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Why this weekend?!

iheartsippycupsiheartsippycups member
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Not only is this weekend my birthday & Mother's Day (which I am very grateful for my son), but it is also pregnancy testing weekend. I am so scared that it will be another disappointment, and I don't want it to ruin my weekend. I can say that I will try not to let it bother me, but I know it will bother me. Also, my family doesn't know we have even been trying (don't need that added stress of how they remind me to just relax & I will get pregnant- what fertility issues? you are fine)- and I will just have to screw on a smile, and act happy even if I get a negative result. UH! Sorry, vent over...
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  • GraceyandTroyGraceyandTroy member
    I had stopped going to church and seeing anyone on Mother's Day for a few years there. It was just too hard. Last year was okay with having DS, but just last night DH was asking me how I feel about going to church next week. I haven't decided yet. It's a hard place to be. I'm sorry your bday and testing timing have to compound the heartache.
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    start ttc #1 in Jan 2009
    dx PCOS in May 2010, begin metformin
    Two failed clomid cycles (made lining too thin)
    Started acupuncture while saving for IVF in Sept 2011
    Add herbal infusions to the mix in Dec 2011
    Hoping holistic approach works!!!

    BFP on April 2012 at 11dpo
    Meepy Man born on Jan 2013 - Hip Hip Hurray!

    Ready to start ttc #2 April 2013, but plan to be an extended BF'er
    Back on metformin Aug 2013
    Restart herbal infusions Sept 2013 - currently drinking nettle, oatstraw, and red raspberry leaf
    DS weaned in April 2014
    Taking a break from herbs and just riding the healthy train.  
    Planning medicated cycle end of summer.  FX I get KU before then!!!
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  • Bananappeal145Bananappeal145 member
    Hopefully it will be good news. I know how you feel. It's really hard to be around people on Mother's Day (even if you are already a mom) and if you just got a bfn, combine the two and yikes! Stress! Good call not telling your family. Wish I hadn't.
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  • Bananappeal145Bananappeal145 member
    edited May 2014
    Plus, I'm reasonably certain that churches issue a statement that at least 50% of the women in attendance on Mother's Day must be visibly pregnant.
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  • iheartsippycupsiheartsippycups member
    I couldn't handle church @graceyandtroy & @bananappeal145 - I am glad I didn't tell my family this time around, I made the mistake last time with my son. But I still have to deal with the "When are you having another one?" "Don't you want ds to have a sibling" "He can't be an only child" - hearing all that is almost as bad as telling them we are trying & failing =(
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  • sailorgalsailorgal member
    Which day is your birthday? Mine is Friday. I'm praying for a birthday/mother's day miracle - and I'll add some extra thoughts & prayers in for you. We only got one BD session in that could be successful. Maybe wait til Monday to test? 

    Ditto @iheartsippycups on the questions being almost as bad. One day I'm going to blurt out what a failure my body is.
    Me: 32, DH: 33
    DS #1: April 2010
    DS #2: July 2015 (preemie born at 31 weeks) - our little miracle conceived through ART - unexplained secondary infertility/adenomyosis
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  • iheartsippycupsiheartsippycups member
    @sailorgal - Here's to birthday miracles for both of us! My birthday is Monday, but my mom's is tomorrow, Hubs is Wednesday, so we do a combo birthday/mothers day on Sunday. I thought about waiting to test until next week after my birthday, but I think the wait will kill me.
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  • lawmom747lawmom747 member
    Good luck this weekend.  When we were TTC the first time, every Mother's Day meant facing my younger sister (who had two kids before I even had one) and the super-inquisitive family members.  We did not tell them what we were going through though, but boy was I glad.  I could not have handled the 1000 questions and inappropriate comments.  FX that all goes well for you.  :-)
    Me: 35 DH: 35 - Married 10 years
    PCOS and MF
    Two failed rounds IUI in 2010
    IVF #1 in 2011 - BFP 8/5/11 - Our IVF miracle was born 4/8/12
    FET 9/23/13; BFP -Twins-10/3/13; EDD 6/10/14; MC 11/1/13; D&C 11/4/13
    FET 3/28/14; BFN - 4/7/14
    IVF #2 - Transfer 2 embryos 11/14/14; BFP 11/24/14 - Beta 265;
    11/26/14 - Beta 612; 11/28/14 - Beta 1263; 12/1/14 - Beta 3571;
    12/3/14 - first u/s - two gestational sacs; 12/17/14 - two healthy heartbeats (132 and 134)
    Our IVF miracles were born 7/16/15

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  • Jodee37Jodee37 member
    Bananappeal145 said:

    Plus, I'm reasonably certain that churches issue a statement that at least 50% of the women in attendance on Mother's Day must be visibly pregnant.

