down on one knee, said a whole bunch of sweet things I couldn't hear over my blubbering and the music, and then asked me to marry him.

lizzyp9112 · May 2014

I am so, so sorry for everything your family is going to. My FIL was recently diagnosed with multiple myeloma cancer (now in remission!) so I understand a bit of the stress that puts everyone else through. Hugs to you all and our T&P are with you.

I actually blogged about our 'love story' this weekend- if anyone is interested I'll link HERE.

As far as the actual proposal, DH and I both love board games and he is a total Monopoly nerd. We went ring shopping (as the blog post discusses) and a few days after he picked up the ring he proposed. We were talking about playing Monopoly and I went to the bathroom, then came out to see this:

I don't even remember the exact words he said but we both cried and I said yes and it was beautiful.

I love reading everyone else's love stories, too! I appreciate how you took a bad situation and are trying to make something happy out of it.

mildlymailyn · May 2014

I'm sorry about your dad, thoughts and prayers for your family.

H proposed by putting together a video with pictures of us and then he got down on one knee and proposed. It was very sweet.

Funny related story- H was living in OR at the time and I was living in OH so he had the ring in his jacket pocket. He was going through security and put his jacket through the scanner and the female security guard told him that they would need to see what he had in his jacket. He pulled it out of the pocket for her and she laughed and said she knew what it was, she just wanted to see it. Very cute.

nannabee21 · May 2014

T&P's to you and your family. Healing thoughts to your dad's recovery.

My engagement was sweet. I kept begging H to take a Santa picture with me at the mall the whole time we dated and he never would. Well we were going to a Christmas tree lighting ceremony in the city and he told me to dress festively, so I did. When I got to his apartment, we left and he wouldn't tell me where we were going. We ended up at the mall and he said he would take a Santa picture with me. I was so excited. We sat on santa's lap and Santa asked us what we wanted for Christmas. I said snow (I'm in south LA). H then went into a whole sweet thing about how he wants nothing more than to be his wife (there was much more but it was a blur). He got down on one knee and proposed and the photographers got it all. We sent out Christmas cards that year with our engagement pics.

lizzyp9112 · May 2014

@YellowBag, DH asked for my parents blessing before proposing as well. Apparently he showed them the ring (they about passed out) and my dad said "Welcome aboard." He also showed the ring to his family when we had dinner with them that same weekend- he had thought about proposing in front of his family but saved it for a time when we would be alone. It was perfect

catahoulatte · May 2014

I'm glad the doctor has a great plan and is confident that your dad will be ok!

DH invited our family to his family's house to swim and barbecue. After we ate he went in and got dessert and came out with bowls for everyone but a box for me and got down on one knee with both of our families around us. It was sweet

suzysurparis · May 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My dad was diagnosed with multiple myeloma cancer last summer and he kept it secret from us until he could tell us in person. I dont know if that was a good thing or not, but when he mentioned 6-month life expectancies, I freaked out. Now he's in remission and he could be with us and normal for many years to come. But the beginning of these illnesses is so incredibly hard, it sounds like you have a good supportive partner to help you through it.

For proposal, I didnt have one. Living in France I was originally on a student visa and after two years of that I was done with French classes and wanted to get a normal family visa. We had already been PACsed, (a french civil union) which under the law would have allowed me to apply for a family visa since we'd been together more than a year. But I was afraid that my prefecture office would be difficult to deal with (they always were), so we went to our town hall to ask about our options. The middle-aged lady working there looked at our papers and said, "well, the only way you can be sure to stay in the country is to get married. And since it takes two months to do the paperwork to get married, and since I'm booked-up for weddings after the spring school holidays until your current visa expires in July, that gives us Saturday April 14 at 3pm or nothing." Being experienced enough in how things work in France, we said "okay, we'll take the reservation." Then walked back to our apartment realizing what we'd just agreed to do in just under two months.

kerbear135 · May 2014

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad's diagnosis, but glad to hear they think they can treat it. My mom is dealing with a type of kidney cancer that came as quite a surprise as well- so I can sympathize with how hard it is dealing with a sick parent.

