102 Off-topic (bfing cards?!)

acethebase · May 2014

So I was lurking on fb and came across a post wrote by a fellow baby wearer. Anyways she ran into another BW mama and they exchanged kind words about NIP and then she had gave her this card. I think this is such a great idea and I really wish there was more people out there like that!

jennlin · May 2014

I've seen these before and am really jealous I haven't gotten one yet

I did have a woman thank me once, though. It was at a friends wedding, so it wasn't a total stranger.

I do smile and give a head nod when I see a momma nursing, but I'm too afraid to go say something.

blueeyedrose86 · May 2014

I love this! Much better than then typical dirty looks and comments.

Mmhodges07 · May 2014

I was nursing M in the tula today at Tj Maxx. I didn't give two shits, but i got a lot of stares. I wish everyone would just get over it already!

Herefishy87 · May 2014

That's awesome! I've never been approached by anyone or gotten a smile from another mom. Normally it's the stare for a second and quickly look away. I don't think I would ever have the courage to say anything to another nursing mom in fear she would think I was a freak and get creeped out.

MangoMama82 · May 2014

quartermisses said:
No one has ever said anything to me. Good, bad, OR ugly. I'm a little sad.

I mean, I even BFed Fifi in the k'tan last week while walking around The Costco.

I love that you said "THE Costco"

acethebase · May 2014

My useless tits wouldn't allow me to bf but if I could have I would have popped those bad boys out anywhere....no shame. Keep carrying the torch for me ladies you ALL are doing such a great job!! :-bd

ETA: I'm going to look into getting some of these cards printed out so I can hand them out and further encourage and support other BFing moms

sweettooth87 · May 2014

Love these!

Speaking of nursing in public, I nurse LO every day at lunch at his daycare center; I sit in the back, in a rocking chair, behind the cribs so I am practically hidden. Anyway, yesterday I was asked to use a cover; later I found out all the teachers were asking the mothers to use a cover. I was caught so off-gaurd that I didn't say anything besides "I won't be covering, but thanks". I was so ticked for the rest of the day. I should add that the daycare center is on the base I work at so it's government run!

The asked one of my friends to do the same later in the day and she was already warned by me so she went a bit ape shit on them.

I nurse in public everywhere. I'm pretty good at being discrete, but don't care if someone isn't (or if I'm unable to be).

LC122 · May 2014

This topic came up months ago. Somebody on here had a collection of cards. Apparently it's really common/popular/not uncommon to give these out where the person lives. I want to say it was somebody in the MidWest/up North.
Anybody? Bueller?

acethebase · May 2014

Oh sorry @LC122‌ I haven't been on much anymore so I probably missed it....these are so neat!

LC122 · May 2014

@acethebase‌, no worries. I was thinking you had been MIA. It was seriously months ago. I really don't remember who it was and was asking.

#sideeffectofbeingmobile
#don'thavesiggycluestohelpremember

vargasgurl · May 2014

This is great ...I haven't seen this before. I nurse DD wherever , I don't have a cover but try to be discrete about it. I haven't really noticed if people are starring , I guess I'm to preoccupied.

taylormarie923 · May 2014

I guess I am in the minority but I am extremely self conscious of my body (completely separate from breastfeeding) and I find the bullet points of that card to be extraordinarily condescending. Not only is formula the devil, now I can't be modest while feeding my kid in public because I am killing them by cutting off their oxygen.

Lee81 · May 2014

taylormarie923 said:
I guess I am in the minority but I am extremely self conscious of my body (completely separate from breastfeeding) and I find the bullet points of that card to be extraordinarily condescending. Not only is formula the devil, now I can't be modest while feeding my kid in public because I am killing them by cutting off their oxygen.

I agree, the bullet points could have been left off. If you're giving the card to someone who is nip without a cover, you're preaching to the choir. If you give it to someone using a cover, you're telling them that their way isn't good enough. The only people who need that info are the ones who stare or criticize and you won't exactly be handing them a card that says thank you for nip.

Jenball717 · May 2014

taylormarie923 said:
I guess I am in the minority but I am extremely self conscious of my body (completely separate from breastfeeding) and I find the bullet points of that card to be extraordinarily condescending. Not only is formula the devil, now I can't be modest while feeding my kid in public because I am killing them by cutting off their oxygen.

I'm with you. I like to cover up always, like at the gym I don't like wearing shorty shorts or tank tops. So my tummy exposed while I nurse is really uncomfortable for me. If someone handed me a card, I would think it was chastising me for covering up.

Also, I use my muslin blankets to cover when I nurse in public so hopefully I'm not depleting baby's oxygen too much...

calibr8te · May 2014

I recently saw someone BF at The Costco. I always get stupid happy when I see someone NIP and probably look like a creep smiling at them.

I always have my cover stashed in my purse, but the boy is too big and his hands/legs are all over the place. It's far more discreet without the cover.

SmileMom2013 · May 2014

Sweet Tooth 87 said:
Love these!

Speaking of nursing in public, I nurse LO every day at lunch at his daycare center; I sit in the back, in a rocking chair, behind the cribs so I am practically hidden. Anyway, yesterday I was asked to use a cover; later I found out all the teachers were asking the mothers to use a cover. I was caught so off-gaurd that I didn't say anything besides "I won't be covering, but thanks". I was so ticked for the rest of the day. I should add that the daycare center is on the base I work at so it's government run!

The asked one of my friends to do the same later in the day and she was already warned by me so she went a bit ape shit on them.

