Night feedings

sayysayy13 · April 2014

I was just wondering if you're significant others help out with night feedings? My husband very rarely does the night feedings because he has to work in the a.m . But even weekends he rarely does night feedings helps out great during the days (weekends)

thomas930 · April 2014

I'm EBFing so there is nothing for DH to do.

KatieGummow · April 2014

He does when both babies are crying at the same time, or if I am pumping and can't grab one of them. He is still working right now (taking May off) so I try to let him sleep through the night. When he is on paternity leave it is going to be a different story. When he takes just one baby it saves me like 30 minutes which is so nice!

On the weekends I ask my husband to take over the last feeding and take the boys out of the room so I can pump and sleep in. When he gets a full nights sleep he is really helpful all day.

Stace0616 · April 2014

My husband currently takes the early night shift (until 3am) while I nap and wake up only to pump and go back to bed. Then, I'm "on call" from 3am onward. With him going back to work, he is going to try and feed/change LO so he is asleep in his crib by 1am. Then we can enjoy some time just the two of us cuddling in bed.

cfthoct292011 · April 2014

DH helps when he gets in from work...i let him sleep at night. He works 6 days a week so i don't push him. But once her jaundice clears up we'll be back to EBF.

MissWhis · April 2014

I'm EBF, but he gets up and changes her diaper and also helps out if I can't get her back to sleep after a feeding. Although when he's working I do it all. He wants to be a part of the overnight stuff - it makes him feel good to tackle it as a team. I appreciate it, too, as it gives me a little more rest.

Linnea503 · April 2014

I'm a SAHM and EBF so I am handling all the overnights right now. DH is 100% in charge of our two year old for bedtime and overnight. He also takes care of dinner clean up, grocery shopping, and anything else that needs to be done. He's been taking the baby on weekend mornings too so I can get a little more sleep.

nursewinnie · April 2014

DH has started a new job and he works 11pm to 730am so I'm here alone and it's been ok. I EP so even when he was here at night, I never woke him to help with her. I had to get up and pump anyways so there wasn't any point.

Thorpe27 · April 2014

I'm BF, or trying to, at night but he wakes up and makes sure I'm ok and goes back to sleep after I've got a good latch an baby has started feeding regularly

ksulli · April 2014

EBF, so no. He often does wake since we're all in one room and he'll rub my back or hold my hand half conscious which I think is sweet & supportive, but I still diaper & burp her.

lcr23 · April 2014

I'm EBF and DH works until 2am but I'll ask him to change her but that's about it.

fourthnlast · April 2014

thomas930 said:
I'm EBFing so there is nothing for DH to do.

This. No point in both of us waking up. Thankfully, it's pretty quick now and she goes right back to sleep in the RnP.

joyfullyfound · April 2014

Nope. We're EBFing so there's nothing for DH to do and I don't get the logic of waking him up just because I'm up. I'd rather someone in our house actually be getting some sleep, haha.

Abcollins57 · April 2014

dani+california said:
DH has 3 weeks off and has been getting up with me for every feeding. He brought a camping chair into the nursery, and sits across from me while I BF in the glider. He changes diapers, swaddles DS and keeps me company while I nurse.

I've told him a million times he doesn't have to, but he insists on being there while he can, before he goes back to work. I love it! He brings me food and water too. Makes these first few weeks a little more bearable.

That is awesome!

SoulTermination · April 2014

DH and I are still trying to work out a system. He works until 2am in 12-hour shifts, so he's usually pretty worn by the time he gets home. I can't seem to nap during the day - LO is extremely difficult about sleeping in her crib, and I don't feel comfortable sleeping with her on the bed. She seems to hate her swing. =/ Right now, unless I hear her hungry cry, whichever of us is the least tired and frustrated gets up with LO and tries to get her asleep again.

babym6705 · April 2014

I EBF so he can't really help with that, but I'm also recovering from a csection so he will get out of bed to get the baby from the crib and will put the baby back into the crib after the feeding bc for some reason the pain at night of getting in and out of bed is still pretty uncomfortable. He will do a diaper change if I ask but I try not to ask unless I really need help bc DH is back at work and I am staying home and can take naps throughout the day if I really need too.

spalumb9 · April 2014

I am EP so DH feeds the baby the bottle while I pump. This works nicely for overnights.

