AW: made RE appt

BookishMomma · May 2014

We have our first consult with an RE a week from tomorrow! I am feeling such a mix of emotions-- part of me is wallowing in self pity and having a hard time accepting that this is where our process has led us. But the part of me that picked up the phone to make the appointment is looking forward to someone (hopefully) knowing more about RPL and taking our concerns seriously. Even though I'm still bleeding from my D&C last week, making the appointment makes me feel like we're doing something to start the process of getting more information and figuring out our options. I'm nervous about the appointment, so any words of advice or thoughts about what to expect from a first RE appointment are welcomed!

In other news, a few days ago I finally finished my course of post-op Flagyl that the doctor prescribed (I couldn't have any alcohol while taking it-- snap!). Tonight I plan on pouring myself a big glass of wine.

Frenchteachermama · May 2014

((HUGS)) I wish I live close by so we could have a huge glass on wine together!! I felt/feel EXACTLY the same way that you do about the RE appointment. I am so glad that I decided to see an RE and get more serious testing done. Even though I am happy that I now know that there is something "not normal" with my body, it was really hard to hear. I don't regret going because now I have a team of doctors and nurses in place who are going to help me through this part of my journey.

If you want to talk more send me a PM. I'm here for you!!!

megrae12 · May 2014

I am going for my first RE appointment on the 19th. So I am very interested in this as well. FX you get a good plan, love. ((Hugs))

TVLily · May 2014

I'm so sorry your journey has lead you here; but I completly understand being torn of miserable/excited feelings for seeing an RE.

As for the first appt it's a lot of history. My RE did a u/s and bw on mh and I. If you get your history from your ob to bring with you that would be helpful. Make sure YH is with you. Start writing a list of questions you have and don't be afraid to take notes.
GL, I'm thinking of you.

MrsG80inTN · May 2014

FX for a great appt with lots of answers for you. I'm proud of you for making the appointment. I need to follow in your footsteps.

TVLily · May 2014

A lot of REs websites that I saw when I was looking for mine have a FAQ section and may include a "what to expect your first appt" break down. So check to see if this is something yours has.

SamanthaLaura16 · May 2014

I had such a hard time making an appointment with a RE because I felt like it finally made my problems real (as weird as that sounds). But I was soo glad that I did. I felt so much better after the appointment and we made a plan right there and then. Good luck!

MyFirstRaspberry · May 2014

I left my first RE appt a few weeks ago feeling better about the future. On top of that, my RE found out that I have retained tissue from my last D&C - I would have never known why my cycles sucked so bad.

I hope you get excited about making this next step. It is a good thing.

luciddreamer106 · May 2014

I'm glad you took that step forward to make an appointment. I think that was the hardest part for me, accepting that it was what I needed to do and seeking help. Good luck at your appointment.

Courtney1741 · May 2014

First of all I just want to say I am hoping you get some answers!! ((hugs)) hun! I am going through the EXACT same emotions you are right now except that I haven't made the jump to make an appt with an RE yet. I think I am going to make that set tomorrow now that I have my insurance issue straightened out! Lots of ((hugs)) sent your way!

Denise91980 · May 2014

((Hugs))
I am so sorry that the road led you here but glad you made the appointment and will get some answers. The initial consultation (at least for me) was a lot of information gathering and talking about all the RPL testing he wanted to do. He also did an ultrasound, but I am not sure if that is standard. Best of luck to you.

Km380 · May 2014

Everything @tvlily said. I also had to go back for more tests once AF came on certain CDs. You might want to warn YH that in addition to bloodwork he may have to make a uh contribution. MH thought I was kidding and was a bit thrown when they asked if he wanted a take home cup or to do it right then! I'm sorry this journey has brought you to this point but taking the first step is huge. My other word of advice is be prepared there is still a possibility that after all the tests they may have no answer. But the RE will still have a plan to help you as best they can (that's the boat I'm in) GL!

BookishMomma · May 2014

Km380 I realize there's a strong possibility there may be no "answer" even after testing. But given that I don't have oodles of time (I'm 34 like you), I want to at least look into things and have a plan, like you said.

Buttercup509 · May 2014

I don't have any advice, just (((hugs)))

MSU_Girl1202 · May 2014

((Hugs)) I'm glad you took the step and made an appointment.
At our first appointment, she basically took a good history, did a physical and ultrasound and took blood work (including insulin level to see if I have PCOS, FSH, LH, thyroid studies, progesterone, etc)
She also asked if we wanted to do genetic screening, and gave us the option of 'basic' genetic screening and the 'sequencing' (more detailed). I didn't want to do this at first, but am really glad I did, especially since I found out I am a carrier for not only one, but three pretty bad genetic diseases (luckily, DH is not, so the worst that can happen, is that there's 50% chance our child will be a carrier as well).
She also gave us two HUGE folders of information : where to get cheap drugs, how to do self-injections, resources for accupuncture / massage therapy, etc etc
Then she went through all the different options that we had (IVF, IUI, clomid, femara, follistim, etc)
Anyways, I'm really glad that I'm seeing a RE, but my advice would be 1. write down everything you want to ask beforehand because it can get pretty overwhelming in there and 2. don't let your RE push you one way or another...as I've learned over going to my RE, this is really not a science, and you should do as much or as little as you're comfortable doing .

GOOD LUCK!

BethKate2 · May 2014

I'm sorry your journey has brought you to this point. I'm sure making that call wasn't easy, but hopefully it means you have some answers soon.

Enjoy your wine!

Km380 · May 2014

@bookishmama‌ I hope you didn't think I meant it's not worth going. It definitely is worth it. I'm so glad we went! But I wasn't fully prepared to still be "unexplained" , I didn't have these wonderful ladies in my life yet to give me that heads up

jbasore1123 · May 2014

I'm sorry you are at this point in your journey but I'm glad you're moving forward. FX that you get some answers

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kr_ry · May 2014

I am glad you get an appointment next week. Hopefully you can find a good plan for how to proceed. Enjoy that glass of wine!

BackstreetPixie · May 2014

::hugs:: my first appointment ,mainly was just talking about what is going on and ordering a lot of blood work. Mine refused to do anything further until I lost weight. I lost 53 pounds after that because i was determined to get help. Hole your apointment goes well.

AggieBeth06 · May 2014

(((hugs)))

LaRomana09 · May 2014

I'm glad you're taking the next step, and I hope you're able to get some answers. My only suggestion would be to get your medical records sent over with any previous tests you have had (BW, etc.), because I forgot to do that with mine. Good luck!

kvlady82 · May 2014

Going to the RE was the first time that I felt positive and it made me feel like there was a "set plan." I hope everything goes well for you!! ((hugs))

Oh, and cheers, to the glass of wine!!! You deserve it!