I nurse in public everywhere. I'm pretty good at being discrete, but don't care if someone isn't (or if I'm unable to be).

Do you live in SoMd? A similar thing happened at the base daycare here. So I was just wondering if it was the same incident or possibly a base daycare thing. The crazy part is my husband always does daycare pick up and drop off, but he went to a school in Cali, so I have been. Since I work longer hours I've been nursing there so they don't use the third bottle and nobody has said anything to me, and I actually have been practicing doing it without a cover there which I usually prefer to use. If it was the same incident the mommy handled it like a pro!

The bullets on this card pissed me off, too. They are pointless. Otherwise it's a neat idea.

ncase2 · May 2014

I live in an incredibly conservative area, so NIP is probably not going to happen. Even my DH is freaked out by it. I wish I could though - some days I'm all IDGAF but I just don't want to deal with the drama that would ensue. I love these cards!

BlessUrHeart29 · May 2014

I've had to NIP frequently lately due to traveling... Graceful and discreet are not words that I would use to describe my NIP experience haha! I try to use the cover but DS won't have any if it!

kirbabe · May 2014

So sad that I live in one of the two states that doesn't protect a mother's right to NIP. I call bullshit!!!!

I still NIP, but I do it with a cover on.

sweettooth87 · May 2014

SmileMom2013 said:

Sweet Tooth 87 said:
Love these!

Speaking of nursing in public, I nurse LO every day at lunch at his daycare center; I sit in the back, in a rocking chair, behind the cribs so I am practically hidden. Anyway, yesterday I was asked to use a cover; later I found out all the teachers were asking the mothers to use a cover. I was caught so off-gaurd that I didn't say anything besides "I won't be covering, but thanks". I was so ticked for the rest of the day. I should add that the daycare center is on the base I work at so it's government run!

The asked one of my friends to do the same later in the day and she was already warned by me so she went a bit ape shit on them.

I nurse in public everywhere. I'm pretty good at being discrete, but don't care if someone isn't (or if I'm unable to be).

Do you live in SoMd? A similar thing happened at the base daycare here. So I was just wondering if it was the same incident or possibly a base daycare thing. The crazy part is my husband always does daycare pick up and drop off, but he went to a school in Cali, so I have been. Since I work longer hours I've been nursing there so they don't use the third bottle and nobody has said anything to me, and I actually have been practicing doing it without a cover there which I usually prefer to use. If it was the same incident the mommy handled it like a pro!

The bullets on this card pissed me off, too. They are pointless. Otherwise it's a neat idea.

Yes! @SmileMom2013‌ I work at Pax :-). E's mom handled with grace, as she always does :-). Another mom didn't, and I don't blame her! I'm still baffled over the whole situation.

layali · May 2014

I am feeling a little bitchy today, and this is semi-triggering. I struggle with body image issues AND I struggle to NIP discreetly (there is no calming these tits). It took me months to feel comfortable without a cover - if DS didn't fight it I'd probably still use one. ANYways. I was proud of myself after my first NIP experience. And I expressed that to my lactivist friend, who then proceeded to rip me a new one about how long it took me to NIP and how I'm hurting my baby and other nursing moms by not feeding to his comfort level and normalizing NIP.

The cards are nice to show support, but I would probably feel waves of judgement from an innocent gesture because of this previous experience.

kimbo1216 · May 2014

Personally, I get excited when I see any woman NIP--covered or uncovered. It's all about what YOU (the nursing mom) are comfortable with.

I nip uncovered all the time. I dress modestly. But nip is not something I'm modest about. I don't worry about my stomach because I always have on layers. I wear a cami under all shirts so all I have to do is lift he too shirt, lower the bottom and, and no one can see a thing. But that's just me!

I didn't read the bullet points, and have never gotten a card. But I do not think this card should make anyone feel self conscious. If you are secure in your decisions, then you won't care what some card says IMO.

Here are a couple of professional shots I did to have them for memories.

HFrizzle · May 2014

I saw that post and thought it was so cool. I've never gotten a card or even a second look. I think it's cool when I see a momma doing it though.

SmileMom2013 · May 2014

@Sweet Tooth 87‌ it definitely sounds like E's mom handled it perfectly. I wouldn't have been able to. I didn't hear about the other mom. I don't know what I would have done! Crazy that it happened at the daycare of all places!

kelle017 · May 2014

I've nursed uncovered in my car, but when I'm out to eat I cover up. I w as nursing covered a few months ago and had an older lady come up to me and tell me I was doing awesome. It still gives me warm fuzzies.

psychdoc12 · May 2014

I don't know what happened, but something switched in me a few months ago and now I NIP uncovered everywhere without a concern at all. I kind of want someone to challenge me. I'm ready to go off on someone.

slh6363 · May 2014

I've actually never noticed anyone NIP which is strange now that I think about it. I wonder if it is just not as common around here or if I just never noticed. I EP so this really doesn't apply to be but I do think I would have a hard to getting used to it.

norbert5 · May 2014

I NIP all the time and I have never gotten a card but I use a cover or blanket most of the time.

I do have to brag about DH. He got into an argument with two coworkers because they thought Breastfeeding was/is disgusting and NIP is offensive. The argument was at lunch he came home at five still on fire about it. It warmed my heart for DH to be so passionate and supportive of bfing.

Inn2 · May 2014

I'm not very graceful with it, so the extent of my NIP is the car or conference room at my church. I think it is cool others can tho, and have total envy.

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