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Who wants to give legal advice? lol

ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
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I'll try to make this as short as I can.  My mom lost her house to foreclosure about 3 years ago and at that time my brother and I went there and took stuff of ours and some family mementos.  Fast forward to about a year and a half ago and she's freaking out that she's losing her apartment imminently and there's no way she can she get out all the "special things."  At the time neither my brother nor I were in a speaking relationship with her.  She told us to come to her apartment and "take anything you want" and she left us alone in the apartment for HOURS to dig through total chaos to find family pictures, things that had belonged to our grandparents, etc.  I told her at the time that I would never return those things because I had rearranged my life to come and do this and SHE wants us to take it so it's safe and she agreed.

Our relationship has been on a downward spiral and today something happened that set her right off.  She told me she wants some of "her" stuff back.  She said I could leave my garage open so she can dig through without bothering me which will NEVER happen.  Nope.  But more importantly, in my mind, none of that is hers anymore.  She gave it to me, in essence.  I want to tell her no fucking way but I wouldn't put it past her to call the cops while standing on my porch.  Will they/can they make me give it to her?  It's pictures and shit, not like, her tax paperwork or whatever so couldn't it just as easily honestly be mine?  (which really, I still maintain that it now IS mine)
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Re: Who wants to give legal advice? lol

  • tttwalterstttwalters member
    finders keepers losers weepers... In all seriousness though, this totally sucks and I hope you can get it sorted out. 

     

     

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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    @34blondie I know you feel my pain.  I'm just so tired of it all.  I can't do this for the rest of her life.  Ugh.
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  • DaisyDuck40DaisyDuck40 member
    I use to live in Arkansas and I had people tell me (I never actually looked it up so I don't know if it's true or not) but if someone leaves something on your property after 30 days it legally becomes yours....

    so for example if I left a book at your house and I came and got it like 3 months later you could refuse to give it to me because it would be legally yours....

    like I said I never actually looked it up so I don't know if it's true or not but you might want to see if your state might have something similar to that.

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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    @kames12 thanks and whoa, that's crazy!  Nobody deserves the parents some of us get dealt :(
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    Sooo...a glimpse further into my mother's insanity.  This is the email I sent her:

    Chris and I are completely aligned on this.  We came and busted our
    asses because you hysterically begged us.  You told us that anything we didn't take would be going in the trash and I was very clear to you that this situation would never happen again - that anything we took we were taking for good.  You knew that going into it.  We did not
    bust our asses to save your memories.  We did it to save our memories and you said you understood that.

    This is what I got back:
    Completely aligned....hahahahaha  You and your corporate lingo!  I have no idea how you can stand yourself.  You have become the most cold hearted, evil person I've ever known.  You can say whatever you want about me but, at least, I have a heart.  I wouldn't want to be you for anything.  Thank you for making it easier to never see you again. 
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  • ColieAnn31ColieAnn31 member
    Ugh, I'm so sorry your mom is being like this!
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  • mrskait13mrskait13 member
    elmoali said:
    Sooo...a glimpse further into my mother's insanity.  This is the email I sent her:

    Chris and I are completely aligned on this.  We came and busted our
    asses because you hysterically begged us.  You told us that anything we didn't take would be going in the trash and I was very clear to you that this situation would never happen again - that anything we took we were taking for good.  You knew that going into it.  We did not
    bust our asses to save your memories.  We did it to save our memories and you said you understood that.

    This is what I got back:
    Completely aligned....hahahahaha  You and your corporate lingo!  I have no idea how you can stand yourself.  You have become the most cold hearted, evil person I've ever known.  You can say whatever you want about me but, at least, I have a heart.  I wouldn't want to be you for anything.  Thank you for making it easier to never see you again. 

    Wow... I can't believe this is mother saying that stuff. :\ I'm sorry for what you are having to deal with. It's probably better that she is "never seeing you again".
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  • DaisyDuck40DaisyDuck40 member
    @elmoali‌ I'm sorry you're going through this.

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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    Thanks everyone.  I wish I could say this is the only example I have of her talking to me like this but it's not.  When I was looking for the "stuff" emails I found the one she wrote that said "You stole my grandson from me.  I hate you and I hate your husband."  I had forgotten about that one.  My brother and I got to talking about how extremely fucked up it is that emails like that are so frequent that we actually forget ones that would be SO horrible for other people to receive, kwim?  Like, that would be something most of you would never forget if your own mother said that to you but we just add it to the pile :(
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  • Junemom2013Junemom2013 member
    Im sorry you have to deal with this. that is horrible that your "mother" would say those things to you. It may be a blessing that she will never see you again. 
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