And that makes seven (preg., loss, and children mentioned... not mine)

mrsbark711 · May 2014

Well I am surrounded by fertile Myrtles.

Currently I have seven pregnant or recently new mommies in my life (that I am aware of):

My estranged friend who recently had her fourth child. She was told after her 3rd that she should not have more (repeated C-sections).
My bestie who is due in Sept/Oct. Pretty sure they were MFI. They were NTNP, and this was a surprise after many years of NTNP.
My DH friend's wife who is due in July (and REQUESTED that we throw their shower). They succeeded the month they ditched BC.
My dearest friend who is a mother of a 2-year-old, suffered an ectopic pg last year, and LITERALLY just announced her pg to me (only three people including me know).
My co-worker who simply decided she wanted more kids (she has 2 from a previous marriage), ovulated, and was pg.
My cousin who has that clotting mutation who is pg with her 2nd child. She has to take shots to carry to term.
My cousin who suffered at least 2 miscarriages last year just announced her pg via facebook.

I feel surrounded. And these are JUST the ones that I know of... I was JUST getting my brain into the idea of hosting this shower, and I have had two pg announcements since sending out the invitations. I just want my chance.

Sorry for the woe is me post.

Lillovebug79 · May 2014

I'm sorry!!! I know how you feel, I have 14 pregnant co-workers!! Not to mention friends and Facebook friends who are also KU. I am surrounded but just try to keep my head above water. Remember, as difficult as it is, and even though you have had to wait longer than most, you will get your BFP. And your is really the only one that matters. I really try to separate myself emotionally from everyone's pregnancies and babies.

theholmanherd · May 2014

I completely understand. It's so frustrating to see everyone around you get pregnant while you're just in the corner struggling. I'm sorry you're having a rough day (((HUGS)))

mrsbark711 · May 2014

Thank you @lillovebug79

I just had a moment where I was painfully aware of it all.

The upcoming shower doesn't really help either. I know that it is my fault for agreeing to host the thing, but I really felt cornered and I am TOO nice for my own good.

Less than a month... I can do this.

mrsbark711 · May 2014

Thanks @theholmanherd

I hate feeling envious. I want to feel joyous.

It feels so wrong to be unhappy, but sometimes I cannot shake it.

jjgrl55 · May 2014

Indeed, it sucks. I had about 10 women around me at one point who were all pregnant at once.

The good thing about the stories you shared is that it sounds like a lot of these people are achieving pregnancies despite IF and loss issues. That always gives me a smidge of hope, along with the jealousy.

mrsbark711 · May 2014

Yes @jjgrl55

My cousin with the gene mutation actually passed it on to her son, and because she went through it her younger sister was tested and it turns out that she has the same mutation. So thankfully her younger sister will get to skip the suffering that she experienced.

My friend with MFI is one of those now believers of "God's timing", or "move away / go on a trip", "just relax / don't try"... so that errrks me a bit. She does not really understand meds or treatment.

jjgrl55 · May 2014

mrsbark711 said:

Yes @jjgrl55

My cousin with the gene mutation actually passed it on to her son, and because she went through it her younger sister was tested and it turns out that she has the same mutation. So thankfully her younger sister will get to skip the suffering that she experienced.

My friend with MFI is one of those now believers of "God's timing", or "move away / go on a trip", "just relax / don't try"... so that errrks me a bit. She does not really understand meds or treatment.

Yeah... I have a friend like that who has been NTNP for 8 years because she believes in the whole "meant to be" thing. Which is great for her, so long as it keeps her emotionally stable, but can be a bit annoying when she throws it my way. Sorry, but I believe in science to fix my medical issues.

mrsbark711 · May 2014

Exactly

brazenbiblio · May 2014

I teach in a school full of women and there are always at least two pg women every year. I feel so selfish not wanting to talk about babies with them or go to the baby showers. No one at work knows I'm even trying so it just feels awkward.

BunnyBerry · May 2014

So sorry about all that hitting you at once! It is nice, though, to see several PAIF stories in there.

BananaPancakes02 · May 2014

I'm sorry you have all of that popping up around you. I can't even imagine. And who asks someone to tore a shower for them??!

::hugs::

AngM123 · May 2014

I'm sorry. I understand, I feel like between work, friends, family, the internet, and strangers I encounter...I attract them. I relate to PP, my 30 min commute on the way home is usually when I get my daily tears out. Hugs to you!

Danielle0311 · May 2014

I completely understand how you feel. I am surrounded by them as well, my SIL, friends, cousins, co-workers.. They are just everywhere. It's hard cause I'm very happy for them but it's still like a gut punch

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time

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