Would you go?

noellemari · April 2014

My husband wants to run a marathon in the finger lakes on October 5. I'm not due til the 29th and I'm ok with him going. I'm just not sure if I want to go. It's a 3.5-4 hour drive and we'd have our two little ones with us. And I just don't think there's anything for me to do with the littles. Him and his friend plan on leaving Saturday morning and getting home Sunday evening. I want to support him and all, but it just doesn't sound like fun at almost 37 weeks pregnant. I'm leaning toward staying home, but hope I'm not being a bitchy, unsupportive wife. And also, marathon running is just not a spectator sport.

So, would you suck it up and go?

Jennifer18131 · April 2014

Don't most doctors recommend you stay within a 1 hour radius of the hospital after 36 weeks?

golfingdarwinfish · April 2014

I think I would evaluate (in collaboration with my ob) my pregnancy and situation closer to race day and make a decision at that time, though my gut that this early on I would be anticipating not to attend.

ETA: My other consideration would be, will you even be able or want to stand or sit (if it's an option) on the sidelines for the entire race? If not, it will compound the stress and discomfort because you will be disappointed you did all that traveling and didn't even see much of the race.

windwithfingers · April 2014

I say no way. I assume we'll all be super uncomfortable about that time, and like @Jennifer18131 said, the folder my OB gave me said to stay close to home once you hit the 36 week mark.

sarajones84 · April 2014

I most definitely would NOT go. You'll be exhausted at the end and with 2 LO's you'll be even more exhausted.

ADH0906 · April 2014

I wouldn't, and I definitely don't believe that it makes you a bitchy unsupportive wife if you don't. Wrangling two kids while that pregnant doesn't sound like much fun to me, and I don't think my midwife allows travel that late in the pregnancy.

noellemari · April 2014

I honestly have no clue what the "cut off" is and what my doctors are comfortable with. I'm not too concerned about delivering around that time since neither of my kids came even close to early. And I'll be near hospitals. It's not like I'm traveling someplace with no healthcare. I guess I just think I'll be miserable!

And obviously, I wouldn't go if there were any concerns. And neither would my DH! He's well aware of that!

noellemari · April 2014

Thanks, ladies!

It's not his first marathon. It'll be his second and I did go to the first one. But it was in Disney World.

I mean, I can't even drink all the wine I'd be surrounded by!

I think also, if he was going alone, I'd be more likely to try and join him, but he's going with a friend.

Maybe I'll plan on dropping my kids with my parents that day and doing something for me! Like a last minute pedicure! Sounds like a much better way to spend my time. I think I just needed reassurance that I wasn't being completely unsupportive of him.

You ladies really know how to make a girl feel better! Best birth month board ever!

TheOtherJacobsons · April 2014

I wouldn't and I would want him to stay.

wildflower75 · April 2014

36 weeks was when I decided it should be illegal for any woman to be working... you're just too uncomfortable and possibly going through major Braxton Hicks or worse... Stay home and rest! Do some thing with friends or by yourself and get a sitter! You can support him by giving him a nice gift (new shoe laces or a nice special dinner when he gets back). Or have a congratulations banner at home with some cake?

lrobi13 · April 2014

Yep, I would sit that one out. Too many variables. Between being super pregnant, your other los, and the drive. Nope. Do something for yourself that day and just do something to congratulate him once he returns home.

jesslinnn · April 2014

I would probably skip. Being 37 weeks pregnant and chasing kids is hard enough at home! Plus a 4 hr car ride. Your DH should definitely understand.

MrsL2B · April 2014

OMG stay home!

JessAnnJ · April 2014

HiCan said:
I think a 4 hr car ride at 37 weeks sounds miserable! I don't think you're being unsupportive by the way. It's pretty much an out without sounding bitchy.

This plus I think you are being supportive just by taking on the kids alone and letting him get away from home for the marathon.

ss265 · April 2014

crawford411 said:

I agree... stay home and rest. Also, consider a backup plan in case you go into labor that day. Make sure you have childcare AND someone to be with you at the hospital. Murphy's law and all that.

This!

ariel06 · April 2014

I would tell him to go and have fun and stay home with the kids.

raynes · April 2014

If it was me, and I didn't have the little ones, I'd consider it, but try to leave it as an decision to be made sort of week of.

Taking the kiddos into account? Nooooo thank you. A 4 hour car ride with 2 kids sounds torturous enough, but add in a bladder the size and shape of a pancake and that just sounds no fun at all.

annejulie26 · April 2014

I wouldn't go. I had DS at 36 weeks it was totally unexpected my water just broke and had to be induced. It's always a possibility your baby could be early.

MissMandyD · April 2014

I wouldn't go. And I would agree with you about marathon running not being a spectator sport. The most my family ever does when I am running a race is to come to the finish line about 30 minutes before I am scheduled to finish.

noellemari · April 2014

@Happyin14‌ Thanks for the wine suggestions. He will have to bring me a souvenir. I'll definitely need the wine with three kids!

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