I'm in shock..Am I crazy?

divajackie67 · May 2014

I was at work today talking to one of the guys. There was a company picnic yesterday and we didn't make it because it was just smack in the middle of my sons nap time and it ended at 5pm. His bed time is 7pm and I didn't want him falling asleep in the car because it is about a 45 minute drive and it would have thrown off his schedule. There are times we ignore schedule to get things done, but this just didn't feel worth it.

In any case..This guy at work asked me why I couldn't make it. He has a 14 month old. I said I didn't want to mess with my sons nap and asked how his daughter did with the nap change. He laughed and said "Oh Diva naps when she wants. We don't have a schedule." I said oh ours is flexible, but he's always asleep sometime between 1pm-5pm when the party was. I asked when her bedtime was out of curiosity and he said "If we can get Diva to go to sleep by 10pm it's a miracle." I know people have different schedules so I assumed she slept in late, but he said she wakes up at 6am for the day. I am not really a judgy (is that word) type of person and I know all kids/families are different, but I was still shocked.

Now this...this I judged! He said "Yes, she was up watching Game of Thrones with me last night." Are you kidding??? They let a 14 month old watch Game of Thrones? It borders on Porno most of the time and there is so much death.

I would NEVER let me son watch that at this age let alone want to watch that with him even if he was a teenager. The most adult TV I've ever watched around him is the Food Network. Diners, drives, and dives, Iron Chef, etc. He normally doesn't even watch. I will have it on while my husband is playing and I'm cooking or cleaning. I'm not perfect by any sense of the word. I didn't say anything because his family/his life, but then I wondered..Am I crazy and over protective or something?

swelniak · May 2014

Eh my kid is 13 months and he is asleep by 8 or 8:30, so he's never up for GoT, but he wouldn't notice/understand/retain anything if he was watching it. If your kid walked in on you having sex at this age, do you think they'd understand it? Even more so, they're not going to get what's on TV. Now would I let my 2 year old watch it? No. But I wouldn't care if it was on when he was awake at this age.

swelniak · May 2014

And just as an addition, my son doesn't even care about cartoons and is so active, we never even have the tv on really while he's awake because we can't pay attention to it.

Beth.1212 · May 2014

No, I don't think so. Babies need sleep to develop properly. Some babies are low sleep needs, but it sounds like this kid is getting 8-10 hours per day, which just doesn't sound like enough to me.

GoT is a great show, but TOTALLY inappropriate for a child! Personally I keep my LO away from TV at this age, but it seems reasonable to let a LO in our age range watch a little appropriate tv - like Sesame Street. I can't imagine seeing someone sautéing chicken would do any harm, but GoT?! Seriously?!

I probably wouldn't have said anything either, but wow, that's some crazy parenting going on in my opinion.

minervacullen · May 2014

DD didn't go to sleep until 10 last night, she was talking and making other various noises forever before she finally went to sleep. I had to wake her at 7 to bring DS to school.
She went down for her nap at 11 and should up soon.
I watch nearly anything with her in the room. Unless there's singing or clapping of some sort, she won't even pay attention. Even if she did watch 10 minutes of whatever adult show I was watching, I doubt she'd even get anything.
If I feel it's too scary, like if I'm watching something like Bitten or American Horror Story, I'll turn it off and watch it when the kids are in bed.
I agree with PP when she's 2 I won't, but she's mostly oblivious right now.

divajackie67 · May 2014

If he walked in while we were having sex. We'd stop doing what we were doing so he'd only see a second...we would not make a good ol show of it in front of him. I guess that's the difference to me. Game of Thrones would be way more graphic.

Thank you ladies for your perspective. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in your own little world it's hard to see things from a different one.

I do know I'm a bit overprotective and now even more so, but my son will pay attention to the TV. So maybe it just seems crazy to me because I know he'd watch it.

ss265 · May 2014

See I would have judged the fact that he lets her stay up past 10pm and that she wakes up at 6am. Kids need their sleep and I can't believe that she only gets 8 hours of sleep a night. DS get at least 10-11 hours of sleep every night.

jnnfrrose6 · May 2014

I know there was a big difference in what DS noticed/caught his attention on the TV between 14 months, 18 months (where it looks like you are almost based on siggy), and 20 months (where DS is now). He wouldn't have even glanced at the TV at 14 months unless there was singing or dancing, so GoT on wouldn't have been a big deal. It's more so now as he's starting to figure out that there's stuff going on on the TV that he can pay attention to, though even that is pretty limited.

As to DS being awake when GoT is on? Nope, not happening just because of the hour. He's in his crib by 7:30. Whether he's asleep quickly or not is on him, but I'd be judging having your kid up at 10pm, especially with waking around 6 and not consistently napping, way more than the 14 month old being awake with GoT is on. I honestly don't understand how people function like that, in my completely judgemental opinion.

honeydew01 · May 2014

Nicb13 said:

Nothing surprises me anymore with parents. Everyone has their own way of doing things and even if I don't agree with the things I hear IRL, there's really nothing you can do or say about it without pissing someone off.
On here, it's much easier to be open and honest because people are actually asking for advice/opinions, even if the truth is sometimes too harsh for them. IRL, people just talk about their lives and stuff comes up where I'm like "WTF, you DO that????" but I can't say that to them without sounding like an asshole. There are exceptions to this of course.

This!

dufferoo · May 2014

Eh, I think there's a lot worse things a parent can do. For me, one really nice thing about having a second kid is that all the things I felt superior about with my first came back and bit me in the ass this time around, therefore I've learned to be a little less judgey. If your co-worker's sleep non-schedule is working for his family, then I really don't see the problem. Now if you actually know his kid, and he's a miserable over-tired disaster all the time, then by all means, judge away

Regarding GOT, I've never seen it, but I would tend to worry less about content with a really little kid like this guy's than an older child who might honestly be disturbed by it.

dufferoo · May 2014

oops duplicate post

dufferoo · May 2014

oops again

jbatch · May 2014

I think watching a show while your child is in the room if they are not watching it is one thing. But in your post you said that the child was catching up on GoT. If the child was actually watching then yes I would be judging. I watch some shows in the room while LO is awake but if she starts paying attention I turn it off or distract her.

The sleep thing just seems not smart but if it works for them then whatever works I guess. My brothers kids stay up way later than my LO because they are pastors so they have church stuff late a lot but they also sleep in until 9 or 10 a lot of the time so it works for them. I on the other hand have to have my LO up and in the car before 6:30 so we do not stay out nearly as late.

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