Loss Check In

shandorfml2 · May 2014

Welcome to the checkin! I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: Any fun summer time plans? (Can't remember if I asked this)

Whats on your mind this week?

shandorfml2 · May 2014

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? Had a good therapy session, and went to visit her grave. Cried a bit...it had been a while.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Like always, continue to get healthy. We're trying hard to get pregnant with our rainbow

QOTW: Any fun summer time plans? (Can't remember if I asked this) My fam is renting a cabin on a lake about an hour from where I live. I am very much looking forward to this

Whats on your mind this week?I miss my daughter...wish I could hug her

LyndseyTS · May 2014

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
I think I've sort of stalled, to be honest. I took on a new job which has been taking up much of my energy and attention. Maybe that counts, but I'm not sure how healing it is so much as helpful for the financial side of things.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Keep up with my current daily habit goals (I've started using LIFT to help me track the most basic of things like flossing my teeth and going for a daily walk). I feel like they are starting to slide and I don't want that to happen. I'd like to build in habits so that I don't even have to think about them anymore.

QOTW: Any fun summer time plans? (Can't remember if I asked this)
I think we might go camping with my Aunt, Uncle, and cousins so that has the potential to be fun. Perhaps pick up some extra work as well...we'll see.

Whats on your mind this week?
I'm feeling pretty worn down this week. It may be because I've started working a new full-time job and I actually am physically exhausted or it may just be a flood of emotions. Either way, I'm up for some renewed strength soon. It would be great to feel like I can get through things more than day by day.

TeamWinForever · May 2014

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No- this was a major backslide week. My grandmother passed away and her services were this past week. Fiona got her middle name from her and the dice within a month of each other. So, needless to say, it's been rough and had brought back some tough feelings that I was slowly getting through.

Next goal? Plans to help achieve it?

Now that my physical restrictions have been lifted, I want to start exercising again. I also want to get I to some heavy housework; I've let a lot slide the past few weeks, and I think it's depressing me even more. No real plans other than to just make myself do it.

QOTW:Any fun summer plans?

No not really-my edd was July 1st, so we never really made summer plans. I'm guessing we will go to the beach a lot and try to make small day trips with dd. I mainly just want to get through the summer.

What's on your mind this week?

A lot of anger and sadness at the 2 major losses that I have endured in the span of 1 month. If seems so unfair to have to attend funerals for your child and then grandmother. But, I try to remind myself that Fiona is now being cared for by her great-grandmother and that helps. Fiona was also included in her obituary and mentioned in the service, so it was really nice to know that she's not a forgotten family member.

lexusolsen · May 2014

@TeamWinForever- I'm so sorry for both of your losses. I hope you find some peace this week. Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? A little behind... Last week I signed up for the Muchness Challenge that was shared. I haven't been shy about posting things on FB that remind me of Ben but I'm hoping this will help me ease back into myself. Or rather, figuring out who the new me is.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I need to get through my first week at work. I know my students will be glad to have me back (they have had a rough go of it with the sub) but I'm anxious that returning to my "normal" life will make me forget baby Ben. The necklace goes a long way to ease that fear but I can't seem to shake it completely.

QOTW: Any fun summer time plans? (Can't remember if I asked this)
We are changing our plans since most of them revolved around our expectation that we would have a new baby in June. So now I am researching swim lessons for dd and seeing if we can manage to get passes for Sea World too.
Whats on your mind this week?

I just got an email from work about a group training next week. The only problem is that the other teacher I shared a due date with is also in my group...It will be rough to work with her all day. I was prepared for seeing her on campus and in meetings but wasn't ready to work closely with her and spend the whole day with her. I'm just thankful I know ahead of time so I can prepare myself mentally.

shandorfml2 · May 2014

(((hugs)) @TeamWinForever sorry for the loss of your grandma!

kflynn81 · May 2014

aragosta said:

.....siggy..... Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I no longer worry that people will forget Lucas. People have made that abundantly clear to me. I know I'm only 7 months out but people have been very kind. That brings me some peace. What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I need to get through Mother's Day. I am going to the beach in California for the weekend. QOTW: Any fun summer time plans? (Can't remember if I asked this) I don't think so. Besides hanging out at the pool. It's hot in AZ! Whats on your mind this week? I feel like I'm stuck in anger right now. I'm so angry most of the time that Lucas was taken from us. I'm angry that we are the statistic. I'm angry I live in a world where babies die. I'm angry angry angry that I don't have my baby.

Me too... I thought I was hiding it well enough but my therapist caught on pretty quick and called me out on it

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