Work from Home Mums : Need Help for a Toddler !

Ana+V · May 2014

Dear Mums,

I am work from home mum. I usually am locked in a room while my full time nanny takes care of my almost 2 year old. Since last 2 weeks - my son is increasingly banging my door and refusing to be taken care by my nanny. He is hysterical and wants me to come out to feed him / play with him... - in brief - he hates the idea that i am at home and not with him. So, to resolve this - is the only solution, to really start going to my office ? Or there are other options for me ? - I ask as I am now in my first trimester with my second one and would really like to avoid 45 minutes travel if i could.

Thanks !

TheBorg7of9 · May 2014

Why don't you pretend to leave then come back while he is distracted or outside. Or practice going in the room for a short time, and make it longer and longer. For my 2 year old, somehow telling him I'll be right back somehow helps. Maybe there's a special toy he could have at the beginning of the time you go in the office. My son loves playdoh or maybe cartoons for 5 minutes when you first go in.

jc&cat · May 2014

I have tried the going out the front door and in the back door where my "office" is located to let DD think I've gone. She's a bugger and now knows if I'm not dressed for work, she asks why. It worked well with my son for a bit too around your son's age. I am trying to avoid the hour commute each way as it is not necessary for me to go to the office more than 1-2x weekly so it's challenging that I wish I had someplace to go close by. I know some ladies on here mentioned starbucks, coffee shop type deal (library?) for a few hours or peace. Maybe you can try that til he clears this phase?

Virgo17 · May 2014

Is there a local Starbucks or Panera bread you could go to? At least for the morning and sneak back in at naptime.

brachysira · May 2014

Yes, find a pseudo office near your house, as others have suggested. Alternatively, have your nanny leave with your child. Our baby-sitter walks our toddler to the library, to the park, on walks, and would take her to the baby gym, pool, and bounce house if she worked more hours such that it would make sense to give her a car seat.

TheBorg7of9 · May 2014

You might also try talking to your son about the situation. Not while it's happening. But at other times, you could talk about how mommy has to work in her office while baby plays with the nanny. Then in the morning, you could say nanny is almost here. Get excited to play with her!

My son sleeps until 8 o'clock. So when I was home on maternity leave and still had the nanny, I would have her go in to wake him up while I hid in the nursery. He did not know I was home

iverske9 · May 2014

On days I really need to get things done I go to a starbucks or panera. So much easier than listening to my toddler lol

Huahine · May 2014

DS has morning activities out of the house 3 days a week. So when our nanny gets here, they get him dressed and ready to go to those. He comes in to hug me goodbye and then they are off.

We did have a rough patch where he wanted to be in my office more, but make it clear to the nanny that her job is to distract him - take him outside, to the library, whatever, but keep him out of your hair so you can work.

During the clingy times I would be certain not to come out of my office while he was around - so that meant I would time lunch separate from theirs, wait to pee until they were in another part of the house, etc. I didn't want to do anything to fan the flames. But it was a phase, and he grew out of it pretty quickly.

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