    Seriously! I'm sorry there is such stress heading your way this weekend. I really hope your birthday weekend brings lots to celebrate. And screw those people with their stupid comments. I flat out tell them "when I stop miscarrying them." :::crickets::: that usually shuts them up and hopefully makes then think twice before asking another woman that insensitive question.
    Me: 36, DH: 36
    DH's SA = normal
    1 tube only wonder
    AFC 3-5, AMH 0.30

    BFP #1 3/29/11.  EDD 12/4/11... Missed m/c 5/9/11. Cytotec fail. D&C 5/17/11.
    BFP #2   7/5/11.  EDD 3/14/12... Our rainbow Kellen born 3/14/12 via c/s.
    BFP #3 5/30/13.  EDD 2/8/14...  6wk u/s HB 126. 8wk u/s lost HB. D&C 7/12/13.
    BFP #4 2/18/14.  EDD 10/30/14... Ruptured ectopic with L tube removed & D&C 3/7/14.
    BFP #5 7/27/14.  EDD 4/9/15...  m/c @ 5w4d.

    IVF #1    Oct 2014 - antagonist protocol: 9R, 7M, 5F. 3dt of 3 Grade 2 embies. BFN. 
    IVF #2    Jan 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.  Converted to IUI #1. BFFN
    IVF #2.1 March 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.

    BFP #6  (SUPRISE!) 3/19/15.  EDD 11/30/15...  CP at 4w2d.
    IUI #2:    Clomid + Follistim = 3 follies. BFN.
    IVF #2.2 May 2015 - horrible response to micro lupron flare protocol: 3R, 3M, 3F. 3dt of 2 Grade 3 embies. BFFN. 

    BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).

    the universe can fuck off.


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  • MrsLaurenandDanMrsLaurenandDan member
    Ugh that's the worst. I am sorry you are getting that from family. I had a optometrist tech tell me that DS1 needed a little brother. I told her he has one, but he was stillborn. That shut her up. I wish people would think before opening their mouths!!
    TTC #1 June 2010
    1/3/11 S/A - Count 45; Motility 32; Morph 4.3 - 2/10/11 - S/A Count 17mil; Motility 39; Morph 7.9
    1/5/11 Femara Cycle #1 = BFN  2/4/11 Femara Cycle #2 = BFP: 3/4/11 - Starting Progesterone suppositories 
    Beta#1 15DPO = 108; Beta#2 17DPO = 179; Beta#3 18DPO = 259; Beta 4# 20DPO =659!!
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    TTC#2 Pulled goalie 5/12, PPAF 3/13, BFP 6/27 Beta 15DPO=248! 
    Dx Severe Hydrocephalus and severe Dandy Walker Cyst.   Stillborn 10/19/13
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    TTC#3 - (No preventing, TTC+progesterone starting 12/13)
    4/7/14 CD3 BW - FSH 5.6; AMH 0.469 - 4/11/14 S/A Count 35, Motility 47, Morph 1.5
    4/16/14 - Cycle 6 - Natural IUI - Beta 12DPIUI = 3; Beta 13DPIUI=4.  15DPIUI=6. 17DPIU=4. Chemical Pregnancy  
    TTC #4
    5/5/14 Dx MTHFR homozygous A1298C, Benched 1 cycle HSG 5/14 both tubes open w/scarring on the left   
    5/28/14 Starting clomid 6/8/14 IUI #2 1 dominant follicle 31mm Beta 11DPIUI =4, 15DPIUI = 74, 17DPIUI = 165 
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  • Momarazzi007Momarazzi007 member
    Jodee37 said:

    Bananappeal145 said:

    Plus, I'm reasonably certain that churches issue a statement that at least 50% of the women in attendance on Mother's Day must be visibly pregnant.

    Seriously! I'm sorry there is such stress heading your way this weekend. I really hope your birthday weekend brings lots to celebrate. And screw those people with their stupid comments. I flat out tell them "when I stop miscarrying them." :::crickets::: that usually shuts them up and hopefully makes then think twice before asking another woman that insensitive question.
    My hero!!! That will teach them to think!!! Boo yah! And (hugs), being brave doesn't make it hurt any less
    January 2007- Stop BCP! Let's DO this!
    June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS. image

    November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
    January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS!     February 2011- lost twin. BS. image

    SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
    November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
    April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
    FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
    BABY BOY VINCENT!
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