As for a proposal- the proposal itself wasn't a surprise, but I had no idea how it'd go down. DH had told me on our 1 yr anniversary that he planned to propose on our anniversary next year (July). We broke up for a week the Nov after our 1st anniversary and so I wasn't sure if that was still his plan. As our 2nd anniversary got closer, the people around me started acting...funny...I lived 1.5 hrs away from my family and DH at the time and would call my Mom and she'd be really secretive about where she was or what she was doing (totally out of character for her...she's a terrible liar and she knows it).

I love reading everyone's love stories, so here's ours...sorry, it's a bit long...

DH and I have always been a fan of the Pirates of the Caribbean movies. The 2nd one was scheduled to hit theaters on our anniversary so we decided to get tickets to go to the midnight showing. We decided that DH and I would go to dinner by ourselves to celebrate, then meet up with our friends at the theater. I knew our anniversary wasn't technically until the next day, but I expected him to propose at dinner...and he didn't. So we met up with our friends at the theater and actually ended up getting in a bit of a tiff before the movie started b/c I was telling him a story and he totally wasn't paying attention to what I said and I got irritated. After the movie, everyone got ready to go their separate ways and DH told my Mom he'd take me home (I stayed at my parents' when I was in town). Across the street from the movie theater was a restaurant DH and I used to frequent (my friend had worked there when we first started dating) and DH and I would meet there after work when we first started dating. IThat parking lot is where he 1st told me he loved me...

We pulled in and he asked if we wanted to go ahead and exchange gifts. I gave him what I got him (a picture frame and a journal of love letter from the past year). He said mine was in the back of the jeep, and I would need to come back there and get it. In the back was a small treasure chest, with a ring inside. DH was so nervous that as he dropped to one knee, he almost kissed the bumper of his jeep with his forehead....

Afterwards, when we got back to my parents' house, our friends were there all waiting for us (I didn't expect that).

GirlOnTheBeach · May 2014

I'm so sorry for what your family is having to go through :-(

As for our engagement, DH lived in Puerto Rico and I lived in SC (only temporarily). We only saw each other a couple times through our whole 2 year relationship but we had been friends for years before. It just took living so far away from each other for us to start dating I guess :-)

Anyway, we met up in Florida on one of our visits. There is an old Spanish fort in St. Augustine that looks like the old fort in Puerto Rico. Both forts are right by the ocean and H had always planned on proposing to whomever he married by the sea. So in the evening at the beginning of our visit, he walked me over to the fort and said he couldn't imagine keeping up this long distance relationship anymore. It was too hard to keep saying goodbye. Then he asked if I would marry him :-)
I just thought it was neat that he got to propose the way he always wanted in a place that was so similar to his home :-)

Jags8 · May 2014

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. ((hugs)) I hope he has a quick recovery!

Well to start, DH and I went on a couple dates our senior year of high school. Our first one was at this nice Chinese restaurant. Also, he was on the baseball team, and I was a manager. So baseball has been a big part of our lives...

Flash forward to summer of 2011, we were living halfway across the country. We came back to our hometown for a visit. We went out for lunch at that same Chinese restaurant. Afterwards, he asked if I wanted to go check out our old high school baseball diamond, just for old times sake. I didn't think anything of it. We were standing on home plate, and I was bitching about the girl who had rear-ended me just days before, but DH started kissing me and acting weird. He said "Well I have something to ask you" and started digging in his pocket. I said "SHUT UP!!" Then he got down on one knee and popped the question, and I started laugh-crying. It was quite the surprise!

OnceInLoveWithAmy · May 2014

((hugs)) to you and prayers to your family.

My most favorite spot every is at the Barnegate Lighthouse on Long Beach Isand, NJ. In August 2009 we walked to the top and after looking around for a little bit, he got down on one knee and proposed. It was very simple, but it was perfect.

My husband and I also had our first kiss on the beaches of LBI, so for our wedding instead of a unity candle, we did a sand ceremony. We took sand from the beach of the lighthouse and the beach of where we first kissed and combined them. I still have it in a glass with random shells we've collected over the years on the mantle over our fireplace.

nittanyllama · May 2014

MauiBliss said:

--trimmed--

Our first date lasted 17 hours, we told each other we loved each other, he moved in two days later and a week later we started looking at engagement rings.

I am amazed by this sentence. Wow!

ToryKate · May 2014

Samby I'm so sorry to hear about what your dad is going through.

