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dezbear · May 2014

So I'm selling all my boy stuff. I just got off a phone call with a young lady who is 18 weeks pregnant with a little boy. She said she is about to have the baby because the cord is wrapped around his neck. So they are going to go ahead and take the baby very soon so she needs everything for the baby. I had already agreed to doing a swap of boy clothes for girl ones (she already has a daughter) before she told me all of that about her son. I don't know what to do. My heart breaks for her because I know the chances of survival are very slim at 18 weeks. And then I think about what she said and it doesn't make a lot of sense, but I don't want to judge because she is terrified and I'm scared for her because I can't imagine the pain. Would you still meet with her? She doesn't have her daughters clothing with her they are in and not her city 4 hours away and she has no money for clothes. Really just don't know what to do here.

sapphires-and-diamonds · May 2014

This sounds sketchy. But I trust no one. Also she does not need the clothes now even if this story is true and the baby survives. He will be too small to wear anything you have and will be in the hospital for months.

Eta words

Soogerplum · May 2014

If you are meeting this person for the first time, this screams scam to me. She sounds like she is pulling your pregnant heart strings to get free things from you. She may really be in need of these things, but it seems dishonest about the story. Most hospitals consider viability at 24 weeks...so I can't see them taking an 18 week out.

dezbear · May 2014

I tried telling her she didn't really need anything. I have experience with my son being a nicu baby. And it did seem a little strange. This was a Craigslist ad, so I am really unsure about what's really going on.

Soogerplum · May 2014

I'd definitely be weary of it altogether then...Craigslist can be full of characters.

Linz-E · May 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

dezbear said:

I tried telling her she didn't really need anything. I have experience with my son being a nicu baby. And it did seem a little strange. This was a Craigslist ad, so I am really unsure about what's really going on.

Oh, it's a Cl ad? I change my answer to FUCK NO. I thought this might be someone you know.

What she said.

biokitty42 · May 2014

I would be really wary of someone off of Craigslist, especially since her story isn't adding up. If I were you, I would not meet with her. If she is only 18 weeks, there is no chance for the baby to make it, so my gut feeling is it's a scam.

sapphires-and-diamonds · May 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

dezbear said:

I tried telling her she didn't really need anything. I have experience with my son being a nicu baby. And it did seem a little strange. This was a Craigslist ad, so I am really unsure about what's really going on.

Oh, it's a Cl ad? I change my answer to FUCK NO. I thought this might be someone you know.
THIS.
Block the crazies # and do not meet her!

wrightpalomo · May 2014

Yes, I agree with PP that the CL info makes me think this is 100% scam. And it's just sick that someone would use that angle to scam someone else. If this were your friend or someone you know in real life I'd say just give her the clothes and don't even ask for the girl's clothes in exchange because the woman is obviously living a nightmare.

JSS1002 · May 2014

Scam. I've been on the end of a CL scam before - sort of -- I had my house up for rent through a property management company - listing price was $1400 / month - and some odd person copied the ad to craiglist with phony info saying it was only $600 / month, and I had all these sketchy people show up to check it out because hello, that house for $600 / month was an insane steal.

Also a family friend was actually murdered by answering a scammy craigs list ad for somebody looking for a nanny.

Obviously that is an extreme, but even if all that happens is you give away the clothes and never get any clothes in return, you've been scammed. I'd perhaps donate the clothes elsewhere - to a homeless shelter or women's organization - and you can feel really good about that and avoid meeting creepos.

trebekastan · May 2014

I have been screwed over twice by seemingly nice people on craigslist who said they were going to do one thing and never followed through. Plus we saw on May14 that there are some shady people out there who will say and do anything to steal from others.

bodziochl · May 2014

Don't waste your time...it's not worth it regardless of whether it's a scam or not

portentosa · May 2014

Like PPs have said. Definitely sounds like a scam. DO NOT meet with this person!! It really makes me sick that someone would come up with such a terrible lie to take advantage of good people.

MrsLaLaBug · May 2014

Bless your heart. But NO. Nope, negative, NO.

JSS1002 · May 2014

bodziochl said:

Don't waste your time...it's not worth it regardless of whether it's a scam or not

Yeah, I agree with this. Four HOURS away???? Why why why would you do that? THe fact that you're even spending time posting this / questioning whether it is legit makes it seem like a bad idea. Trust your gut - women's intuition is rarely wrong!

jg1011 · May 2014

Craig's list--- this sounds like a scam! Beware. There are such crazies in the world I wouldn't arrange a meeting with her for all the money in the world.

Please don't go.

BethanyAnn27 · May 2014

I'm sorry, but that sounds like a scam.

