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sunshineinmay09
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maydaygirl590's Novel Length Birth Story
sunshineinmay09
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Finally taking a moment to post this. Things have been crazy since our baby girl was born.
First, I'd like to thank my awesome LB @figgs0831 for updating all of you!
Short Version:
Cecily Violet Anne was born Sunday, April 27, at 7am on the dot after 5 1/2 hours of labor. 8lbs.14oz. and 20 inches long.
Long Version:
Saturday morning , I woke up, because I realized she wasn't moving around as much. I texted my midwife and told her that I thought something was wrong. Something was off and didn't feel right. She didn't seem too concerned and told me to do some kick counts. I was feeling tired, irritable, weepy, and just terribly emotional. Here I was at 40w2d and nothing was happening. Much to my surprise, my mom texted me later that morning and offered to come get my kids, so I could relax and enjoy the day. I didn't end up doing anything expect sitting on the couch, crocheting wash cloths, crying, and eating everything in sight. My midwife checked in with me periodically, asking about my appetite and such. I kept having painful contractions throughout the day, but it was nothing out of the norm. DH and I took advantage of the kids being gone and had some sexy time. Which isn't so sexy at 40+ weeks. We brought the kids home that night, and around 10:30 I started having timeable contractions. One hour later, they stopped. I was upset about this and went to bed. I got two hours of sleep. Actual sleep!
At 1:20 I woke up in the middle of a painful contraction. I ended up sitting there, for about 20 mins. propped up by pillows, vocalizing through each contraction. They were roughly 2 mins. apart and 1 min. long. I texted my midwife, still in disbelief that this was it. She said to update her in half an hour. Got in the shower. The water felt amazing on my back and belly. I continued to vocalize through each contraction and tried to relax. I told DH that he needed to call the midwife and my mom. It was now around 2:30 I believe. I stayed in the shower until the water ran cold. At one point, my midwife came in and asked me how I was doing. "Miserable", I said. She chuckled and said good. Once the water ran cold, I got out. DH helped me put a shirt on and some underwear. My mom came in the room and I sat on the edge of the bed with DH behind me supporting me. I started crying when my mom came in, I was in so much pain. I told her I couldn't do this. It was getting super intense. She rubbed my tummy and ankles and feet with essential oils. She helped me with my breathing and encouraged me to close my eyes and rest between contractions. At one point, DH complained of his back hurting. I snapped at him and told him to suck it up. It was nice being able to get up and use the bathroom as I needed. And my DH would periodically offer me sips of water. I labored on the bed with my DH and my mom for probably 3 or 4 hours. I'm not completely sure. Finally, at 6 the birthing pool was set up and ready. I practically ran to the tub, stripped off my clothes (despite my dad standing right there, getting ready to leave after setting up the pool) and got in. The first few contractions were easy to handle in the water and then suddenly things got really, really hard. I was having trouble breathing and relaxing. I was tensing up through each contraction. I started crying hard because I was tired and I didn't know how much longer I could last. I gripped my mom and DH's hands for dear life. My mom made me repeat mantras, such as I am strong, I am courageous and some other ones I can't remember. I didn't like doing it. At some point I just lost it and made a roaring noise. It was either that or scream my lungs out. It was at this point my midwife stepped in. She coached me through and my mom made me listen to the midwife. I told them I was going to die and that I wanted to go to the hospital. The midwife laughed and told me I wouldn't make it out to the car. Finally, I just surrendered myself to the pain and the contractions, convinced I was going to die right there in the pool.
It wasn't very long after that, that I felt some pressure and a burning sensation, and then all of a sudden her head was right there. I decided on the next contraction I was going to push her head out. There was only one way to end all this pain, and I was going to finish this. So I pushed most of her head out. The ring of fire was so intense. My midwife told me not to push, so that I could stretch. I wanted to scream at her, but I didn't. Next contraction, pushed out the head. After I pushed out her head, I got scared. I told my midwife I was afraid (with my son, he got stuck right after his head came out). She told me she knew, but that it was going to be alright. Next the shoulders came out and that's when I yelled at my midwife to just get this baby out of me. But she told me I needed to let my body do what it was designed to do. One more contractions and she slipped out. The midwife caught her and put her on my chest. I felt so relieved. The first thing I did was check to see if it was a boy or girl. Lol.
We did the delayed cord clamping, and then DH got to cut the cord for the first time ever. I had some challenges with feeling dizzy and coming close to passing out. But my midwife was awesome and got me through that. They got me out of the tub, laid me down on the couch. Hubby brought the baby over and put her on my chest and she immediately latched on and started nursing. My DD and DS woke up at this point, it was about 8:30am. I am so thankful they didn't wake up from me making so much noise. The timing couldn't have been better.