It is so sweet to hear about everyone's engagements

I was at a baby shower for a coworker Feb 13th. I thought H was maybe going to propose on Valentines Day. Well when I got home all of the lights were out, I turned them on and there was a thick carpet of red rose petals leading to the bedroom. I went into the bedroom and there was H on his knee with my ring. He asked, I said yes, it was simple and sweet! The funny/memorable thing was he ordered rose petals from 6 dozen roses, he didn't know how many he would need and didn't want to under-order. That is obviously too much, we were swimming in rose petals! I actually gave some to my sister to use on Valentines day.

merc5411 · May 2014

I'm so sorry your family is going through this. It sounds like he has a great doctor and a lot of support from his family. I will keep you all in my thoughts.

My proposal wasn't crazy or super romantic, but it was perfect to me. I got home from work on 11/11/11. My now-dh asked if I'd take the dog for a walk with him. I went to change out of my scrubs and when I got back to the kitchen I noticed he had on a suit jacket. He asked me to go out to the backyard with him and I saw that he had a fire in the fire pit and all of the tiki torches were lit. That's when I realized what was happening and I started crying. I don't remember what he said because I was in shock, which I really shouldn't have been since we'd been looking at rings. We sat outside by the fire pit and had a bottle of champagne. When we went back inside, I saw the time and got upset because I had missed the Tarheel basketball game. Then he told me he had DVRed it for me! We called our families and watched basketball. It was perfect. I found out later that one night when he said he was working, he really had gone to my parents and asked for their permission.

I love reading everyone's stories!!

usfchic8 · May 2014

I am sorry to hear about your dad, T&Ps for you and your family.

Our engagement: 6 years ago today, DH proposed at a concert for Radiohead (we're huge fans) during my fave song. He literally sent me to get beers and when I came back, I couldn't find him because he had taken off his top shirt. When I finally found our blanket (lawn seats, lol), he turned and dropped to one knee and busted out the ring. Since he knew it would be dark, he had a black under shirt with glued ironed on "name, will you marry me?" He said some real sweet stuff I could not hear but I loved it. He even had champagne in a cooler in the trunk for after.

aggiebug · May 2014

Hug. It is always hard to watch those you love go through so much. T&P for your family and the Drs

My DH and I dated for a month broke up but stayed friends. He would ask for advice for his gfs in that time. We eventually started dating again (obviously) and never looked back. I tease him for asking me advice about other girls.

He proposed under the century tree on campus after his graduation. With our families and my BFF there.

hydrangea1019 · May 2014

Our engagement story starts off a little rocky, but it turns out perfectly

We were back in his hometown and we were going to go to dinner. We were a little tired so we thought we'd take a nap first. We didn't wake up on time, which I was ok with, but he clearly was not happy. So we rushed to get ready and on our way out he told me he wanted to go to the beach first.

He's speeding like a mad man and I finally told him 'I don't care how dark it is when we get to the beach, I just want to get there in one piece!' We got to the beach, walked a bit as the sun was setting, and he got down on one knee and proposed. I honestly was in complete shock. It was also the same spot he first told me he loved me ❤️

Then I proceeded to chase down a family, I'm sure they thought I was crazy!! I wanted them to take our picture

T&P to you, your father, and family.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · May 2014

MauiBliss said:

NittanyMama said:

MauiBliss said:

--trimmed--

Our first date lasted 17 hours, we told each other we loved each other, he moved in two days later and a week later we started looking at engagement rings.

I am amazed by this sentence. Wow!

We've been together 12 years and married for 9.

this is the definition of when it's right, it's right

4RingCircus · May 2014

::Hugs:: I will keep your family in my T&Ps. I hope my story helps you smile

DH was able to pull off an amazing surprise proposal. He had my Bestie break into my apartment and get a picture of a ring I loved. He had it made in secret. When it was ready, he had my Bestie tell me about a supposed buy one get one free deal at a wine country B&B. We already had plans for the following weekend to ski in Tahoe so I never thought he would go for it. He said he sold some stuff on ebay so we should go to the B&B with my Bestie & her DH too. The day we were leaving for the B&B he supposedly went to look at a washing machine with Bestie's DH (he was really picking up my ring). I had been starting to think he was acting weird & not as serious about me as I was him (it had been over a year). My Bestie said her DH had to do a work thing so they would meet us at the B&b later. When we got to the B&B I was hungry so we could grab lunch across the street. That is when he pulled out the ring & dropped to one knee (he couldn't wait any longer lol). I was in shock & also dropped to my knees to hug him. We went to lunch on cloud 9 & my Bestie & her husband showed up with flowers & took pics for us. That night we all went out to celebrate. The next weekend when we met a bunch of friends in Tahoe to snowboard I still couldn't believe the man of my dreams asked me to be his wife. We were tired of the long distance romance so we got married 6 months later & love each other more each day

