What is everyone planning? My husband is taking 2 weeks off work (same as with our other children). My MIL offered to come for a few days (assuming after DH is back at work). I'd really only need her to help out with my older kids. The thing is, I don't really trust her with certain things, like feeding them. She always pushes certain foods that aren't appropriate.
No one came with my 2nd. My MIL came for one night with our 1st (we were desperate after a crazy night). She did help to figure out how to get him to sleep.
Anyway...I'm leaning toward not having anyone come this time. After 2 weeks I think I should be feeling better, have an idea of how to manage all 3 kids. Plus, my husband works from home.
What are everyone else's plans? Sometimes I think having people over to "help" is more trouble that it's worth.
son#1 born 6/2010
son#2 born 4/2012
son#3 born 7/2014
Re: Help after the baby comes?
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My mom and MIL both offered to watch the baby a week when I go back at work, so the transition of pumping, back to work, dropping off 2 kiddos will be delayed another 2 weeks, that's nice! Last time my mom stayed with us through J's first week (she went home the day after H went back to work). It was good having her there, she fed me! and she's not the type to expect to be entertained, her company was easy to have around, and she had experience BFing which was nice too.
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Stella - 7.7.11 | Ian - 8.6.14 | Isaac- 7.20.18
#4 due 4.22.23
With DS I had terrible PPD and PPA so we ended up going to my parent's house for a week.
This time we'll stay here but family will visit. All grandparents live within 30 min and are involved -- we're fortunate .
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If I need help after family leaves I plan on calling one of my neighbors.
Honestly, when people came over all they ever wanted to do was bring dinner (appreciated, except the pizza my FIL brought ever Thursday got old), and hold the baby. I don't need help holding the baby thanks lol. What would be really helpful is if they would bring over real dinners that we can reheat or pay to have our house cleaned once or twice.
Logan 10/20/2010 ~ Addison 8/26/2014
My parents will come up for a week around Labor Day. My ILs live in town and I am sure they will stop by a lot. My MIL is super helpful and I have a feeling I will like having her around. If not, they are not invasive so I doubt I'd have to tell her to back off if I need space. My SIL and sister both attend college close by so they'll be in and out as well. I will really appreciate my sister because I can text her to bring us food or run errands.
BFP 12.13.13. Baby Girl EDD 8.21.14.
Dh is self employed so when he's not working he's not making money. He says he will take around 3 days off but I am pushing for a week. We'll see.....
After he goes back to work my mom is coming into town and will stay with us for a week. After my mom leaves MIL is flying in from Canada and will stay at least a week. Both mom's are coming specifically to help grocery shop/cook/clean/laundry/etc.. (they offered).
I figure I will have help for the first 3 weeks and I'm happy with that. I'm not worried about taking care of the baby- but all the other crap that goes along with running a household while being sleep deprived. It will be nice not to worry about it and I'm very lucky!
I feel like this will be me as well. However, we will have what is going to seem like a revolving door after the baby comes. Not sure yet how much time DH is going to take off. I'm a FTM and this will be the first grandbaby for my parents so they want to come right away - they'll be here for a week most likely. Then my MIL is planning to come, most likely over lapping by a day or so with my parents so they can visit each other too (all our family lives out of state). I'm guessing she'll stay for probably 5 days. Then a week or so later my FIL will come for a long weekend.
As of right now DH will have about 3 weeks off. I'm not sure I will want him to take all that time off though. I think a week will be good then maybe 2 weeks in September with helping me get dd to school. My ILs live right up the street so I know they will help with the older two and my cousin lives like 10 minutes away and will also help. My parents might come down or we will make the trip up to them.
DH will take off a week or so. He can work remote so it'll be really flexible.
Both of my parents are retired now, so all I have to do is say the word and they'll come back for however long. They live 8 hours away.
They have the option of sleeping on an air mattress with us or at the ILs house in a spare room. Thankfully, everyone gets along really well.