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Help after twins arrive (I also have a toddler)

dmhrn13dmhrn13 member
edited May 2014 in Multiples
So my mom has been around to help with my toddler since birth, I work part time (not sure what the plans will be after I have the twins). She recently found a full time job & I am freaking out because I was relying on her to be there not only when I deliver but when I'm fat & uncomfortable. My husband insists his mother come stay with us when I deliver & this is a point of contention. She is 80, & was less than helpful when my daughter was born. I need someone to do the laundry, dishes & watch them so I can get a nap! 

Should I get a nanny at first? How do you survive in the beginning? 
TTC since 1/2008
BFP 7/2009 m/c
BFP 9/2009 m/c
Clomid IUI 12/2010, 1/2011, 2/2011 All BFN
IVF #1 6/2011 BFN, no frosties
IVF #2 2/2012 BFP
DD born 10/2012
FET 9/3/2013 BFN, no more frosties
IVF # 3 11/3/13 Canceled after retrieval d/t severe OHSS, 3 frosties
FET #3 2/2014 BFP Twins!
B/G Twins born 9/2014 at 36w4d

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Re: Help after twins arrive (I also have a toddler)

  • BabyCarryingVesselBabyCarryingVessel member
    You are totally right in that you need all the help you can get... and good help. What if you gave MIL a schedule and really specific tasks that you know she can do? Could your mother drop by after work daily? That would be better than nothing! If you can afford a mothers helper, by all means, please do it! It will be the best money you ever spent :)

     

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  • hayleydeeehayleydeee member
    If it's in you budget to get a nanny or at the very least a housekeeper, then do so! It would have been so helpful to have another set of hands around the house, especially with another little one. 
    Married 07.07.07. Mom to 3: Ruby 11/08 and Oliver & Austin 12/11
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  • TobieRoseTobieRose member
    I hired a post-partum doula for 2-3 days a week for a month or two after the twins were born. She was great! 

    Also if you have any friends who are part-time/SAHMs get them on board too for things like folding laundry. 
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