CaveWmnInBrit · May 2014

Heart is with you regarding your father- my family has had several members struck by cancer over the last decade and it is a whole family affair. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

On a more uplifting note- I was proposed to in a toilet, after my DH make me scream in fright horror movie style.

DH and I were living in Boston, MA and Birmingham, UK and we were to get "engaged" during his two week visit and attend our Catholic engaged encounters weekend (you can see it was all very romantic). He flew in a few days early, drove 3 hours to NY to ask my Dad, came back to Boston and was going to propose to me at work- but I went home early bc I had not slept on the red-eye flight home. He was then going to propose at rugby training- but I wasn't going bc I had broken myself. So my DH is sitting outside of my house in a rental car- using my wifi to talk to me online trying to figure out how to get into my house. He knows when I am home the backdoor is unlocked for the dog. So I say I am going downstairs to check the mail to see if my "engagement ring" came (a low cost artificial sapphire because you know we were poor) and come back up to a scuffling in the bathroom. Assuming the idiot dog got himself closed in I push the door open, it hits something much bigger then a dog, I scream at the top of my lungs, the door rebounds open to show DH struggling to get a ring out of his suit jacket.

18 months later DH set fire to that suit jacket at friends wedding- the marriage lasted 3 months- maybe it was an omen

WestIsleFlower · May 2014

DH and I were apart for about 5 months because I was still in school and he had started his career as an engineer. It was my first time seeing him for about 6 weeks (Labor day weekend), and I was so excited! He told me to pack a little black dress for our first date since we are going to a fancy steak house (he wore a purple shirt and tie). So we went and ate, then we went mini-golfing (it was what we did on our first date), and went back to the apartment. He told me to close my eyes and brought out this caricature (posted below, we also got a caricature on our first date), and popped the question. It was so sweet and perfect.

He talked to my mom and his parents beforehand so basically everyone in my family knew except me

Edit: I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am sending positive thoughts your way. I hope your dad is in the best hands possible.

traversity773 · May 2014

Hugs to you and your family, I hope surgery goes well and your dads recovery goes well.

Engagement: We were not in a position to get married, we both quit good jobs and moved to michigan for H to go to school. We found out I was pregnant, and H asked if he asked me, would I say yes. I said I didn't want to rush it just because I was pregnant. But at this point, any time he suggested anything romantic, I expected a ring.

One night at work, I had a patient whose visitor was trying to sneak in drugs, and he got kicked off the unit ( I worked on a psychiatric unit). The pt had wanted to give him money from the safe, but not the weed that was ALSO in the bag. He confronted me in the hallway and was threatening but I made my way on the unit.

I left the hospital that night shaken and a little nervous to be walking through a quiet hospital lobby at 10pm at night by myself to the parking garage, thinking about this threatening person. I see someone at my car. I immediately freaked out and started crying, then realized it was my H.

He dropped down on one knee, and proposed. I was crying the entire time, now from happiness. He wanted it to be a surprise. lol

Have a cookie and some wine for my long ass story.

MrsZ1891 · May 2014

I'm so sorry about your dad and that your family is going through this. I think its really awesome that your parents are still so in love!

DH and I met 4 1/2 years before we started dating. He started bar tending at a restaurant I worked at. I thought he was super hot but I was dating someone else and so was he. I would always check the schedule to see if he was working or not. We both moved away. Fast forward and we both had moved back and started talking to each other over the phone a lot. We started dating a month later and were engaged 2 months after that. DH didn't do a real proposal I guess. We were at FreeBirds and he made me a ring out of tin foil and asked if I wanted to elope and spend the rest of our lives together. We didn't elope but we did get married 6 months later!

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