We got to take an herbal bath together, me and baby. It felt amazing! I didn't tear at all, which I was so thankful for. Then after the bath, my midwife got me into bed. It was at this point I almost passed out, but as soon as I laid down, I felt better and my head cleared. They brought Cecily in and DH got to weigh her in the sling. I was disappointed we didn't get a picture of this. Oh well. Then my midwife and her assistant dressed the baby, gave her to me, and left.
I've never been so exhausted in my life! From start to finish it was about 5 1/2 hours of labor. It felt like forever though. I was only in the tub for 1 hour before she arrived. I also don't think I could've done that without my mom. My DH was there, but it was my mom that really got me through it. I don't blame my DH though. We had an extremely traumatizing home birth with my DS that landed us both in the hospital. This time though was so much different. I'm so glad we got the healing home water birth that we needed. And my midwife never once interfered and then once she was needed, she stepped in and was just amazing. It was also nice and relieving to be able to go sleep in my own bed afterwards. I wouldn't change any of it. It was perfect for me and my family, and just what we needed.
Recovery has been awesome and I already feel back to my old self.
After she was born, DH and I decided that we were done having kids. She felt like the missing piece to our family puzzle. While it's a sad idea, it's also nice to think about moving on to the next chapter of our lives and focus on raising our children.
I'd also like to thank all of you ladies here on Pgal and on TTCAL. When no one else could understand what I was going through, you ladies got it. The encouragement and love of the AL community is just amazing and overwhelming in a good way. I've loved spending time on here, getting to know you ladies better. I will continue to lurk on here once in awhile and look forward to seeing all of your rainbow babies! Thank you ladies so much for everything.
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Re: maydaygirl590's Novel Length Birth Story
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A little bit about me...
Married my awesome guy on 12/27/08
DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010
Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d
Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)
BFP #4: We are having a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!
"If anyone asks me how many children I have, the answer is 4. Just two of them live in Heaven."
*All are welcome in my posts*BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
little chkn born 06/30/11
baby chkn born 04/22/14
05/13
07/13
married my best friend 10/04/08, TTC since July 2012
BFP#1 Thanksgiving 11/22/12, mo-mo twins(one sac), traditional EDD 7/27/13, EDD due to risk 6/15/13
mmc Angel 2/7/13 @ 15w3d, mmc Aubrey 2/13/13 @ 16w2d, D&E 2/16/13
BFP#2 9/21/13, EDD 6/2/14, DD born 5/17/14
All AL always welcome in my threads!
US (with RE) 3/24/2014 (two healthy HB), US (with OB) 3/31/2014 (three healthy heartbeats)
BFP#2: 10/22/14 | (beta #1 75, beta # 2 219) | EDD 7/3/15 ~*Please be our RAINBOW*~
Began trying for a baby January 2012
BFP 4.25.2013 EDD 1.3.2014 MMC 6.3.2013 D&C 6.19.2013
BFP 11.3.2013 CP 11.6.2013
BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014
BFP 4/17/13, MC began 5/2/13 @ 6 weeks
My FF Chart
Married DH 3/14/09
TTC Since Jan 2011
Diagnosed with PCOS Jan 2013
BFP#1 June 2013/ EDD 2/23/2013 Blighted Ovum confirmed July 18, 2013
took Cytotec July 20, 2013
BFP #2 12/28/2013 EDD 9/11/2014 Its A Girl!!! Rebecca Ann!
Rebecca Ann born 8/31/2014 6lb 1oz 19 inches long 8:55am!!!!
She is beautiful! Congratulations on the positive birth experience and amazing little girl.
Our 3 Precious Angels That Left Us Too Soon
BFP #2-EDD 07/05/13 - Tater and Tot passed at 12w3d. D&C 1/17/13
BFP #3-EDD 12/19/13 - Peanut passed at 9w1d. D&C 05/31/13
Diagnosed with Hypothyroid 05/20/13
BFP #4 - 09/22/13 - DD#2 born 05/27/14
All Alers Welcome!
My Ovulation Chart
BFP #1 3.16.12. mmc 5.7.12 at 11 weeks ~Avery Cameron~
BFP #2 12.12.12. mmc 1.22.13 at 10 weeks ~Theodore Michael~
D&C #2 Chromosome analysis results: Translocation Trisomy 14
My RPL Testing: Homozygous MTHFR, normal karyotype
DH's karyotype results: Robertsonian Translocation 13:14
BFP #3 9.10.13 mc at 4 weeks~Our little May Flower~
BFP #4 10.13.13- Our Rainbow Baby, a little girl, arrived June 25, 2014!