Two baby showers?

LaDyBostonRN · May 2014

Hi Ladies,

My aunt wants to throw me a "family" baby shower aside from the one that my SIL, BF's, and sister are organizing.

At first I didn't like this idea for a couple reasons. My best friends lives a plane ride away. She is very close to the family but financially would only be able to attend one shower. If I had two, and she came to the "friends" shower, I would miss her so much at the family shower and visa versa. Plus I am anticipating my mom to give me some special gifts (memorabilia from my birth, etc), and I would hate to open them at one shower, but not at the other, I just feel like friends and family I'm close to would miss out on special moments because there would be two.

I know my aunt really wants to throw me one, and I don't want to disappoint her, but I also believe she would back down if I told her I wanted one.

Anyone have any specific thoughts on this? Maybe someone can sway me more one way than the other so I can make a decision!

Jennifer18131 · May 2014

From my perspective as a guest, I would not feel cheated by you opening family sentimental heirlooms at the other shower. Showers are long enough as it is and gushing over your birth mementos would take longer and lead to many stories. As a friend, I would be okay skipping that part.

Also, I'm a terrible friend and not sentimental, apparently.

MrMrsandBaby · May 2014

Meh, I ended up with three showers for my LO. One with DH's family (not local) one for friends (sigh) and one for my family. No one was really upset that they weren't there for opening every gift! I think if your BFF is that close to you then invite her to the family one...but it really shouldn't matter as long as she is there!

ETA: hit submit too soon.

LaDyBostonRN · May 2014

Jennifer18131 said:
From my perspective as a guest, I would not feel cheated by you opening family sentimental heirlooms at the other shower. Showers are long enough as it is and gushing over your birth mementos would take longer and lead to many stories. As a friend, I would be okay skipping that part.

Also, I'm a terrible friend and not sentimental, apparently.

Ya, I think this is a completely different situation.

nightowl1989 · May 2014

I may be having two showers only because DH's family lives in Cali and most of mine lives in OK/AR area nowadays, so it truly is a matter of necessity because nobody likes getting on an airplane. :-w

LaDyBostonRN · May 2014

dorothyzbornak97 said:
Would your aunt be OK with just helping out with the other one? I would let her know I just wanted one, but that you'd love for her to be a part of the planning for that one.

I'm having two showers, one thrown by family, the other thrown by friends (all people who volunteered to do so). I have a big family, so this helps avoid the too many people at the shower problem, and my teetotaler aunts won't be offended by the booze that I want served for my friends (I certainly don't want them to avoid cocktails just because I am!).

This is helpful, I will talk to her, thanks!!!!

MrMrsandBaby · May 2014

LaDyBostonRN said:

From my perspective as a guest, I would not feel cheated by you opening family sentimental heirlooms at the other shower. Showers are long enough as it is and gushing over your birth mementos would take longer and lead to many stories. As a friend, I would be okay skipping that part. Also, I'm a terrible friend and not sentimental, apparently.
Ya, I think this is a completely different situation.

Why? Did I miss something?

LaDyBostonRN · May 2014

MrMrsandBaby said:

LaDyBostonRN said:

Jennifer18131 said:
From my perspective as a guest, I would not feel cheated by you opening family sentimental heirlooms at the other shower. Showers are long enough as it is and gushing over your birth mementos would take longer and lead to many stories. As a friend, I would be okay skipping that part.

Also, I'm a terrible friend and not sentimental, apparently.

Ya, I think this is a completely different situation.

Why? Did I miss something?

Well, she IS a sentimental person. She personally told me she can't wait until my mom "brings out the goodies" ie all the stuff she's saved up for this moment and how quickly the waterworks will come. We've been through a lot and we have a special relationship. But maybe as pp have said, she should come to the family one. Although I will miss her at the young, boozed filled one

<:-P <:-P <:-P

MrMrsandBaby · May 2014

LaDyBostonRN said:

LaDyBostonRN said:

From my perspective as a guest, I would not feel cheated by you opening family sentimental heirlooms at the other shower. Showers are long enough as it is and gushing over your birth mementos would take longer and lead to many stories. As a friend, I would be okay skipping that part. Also, I'm a terrible friend and not sentimental, apparently.
Ya, I think this is a completely different situation.

Why? Did I miss something?
Well, she IS a sentimental person. She personally told me she can't wait until my mom "brings out the goodies" ie all the stuff she's saved up for this moment and how quickly the waterworks will come. We've been through a lot and we have a special relationship. But maybe as pp have said, she should come to the family one. Although I will miss her at the young, boozed filled one <:-P <:-P <:-P

Gottcha...yeah, if she is already saying something about that stuff I would invite her to whichever one your mom is going to give you all the sentimental stuff.

ariel06 · May 2014

Could you do them the same weekend?

pushgal84 · May 2014

ariel06 said:

Could you do them the same weekend?

This is what I was going to suggest. It might make for a long weekend for you and anyone else attending both, but if it's important for some people to attend both then it seems worth it.

Mommy2Boys09 · May 2014

I agree with previous posters, either have the aunt and best friend plan one together or try to do both in one weekend.

LaDyBostonRN · May 2014

The only thing about the same weekend is that they would be roughly 2 hours apart/away. Doable, but certainly not convenient.

Great suggestions!!!

DiannaVB · May 2014

I had three but they were all in different geographical locations and the guest lists didn't overlap.

ladybug0088 · May 2014

Any way she could also help "host" the shower and get her name on the invitations as a hostess as well? That way she can feel that she contributed to the shower and is planning it with the others. This is what we are doing with my brother's girlfriend because she really wanted to do something but my cousin wanted to throw the shower and my mom is paying for it at the country club. We just decided all three names will be on the invitations.

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