How to deal... Update

Christal161 · May 2014

(Mobile bumping, so bare with me please!) Since LO was born, all I keep worrying is about SIDS. I know what you might be thinking, take a chill pill or calm down and just enjoy the heck out of your little one! Somehow, the days are starting to get long when all you do is watch to make sure he's breathing or anything. Before putting feeding+bed time, I was just looking at him and he was smiling and laughing and it made me start to cry. I doesn't help when I'm not getting any support (beside SO) on how to deal with this. My sister thinks I'm exagerating everything. I've already talked to my OB about what's going on, she says I should speak with my family Dr. right away.. unfortunatly his office his 1hour away and we don't have a car (we walk or use the public transit) so I'm just left with trying to deal with this. Could this be another sign of depresion after bith? Or just my own depresion (I was diagnost before my pregnancy, but got off my pills during my pregnancy with the supervision of my OB&Dr.) Update : So since I couldn't take it, went to the ER. Talked to a nurse and doctor and they told me I'm not suffering from depression, just anxiety. I'm glad I'm not depress and that within a year I should be good (with the help of pills I guess) and thanks again for all of the advice!

sopranoali · May 2014

I'm confused...is your question about SIDS or depression? If you are worried about SIDS, I highly recommend you buy a Snuza. We have the Snuza hero.

spark88 · May 2014

My friend is the same way. She admits she should of seen someone. She did end up buying the angel care monitor for some peace of mind.

nlane0723 · May 2014

Get Angelcare. I worried too and now that she's in her crib at night, I can get a good nights sleep without checking on her a couple times a night.

bingbongsmama · May 2014

Since you were dx with depression and are experiencing anxiety, I think you should get on meds (I'm on Zoloft and it helps a lot). But I also think that worrying comes along with being a mom, especially a FTM!

angelsnight · May 2014

I'm with ya, SIDS is my number one fear. How old is your LO? The first two weeks was so hard for me, I hated bed time, I hated to leave her and I was terrified all the time. But with some time things got easier and she's almost 7 weeks. I can finally sleep better at night...I still worry but not like I did in the beginning.

It helps to know I am doing everything I can to prevent it...she sleeps on her back, we have a fan in the room, no blankets or stuffed animals in the crib and she only sleeps in safe places (her crib, the boppy with supervision, etc). We also have a video monitor so I sometimes wake up and I can see her moving, and if she's in a deep sleep and not moving I'll just go check on her. I'd rather be a worrying mother who checks on her kid when I'm nervous then lay there all night worrying.

I know I am more worried than some, and to some degree maybe my worry isn't healthy but it's always been such a fear of mine....I think because despite knowing some safety issues, they still don't fully understand what causes it and that's scary. But I am sure it kind of just comes with the territory to some degree....once she's eating solids I'll be worried about choking and once she is running around playing outside I'll be worried about traffic, and strangers, etc etc. Hang in there, I highly suggest a video monitor if you don't already have one. Also read up on what you can do to prevent it. I knew about most things but only recently learned about the fan, and using a paci at night (though my LO spits it out all the time).

matitice · May 2014

My honest opinion is that while you may have depression you also seem to have anxiety. I think all of us as new moms have thought about SIDS. Some of us may even occasionally check on our LO's to be sure they are breathing, I know I do. However I don't allow the thought that SIDS could happen consume my thoughts each time LO lays down for a nap or bedtime. I agree with PP that Angelcare or Snuza would probably help ease your mind but the recommendation of your OB to see your family doctor is honestly the best answer. Anxiety is a terrible thing to have to live with but you can get help whether it be medication or therapy. DD dealt with terrible anxiety but once I got her into therapy she started relaxing & enjoying life. Now 2 years later she doesn't even need to attend therapy anymore. I hope you take your OB's advice & get to the doctor. Good Luck.

rockopera · May 2014

matitice said:
My honest opinion is that while you may have depression you also seem to have anxiety. I think all of us as new moms have thought about SIDS. Some of us may even occasionally check on our LO's to be sure they are breathing, I know I do. However I don't allow the thought that SIDS could happen consume my thoughts each time LO lays down for a nap or bedtime. I agree with PP that Angelcare or Snuza would probably help ease your mind but the recommendation of your OB to see your family doctor is honestly the best answer. Anxiety is a terrible thing to have to live with but you can get help whether it be medication or therapy. DD dealt with terrible anxiety but once I got her into therapy she started relaxing & enjoying life. Now 2 years later she doesn't even need to attend therapy anymore. I hope you take your OB's advice & get to the doctor. Good Luck.

All of this.

Please see your doctor. I know it may be difficult, but with your previous dx and treatment, you really don't want to neglect your mental health, esp post partum. Good luck. Take care of yourself.

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Christal161 · May 2014

Thank you so much for the great advice... I still had a sleepless night, but thank god SO was there for help. I have to stop by the hospital for an appointment so I'll try and see if I can speak to someone about this.

pepperedmoth · May 2014

Good luck to you, @Christal161‌. @matitice‌ took the words out of my mouth!

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