Emztron500 · April 2014

Baby is EBF and we have a pretty easy night feeding routine - I've always woken up briefly around 4 am anyway (weird I know) so now I wake the baby then, feed her, watch some tv, nurse her back to sleep, and sleep in past when DH gets up and goes to work. However, when baby's being grouchy at night and won't go to sleep when I'm tired, I'll feed her and then go to bed while DH rocks and soothes her for an hour or two and then puts her down for me, and that helps a lot.

MadBloom · April 2014

DH had a hernia repair surgery 4 days after Penelope was born. He's on pain meds, can't lift anything, can't drive, and can't bend over. So it's all me, all the time. My mom stayed with us until this past Sunday and helped a TON (cooking, cleaning, taking a morning shift between feedings so I could sleep etc) but now it's just me doing like 90% of the work. DH might go get like a bottle of water for me or hand me a diaper but that's it. He can hold her on the boppy while sitting but I have to pass her to him and take her from him.

maelic · April 2014

Husband and I both work from home and since I'm the boss I'm not exactly on maternity leave.

He gets up, changes baby's diaper, hands me baby, I nurse, and then he puts her back down once she's done. Hell no I'm not doing this all myself if I don't have to.

Mustardseed2007 · April 2014

eme520 said:

Yes, he does, but we have a complicated schedule. She has reflux and has to be held upright 20 min after getting a bottle of expressed milk and then I have to pump which never takes less than 45 min from start to finish. The whole cycle is 1.5 hours and when I did it on my own I was sleeping 4 hours a night with no sleep during the day since she won't sleep on a flat surface during the day. Nearly 4 weeks of getting that little sleep and MH offered to give her the bottle and hold her upright at night. For now it's working for us and yes, I am very lucky to have this help.

this is similar to what we're doing.

fireflygirl12 · April 2014

We're EBF and DH is pretty useless if he doesn't get enough sleep, whereas I function really well on very minimal sleep. I take care of both kids overnight (although DS1 rarely wakes up), I get DS1 up and ready for daycare in the morning and DH drops him off. I pick him up and take care of both kids for a few hours and then DH takes DS1 when he gets home and does the bath/bedtime routine. It's mostly helpful for him to help out with DS1 right now since he is such a ball of energy and I have a hard time keeping up.

fourthnlast · April 2014

babym6705 said:
I EBF so he can't really help with that, but I'm also recovering from a csection so he will get out of bed to get the baby from the crib and will put the baby back into the crib after the feeding bc for some reason the pain at night of getting in and out of bed is still pretty uncomfortable. He will do a diaper change if I ask but I try not to ask unless I really need help bc DH is back at work and I am staying home and can take naps throughout the day if I really need too.

I slept on the couch the first 2 weeks. Getting in and out of bed hurt the incision way too much!

deidremaria · April 2014

The first couple nights my bd would bring the baby to me and return him to his pack n play because I'm recovering from a Caesarian. Now I'm able to get up on my own. My bf still insists on getting up with me even though we're EBF. He's way better at burping than I am so I feed and he burps and changes.

LittleLady77 · April 2014

I pretty much do all the feedings. If the babies are really screaming he will get up and feed one while I feed the other (which usually happens once a night). I prefer my husband well rested!

AmberLiz99 · May 2014

He helped once a night during the first week, but now he's back at work so I'm on my own. Luckily she only woke up twice last night.

CalinAZ · May 2014

I wake up DH after I finish the first side (EBF) and he burps LO and changes his diaper. It's really nice to just get to stay seated and/or go use the bathroom and I think having the company makes me feel less alone/overwhelmed with the night feedings. DH is a very heavy sleeper and literally only wakes up from me calling him and then goes right back to sleep, so he maybe loses 20 minutes altogether and is happy to help. He feels like he gets enough sleep, so I will definitely keep taking the help

snmetz7 · May 2014

If he is awake (which is 50/50) he will change her diaper. Every now and ten he will tell me to go back to sleep whn she wakes and give her a bottle. We combo feed bu it's much easier an faster to bf at night so if he isn't awake already I don't wake him

ckred27 · May 2014

Now that I am back to work DH is helping. Up until now, I did all the night time feedings and was EBF, over the last week we have transitioned into doing both breast feeding and formula feeding w. bottles. DH takes any feedings before 2 am and I take anything after 2 am

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