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I can't handle this..

jonahsmajonahsma member
in Late Term and Child Loss
Pg woman mentioned****... I was at the docs office today and dh and I were seated next to a seven or eight months pg woman, she got up walked out for a couple of mins and came back reeking of cigarette smoke. I smelled something and looked over and realized she was holding a pack of cigs and had just smoked one! I wanted to tell her so many things!(some not nice) Idon't understand how women can take something so special for granted.I did everything right and yet I have empty arms. Dh said what she does is not my concern and I said you're right it's not, but I can't help to be bothered, upset, angry by it.
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  • ikrystalikrystal member
    You're not alone.  I see pregnant women smoking all the time, and my husband goes on ambulance calls picking up women who are pregnant and doing drugs.  It gets both of us extremely upset.  Its just a reminder that life isn't fair - we lose our babies and we took care of them, while others who dont seem to really care get to keep theirs.  I'm sorry youre feeling this way.  ((hugs))
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  • gracie5107gracie5107 member
    I totally get this.  Big hugs to you!

    This happening to us is so unfair in many ways.  I work with special needs preschoolers and as a part of intake I gather a birth history from the parent.  I can't stand it when I have to interview a parent who made less than stellar pregnancy choices for her child.   
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  • Jellybean71514Jellybean71514 member
    This makes me furious - I have a friend who drinks wine at parties while she is pregnant and I have seen her doing it again with baby #2 on the way.... I am not saying women who chose to have a glass of wine during pregnancy are bad people but she literally has like 3 glasses and becomes tipsy - I avoid her at all costs these days because I'm afraid I may lose it and say something. The worst part about it is her first child was born with a collapsed lung so you think that would make a person be cautious with their second ! Ugh
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  • lexusolsenlexusolsen member
    Parents endangering their children always irritated me but now it makes me livid. Why should people who can't make responsible choices get to keep their children and I lost one of mine?!
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  • mingaling2mingaling2 member
    Awful! And gross! That makes me rage.

     
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  • LyndseyTSLyndseyTS member
    This is such a hard thing.
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  • mmsweeney1mmsweeney1 member
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    Ugh, that is just a terrible feeling. Sorry you had to experience that at an appointment. It's all so unfair!

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  • kflynn81kflynn81 member
    That is so frustrating I'm sorry... I'd be PO'ed too
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  • schulme2schulme2 member
    Omg, drives me absolutely crazy! I did everything right... And they get to keep theirs and I don't?!
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  • stefugestefuge member
    That is so upsetting! I'm so sorry you had to sit through that - I would have been fuming!
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  • Maybe JoleisaMaybe Joleisa member
    Sorry you had to sit in the waiting room with her. Unbelievable.

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  • jonahsmajonahsma member

    Thanks Ladies....

    It's so hard to keep my mouth shut especially when I come across something so upsetting like this. It's so hard for me to understand, I don't like it, some people don't realize how precious life is, but we do.. hugs to you ladies .

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