Soon to be SIL....

Re: Soon to be SIL....

• Zilly13 member

  April 2014

  Will you be having a rehersal dinner the following day?  If so, that seems kind of silly since you'll be spending the next two days with all the same people.  Honestly, I'd suggest doing something special for them during your rehersal or during the wedding - like a cake and recognition or something to that effect.

  The day of my BFF's wedding rehearsal was my anniversary.  She got us a cake and it was the sweetest thing ever.  If you're mad because it's going to "take away" from your time, than yes, that's bridezilla-ish.

  

  

  
  

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• jennifertewart member

  April 2014

  How big of a dinner is it?  If it is just immediate family, I don't think I would have a problem.  But if it is a big event, I think it would be too much for one weekend.  Just see what SO has to say.  

  

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• JessLB1014 member

  April 2014

  not worried about the dinner taking away from our wedding at all....just worried that I will be too stressed. I work full time and will need any extra time to get last minute things together for the wedding. Plus we are going on our honeymoon right after the wedding. It's just too much I think.
  

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• JessLB1014 member

  April 2014

  She wants the dinner to be on Friday. The rehearsal dinner is Saturday and our wedding is on Sunday.  SIL is also assuming that family will be coming to CT on Friday.
  

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• cagoldi member

  April 2014 edited April 2014

  I was a frenzied mess the few days before my wedding rushing around getting things in order, so I'm in camp "Ain't nobody got time for that!"

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• Kim22 member

  April 2014

  My birthday and anniversary are 8 days apart. I for sure did not celebrate my own birthday the year I got married until we were on our honeymoon and DH did a special dinner on the beach. If the rest of the family wants a dinner fine but I don't think anyone should expect you to attend.

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• Jennybabe0706 member

  May 2014

  I say that you decline and then do something nice for them on the night of your rehearsal dinner as well. It's not fair to expect someone planning such a huge event to be free two days before hand. Especially if you have a baby and are working full time!

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• JessLB1014 member

  May 2014

  thanks for your opinions, ladies! I'm still frustrated because SO said to me last night 'it's only a dinner that would take up 2 hours, what's the big deal?' I want that extra time in case we are scrambling to get something done at the last minute. Or that evening we could relax before all the craziness starts. He just doesn't get it. Luckily I also have my mother on my side. She's a force to be reckoned with!
  

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• JessLB1014 member

  May 2014

  @braasche1 there's no way dinner is only going to take 2 hours, but that's what SO thinks! No concept of time!
  

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