I am getting married a week before my son's fourth birthday, and on his actual birthday, we will still be on honeymoon (he is coming with us) and we are going to do something special with him on his actual birthday, but it will only be the three of us. The day after he comes back, he goes to him grandmother's house (not my mum, we have 50/50 custody) for two weeks, and she is going to have a small family party over there (we live in different countries) for him, but none of my side of the family and Fi's family are going to be invited (we never are), so I'm inclined to have another party with all his friends and all of his family and future step-family invited, but not until he's back at mine, which is a full month after his actual birthday. This will also give FI and I's families time to come back over (we don't live in the same country as anyone we are related to). Does this see okay to you, or a bit over the top?
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Me: 36 FI: 35 Met: August 1999, dated Sept - Dec '99 Reunited May 2008, Marrying June 2014 Diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer January 1996 One small cancerous cyst (left ovary) removed Jan '96, chemotherapy Jan - July '96 Three more cancerous cysts found July 1996 (left ovary), ovary removed July '96, chemotherapy July '96 - Feb '97 February 1997 given all clear! Told of suspected infertility Tove Ikarus born July 2010, given guardianship September 2010 April 2014 infertility confirmed IVF with sister's eggs July 2014 (Hopeful) adoption of Tove July 2015 @LaireAndLia is my sister's partner, @DragonsLaire is my sister
I think it is fine given the circumstances. I have known quite a few people that have waited to have a birthday party for various reasons and I have never batted an eye (their kids have a Christmas birthday, waited for a deployed parent to return, etc....).
@Regal Mama I'm on the TTC 35+, Infertility and Third Party Reproduction boards, all of which like you to have an warning if you mention your child in you signature.
****Older Child Warning****
Me: 36 FI: 35 Met: August 1999, dated Sept - Dec '99 Reunited May 2008, Marrying June 2014 Diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer January 1996 One small cancerous cyst (left ovary) removed Jan '96, chemotherapy Jan - July '96 Three more cancerous cysts found July 1996 (left ovary), ovary removed July '96, chemotherapy July '96 - Feb '97 February 1997 given all clear! Told of suspected infertility Tove Ikarus born July 2010, given guardianship September 2010 April 2014 infertility confirmed IVF with sister's eggs July 2014 (Hopeful) adoption of Tove July 2015 @LaireAndLia is my sister's partner, @DragonsLaire is my sister
I think it's fine and so sad that someone would suggest not having a birthday party for their child every year. I don't get how you don't live in the same country as anyone else though. I wouldn't expect someone to travel more than an hour for a kid's birthday party.
Re: Having son's birthday party a month after his actual birthday?
Diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer January 1996
One small cancerous cyst (left ovary) removed Jan '96, chemotherapy Jan - July '96
Three more cancerous cysts found July 1996 (left ovary), ovary removed July '96, chemotherapy July '96 - Feb '97
February 1997 given all clear! Told of suspected infertility
Tove Ikarus born July 2010, given guardianship September 2010
April 2014 infertility confirmed
IVF with sister's eggs July 2014
(Hopeful) adoption of Tove July 2015
@LaireAndLia is my sister's partner, @DragonsLaire is my sister