(NBR) How did I not

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

realize my cat was pregnant? At least I am pretty sure she is pregnant and in labor. I have her in a box and I am sitting next to her. Not sure what else I can do for her.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

I know she needs to be spade and she will be it just didn't happen yet. She got out a few times after the baby was born pretty sure that is when she got pregnant because the timing would be about right since baby is 10 weeks.

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cattuccino · May 2014

*spayed

I hope if she's in labour it goes okay for her and you can handle the situation. Call someone/vet if you don't think you can or if you think she needs assistance/help.

How old is she? Definitely after kittens are weaned look into getting her spayed.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

She is a little over a year. We are definitely going to get her spayed. We have been planning on it for a while it just hasn't happened yet. But we definitely don't want anymore accidents so she is going to the vet as soon as her kittens are weaned. She just had one kitten.

slwprincess · May 2014

A friend on FB just adopted a dog from the pound a few weeks ago. They got a huge surprise in middle of the night this week when she gave birth to 8 puppies! The pound didn't realize she was pregnant and neither did they! Good luck- hope it all goes smoothly!

cattuccino · May 2014

Best of luck with the rest of kitty labour! I've got to run, but read up on newborn kittens if you get a chance, keep momma cat comfortable. It's an exciting Saturday morning for you!

RondackHiker · May 2014

It's spayed. She really should've been done earlier, even as an indoor only cat. It'd have been better to avoid her having a heat.

Give the poor thing a box and some towels and some privacy. Perhaps a bathroom or closet you don't use often. It'll be a good spot to contain the kittens. Check on her every hour or so and take her to the vet if she doesn't seem to progress or seems to be in extreme distress. It'll be messy but she'll clean a fair amount of it.

I'd also consider doing pediatric spays and neuters before placing the kittens in new homes. This is kitten season. Hundreds of thousands of cats and kittens die every summer because of the kitten boom. Try to prevent the cycle from repeating.

RondackHiker · May 2014

And what are you feeding the poor momma? You need to feed her a good diet and keep the kids away from her. She needs to be left alone. No kids and kittens for a few weeks and only disturb her to feed and water and clean.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

I will definitely not be letting the kids near her or the kittens. I feel really bad that we didn't get her spayed in time, but we will not be putting it off any longer. Once the kittens are big enough we will take her to the vet. She climbed up in bed with me and started acting like she was having problems with going to the bathroom (I guess that is how I would describe it. Her belly was going nuts and she was acting like she was pushing). I put her in a box with an old blanket. She had a second kitten, but it was born dead. After she had it all cleaned off I took it and rubbed its belly gently trying to get it to breathe but never did so I took it from her. She is in a room by herself with food, water and liter box now. So she doesn't need to go far from her babies. Well one baby for now she really didn't look pregnant so I can't imagine she can have to many more babies hiding in there. But I will check on her again in a little while.

magentawarped · May 2014

Please please please take her to a vet if she goes awhile without birthing any more...with only two kittens and one of them born dead, she may have more in there and they may need to intervene. If there are more that she can't get out, it could kill her.

RondackHiker · May 2014

Hey, OP.

Thanks for sharing what a shitty pet parent you are. So far it's resulted in the death of one animal. I hope that's the only death.

Fuck I hate kitten season so much. And the idiots who cause it.

shellbell3845 · May 2014

This disgusts me on so many levels.

RondackHiker · May 2014

shellbell3845 said:
This disgusts me on so many levels.

Yup.

I want to throw up. I am sad and angry and disgusted.

ShePersisted · May 2014

OP can you at least call a vet and get some advice perhaps? I am not cat expert but I know they follow certain procedures after kittens are born E.g. work with aspirators to remove fluids to help the kitten breathe. Or at least they will advice you what to do if kitten is not breathing, help you recognize the signs of distress for the mother etc.

bb90 · May 2014

I grew up n a farm most animals, even indoor ones know what to do. Leave her alone call the vet if there seems to be problems. Yes, she should have been spayed but its too late now. I feel like many of us have let things slide we normally wouldn't have because of pregnancy brain or new mommy moments. Not saying its an excuse, but shit happens.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

I am sad angry and disgusted with myself also. We knew we needed to take the cat to the vet. However I don't know how to drive. Yes I am 29 and never learned to drive bash me on that too if you want. So I could not take her. I also cannot make anyone else take her for me. I will be calling the vet. I will also be calling my doctor to adjust my anti depressants. I have been having a really hard time dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and a divorce. This just makes it so much worse. I feel so alone and will probably be staying away from here for a while.

RondackHiker · May 2014

@brodenberg‌

Shit happens applies to forgetting to renew a car registration or burning dinner. It doesn't apply to the life and health of a pet. A kitten died. That's not "shit happens". Forgetting a scheduled spay appointment could be shit happens. But not getting a more than one year old cat fixed? That's careless and irresponsible.