First, at 18 weeks, a fetus is not viable. Viability starts at 22 week, and even then it is only estimated to be 0-10% so if they are telling you 18 weeks, I highly doubt they are telling the truth. Second, there is no reason that she would need anything you have that early.

Do NOT meet with anyone, that is beyond sketchy and there are a lot of sick people out there. Her story does not add up and that makes me beyond suspicious. If I were you, I would send a nice message saying your situation had changed and the clothes were no longer available and you are terribly sorry for any inconvenience (as well as her situation, just in case it is real). Be safe.

mcstrepp · May 2014

This sounds like a scam. If you really thought you were going into labor at 18 weeks would you really be looking for clothes on Craig's list? This story doesn't add up. Please be safe and do not meet her.

mrsdanielleM2010 · May 2014

No no no no.

Groxb · May 2014

Absolutely no. But keep us posted with her response because I feel like she'll come back at you with another round of cray-cray.

BethanyAnn27 · May 2014

Groxb said:

Absolutely no. But keep us posted with her response because I feel like she'll come back at you with another round of cray-cray.

I love that phrase (though DH laughs at me any time I use it)...and it sounds totally fitting here.

pshaortao · May 2014

I agree with everybody. Also something else to consider... say you were to meet with this very likely scammer, it's easy enough for a woman to pretend to be 18 weeks pregnant and not actually be pregnant. Why she would want baby clothes, I don't know, but she could just eat a lot and create a small bump illusion with a "food baby" or say that she has a tilted uterus.

If you're still unsure, I would definitely wait. If she's actually going through this, then best wishes to her.

GabbyCat13 · May 2014

No.

JSS1002 · May 2014

pshaortao said:

I agree with everybody. Also something else to consider... say you were to meet with this very likely scammer, it's easy enough for a woman to pretend to be 18 weeks pregnant and not actually be pregnant. Why she would want baby clothes, I don't know, but she could just eat a lot and create a small bump illusion with a "food baby" or say that she has a tilted uterus.

If you're still unsure, I would definitely wait. If she's actually going through this, then best wishes to her.

To turn around and sell it, without ever having given up her alleged "girl clothes."

MrsLaLaBug · May 2014

BethanyAnn27 said:

Groxb said:

Absolutely no. But keep us posted with her response because I feel like she'll come back at you with another round of cray-cray.

I love that phrase (though DH laughs at me any time I use it)...and it sounds totally fitting here.

That bish is crizzle fo shizzle.

JSS1002 · May 2014

Please come back and tell us what is going on!

Ciardasully · May 2014

Oh my! Please listen to PP's and don't meet with her.

LifeofCat · May 2014

Please let us know that you stopped engaging with this woman and did NOT meet with her awful ass. As someone who lost her daughter in the 2nd trimester to a cord injury, my head is shaking "NO NO NO NO NO"

MMason12 · May 2014

I agree 100% this sounds like a scam and I would never ever think of making the swap.

hadeelb · May 2014

BethanyAnn27 said:
I'm sorry, but that sounds like a scam.

First, at 18 weeks, a fetus is not viable. Viability starts at 22 week, and even then it is only estimated to be 0-10% so if they are telling you 18 weeks, I highly doubt they are telling the truth. Second, there is no reason that she would need anything you have that early.

Do NOT meet with anyone, that is beyond sketchy and there are a lot of sick people out there. Her story does not add up and that makes me beyond suspicious. If I were you, I would send a nice message saying your situation had changed and the clothes were no longer available and you are terribly sorry for any inconvenience (as well as her situation, just in case it is real). Be safe.

This!!!

bethybeach · May 2014

I am very worried. I keep remembering the story of the women who stole someone's baby by scamming on CL for baby clothes.

Goodness, I hope we hear back from her soon.

dezbear · May 2014

Yeah my gut is telling me no. Even if she isn't scamming me and she is going through this, let's be honest the baby won't make it. Either way it saddens me. So I'm just going to text her and tell her I won't be able to meet with her next week.

dezbear · May 2014

This is what I sent her.

Hi we talked yesterday about baby clothing. I'm sorry but I won't be able to meet with you. Best of luck with your situation.

JSS1002 · May 2014

dezbear said:

This is what I sent her. Hi we talked yesterday about baby clothing. I'm sorry but I won't be able to meet with you. Best of luck with your situation.

I think that was the right thing to do. And if you feel like you want to donate the clothing to help somebody out, there are many organizations that would LOVE to have it (I realize that doesn't help YOU out because you're not getting girl clothing in return, but it would still feel good to donate).

Annsor · May 2014

To me, this screams "Im going to kidnap you and steal your baby from your womb" Maybe I watch too much Dateline or too many Lifetime movies, but heck no! I trust no one & if she really needed help, there are plenty of organizations the hospital can refer her to.

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