And @Mommyof42014‌? You don't get to cry and play the sympathy card for this one. So you don't know how to drive. Cats can be spayed starting at 8 weeks, but even if you waited till six months are you seriously saying that you couldn't get a ride or a taxi in all that time? I'm assuming you got yourself to doctor's appointments and your other children where they needed to go. She didn't not get spayed because you can't drive. That's an excuse.

You don't get to play the sympathy card right now. You don't get to try and guilt trip people. You had a responsibility to this cat and you fucked up and now a kitten is dead. That's what happened. Everyone who has a cat give birth this time of year has an excuse. All those excuses result in dead kittens.

The PPD and divorce suck, but that doesn't mean you are excused from the responsibility to your pets.

ShePersisted · May 2014

Mommyof42014 said:
I am sad angry and disgusted with myself also. We knew we needed to take the cat to the vet. However I don't know how to drive. Yes I am 29 and never learned to drive bash me on that too if you want. So I could not take her. I also cannot make anyone else take her for me. I will be calling the vet. I will also be calling my doctor to adjust my anti depressants. I have been having a really hard time dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and a divorce. This just makes it so much worse. I feel so alone and will probably be staying away from here for a while.

OP we reacted to something you posted. I recognize you feel bad and had full intention to spay the cat. We don't know your background and cannot support you until you share. You mentioned not being happy about your pregnancy in the other thread, we responded with support to that because that's what you felt. If you share what you are going through you will get good advice and support. And if you make bad decisions you will get told. It's just the nature of this community.

Sorry things are hard and being a new mom who cannot drive it would be hard to get the cat spayed. I wish you reached out earlier- there would have been great advice here on how to manage things.

bb90 · May 2014

I misread had I known a kitten died I would have rephrazed. And although I don't like that she hadn't spayed her cat I was giving g her the benefit of the doubt and hoping she would follow through with what she said and get it done asap.

Codypup · May 2014

SO not what I expected when I opened this thread...

OP, please call an emergency vet number. Get help. And I have to say, you seem oddly calm about dead kittens.

slwprincess · May 2014

Just coming back to this now and seeing that one of the kittens died. I agree with the others- get to a vet to confirm there are no more :-(. As my previous post indicated about my friends 8 surprise puppies, looks can be deceiving.

Fullerj21 · May 2014

I would totally call the vet ASAP...

BB0214 · May 2014

OP, my guess is that this is a wake up call for you to get things in order for everyone, including yourself and your pets. You're dealing with the consequences of not. Please make better decisions from here.
It does seem like you're really struggling. You may be missing so much more than what you know. Please call someone to help you, anyone.

littlepig2 · May 2014

I feel sick about this. what do you mean that you can't *make* someone bring the cat to get spayed? how do you get your children to the doctor and run errands? taxi? take a taxi to the vet. a friend? say "hey friend, please drive me to the vet because I want to be responsible. thank you!"

I'm afraid to even ask this but what are you doing with the dead kitten? I think I would have left it with the mom for a little while. not sure what she would do with it but it seems weird to just take it. and for the love, get that cat to a vet ASAP! it sounds like things are not going well.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

Our vet office was not open when I posted this or I would have called them. I had to wait for them to open to be able to call them. I did call our vet and our cat and her kitten are doing fine. I have already admitted that it was irresponsible and a big mistake to wait so long to take her to get her spayed. She will be going to the vet as soon as she can be. We have learned from our mistake and it is not going to happen again. We do have another cat who is a year older who we had spayed before she came into heat. We know we screwed up big time. There is not anything we can do now, except learn from our mistake and move on.

My older 3 kids are my ex husbands. My baby is my boyfriends. The divorce was started before I got pregnant, but due to the kids being involved I was not going to push anything although he is the one who wanted to separate and he is the one who filed for divorce.

My boyfriend does drive, and was teaching me to drive before I found out I was pregnant. Once I found out there was no way I was going to continue with a baby inside of me. I am scared enough of driving without being pregnant. I will be learning soon as I know it is important for me to learn.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

No the boyfriend was not around before he asked to separate. I am super terrified of getting into an accident and the thought of being pregnant and getting into an accident terrified me even more. Although the pregnancy was not wanted, I did not want anything to happen to the baby. None of my kids have been or will be in the car while I am learning because I am to afraid of getting into an accident and hurting them or someone else which is the reason I have not learned how to drive. I get so scared that I start crying and freaking out.

ziggy903 · May 2014

Guise, driving is scary. I can't believe you would risk your baby's life by driving while pregnant or with them in the car!!!!1!!

ziggy903 · May 2014

@greenbunny79‌ I got in 2 within 2 weeks. The second was while I was driving my rental car while my real car was in the shop from the first.
Baby was fine. From those, all our trouble started before that and is completely unrelated.

kak808 · May 2014

greenbunny79 said:

Mommyof42014 said:

No the boyfriend was not around before he asked to separate. I am super terrified of getting into an accident and the thought of being pregnant and getting into an accident terrified me even more. Although the pregnancy was not wanted, I did not want anything to happen to the baby. None of my kids have been or will be in the car while I am learning because I am to afraid of getting into an accident and hurting them or someone else which is the reason I have not learned how to drive. I get so scared that I start crying and freaking out.

This sounds pathological. I don't mean that in a snarky sense. I mean that it legitimately sounds like a crippling, irrational fear. Why are you so terrified? What are the lambs saying, Clarice?

My friend's husband is like this. Terrified to drive and refuses to do so, even though he technically has a license. My husband drove their baby home from the hospital and the wife has to leave work to drop off/pick up the kid from preschool, even though the husband is a SAHD. I know he's got some type of crippling irrational fear, but I can't imagine having a kid and being a SAHD and not being able to drive them if necessary, especially in an emergency. Moral of the story, I suggest to OP that you try your best to learn to drive and seek professional help if you aren't capable of overcoming your fear.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

I was actually in drivers ed and wanted to learn as a teenager, but due to crappy parents my brothers and I were taken away and put into a group home and later foster homes. When we were taken away I was not able to continue. After I turned 18 and got out of states custody, I should have learned to drive but for whatever reason didn't. I then developed this fear. I was actually doing well at getting over the fear and starting to feel comfortable driving although I was still really bad. Then I got pregnant and started freaking out again. I know that it is irrational, but I would much rather be stuck in a box and covered with snakes and spiders. I want to learn how to drive and will be starting over soon. We were just talking about it a few days ago, because I want to get a job but need to learn how to drive first. And it would take a lot of stress of my boyfriend if I could drive. It is embarrassing that I am terrified to drive. It is silly that I am so scared of driving and I can see that and tell myself that, but then start freaking out when I go to get behind the wheel.

ShePersisted · May 2014

In true spirit to support you I will say yes fears are valid. I once had a very bad accident and was terrified of driving after that. My then bf used to drive me to work every single day. One fine day we broke up- guess what? either I drove or lose my job. I had no choice. I was shit scared and would have nightmares of the accident but the fear of losing my job was greater than driving.

Think of this as a similar situation- you NEED to do this for the sake of your kids. Remember today it is your cat tomorrow your kid could have an emergency. Isn't the thought of something happening to your child more terrifying than driving a damn car?

Lastly, after all this If you still have fear which does not let you think rationally about this, I suggest you speak to a professional to help you deal with it. I assume you already have a dr since you said you had PPD?

I realize you feel bad about the cat. I sure hope that means that you will not put yourself in that situation ever again and take action ASAP.

ntroud01 · May 2014

I am sorry to hear you have so much going on. I hope that your cat and the kitten are ok and you go to the vet. I also hope you will find the kitten a good, loving home and not give it to a shelter.

Mommyof42014 · May 2014

car seat said:

Car and cat aside... you really have a hell of a lot going on. Is there someone you can talk to?

nope. I need to find a new therapist and start seeing a therapist again. I wish that the stuff I shared was all that I have going on. The other stuff going on is completely out of my control though. I guess its not completely out of my control I could cut my crappy parents out of my life but that is easier said then done. And yes I can say they are crappy parents and not feel the least bit bad for it. With that being said I don't blame them for any of the choices I have made or continue to make.

RondackHiker · May 2014

To return to the cat... Are you sure she's done with labor? A stuck kitten will kill her. Did she pass both placentas? She will eat them.

What are you feeding her? She'll need good nutritional support and a quiet and peaceful place for the baby. She likely won't want to go more than a foot or two for a few weeks.

Make sure her space is draft free and warm and there are no tiny spaces the kitten can crawl or fall into.

littlepig2 · May 2014

Mommyof42014 said:

Our vet office was not open when I posted this or I would have called them. I had to wait for them to open to be able to call them. I did call our vet and our cat and her kitten are doing fine. I have already admitted that it was irresponsible and a big mistake to wait so long to take her to get her spayed. She will be going to the vet as soon as she can be. We have learned from our mistake and it is not going to happen again. We do have another cat who is a year older who we had spayed before she came into heat. We know we screwed up big time. There is not anything we can do now, except learn from our mistake and move on.

I know you have a lot going on but I really hope that this doesn't mean never. not that I need to see proof of a vet visit and I want you to focus on getting yourself help but this sounds like a way to get everyone to leave you alone without ever really having an intention of taking the cat to be cared for.

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