Sleeping Arrangements

MarisaKathleen · April 2014

While it's assumed this new baby will spend the first 6 weeks or so in our room, we're having a hard time figuring out where to put him long term.

If this were you, would you have them share a room, even though Nancy's room is flowery and more girly, or would you give him his own room on the 1st floor of the house? Realistically we want to spend at most another 2 years in our house, and Nancy's room is huge--it's definitely large enough for both of them.

Any opinions would be helpful, especially if you've been in this situation.

Thanks!

willy_gert · April 2014

I would have them share a room, because he isn't going to remember that it was flowery and girly. Plus two years really isn't that long and then you will be able to do a more fun "grown up" boy room.

BillyMollyEmmy · April 2014

Agreed with @willy_gert. You're going to be the only one who realizes that it's girly. He won't care.

AKB090609 · April 2014

My only hesitation with them sharing a room is STTN, my s12er is a light sleeper so the newbie is getting its own room until she can STTN.

watercolor5 · April 2014

I think it depends on your kids which will work best. If it were mine, I'd probably move my older child downstairs because she'd definitely wake up when the baby woke for feedings, and I'd want the younger baby closer so I had less space to travel in the middle of the night.

BillyMollyEmmy · April 2014

I would definitely keep him in your room until he's only waking maybe once through the night.

melody921 · April 2014

I wouldn't be thrilled about having one child on a different level of the house, so I'd lean toward them sharing a room, unless you find that one of them is always waking up the other.

MommaP12 · April 2014

I voted don't share a room. The reason is because my kids were forced to share a room and while it was fine, I now am not going to be able to separate them. When we move into our house in a couple of weeks, they are going to continue sharing because they will freak if they aren't sharing and adjusting to a new house after living like gypsies is enough for them to deal with. I'll plan to transition to their own rooms in the fall after making a big deal about DS awesome new room, yada yada yada.

I would follow the "begin as you intend to continue" rule if you can. We, unfortunately couldn't do that.

OceanLover26 · April 2014

Dexter and Summer share a room. See below.

We bought this house right as we found out we were pregnant with him so we have two boys in one room, and Summer and Dexter in the other room. Summer's room is bright pink with black, green, and purple butterflies on the walls surrounding her wooden name sign that I made, and yellow curtains, and a dark expresso crib and tot bed. (I need to make Dexter's name sign this spring.) I think they'll be okay like this until they are school aged. By then our 2nd story will be built in and we can spread the kids out a bit more so they'll have more privacy and stuff. They do VERY well together in the same room (ie not vexing each other during naps and bedtime). I wouldn't worry so much about the colors or anything. My older boys didn't start noticing/caring about the difference between girl and boy colors and toys till about 5 years old. I say let them share if it seems like there is no problem with the sleep situation. Good luck!

MarisaKathleen · April 2014

Thanks ladies!

I'm hoping that this baby will follow in Nancy's footsteps and sleep like the dead. I could walk into her room now and have a party and she doesn't wake up, so hopefully she'd sleep through any baby wakings. I plan on having the PNP on the 1st floor for naps and what not, so we'll see. Obviously we have time to figure it out, I've just been thinking about it a lot lately.

MommaP12 · April 2014

It will work out either way. As everyone says "kids adjust"

My DS is a hard sleeper but DD was not but it worked out because when the older child is the heavy sleeper they don't hear the babe.

LyndseylovesHugh · April 2014

I would put them in separate rooms, but not because her room is girly. I just wouldn't want them waking each other up. But if they are both heavy sleepers it might not be an issue.

mrsjenni · April 2014

Reid and Brynn share a room. Reid sleeps in a crib with pink sheets and "Brynn" above it. (Brynn is in a toddler bed.) I've never given it a second thought. He'll get his own room, eventually (our house is on the market) but, for now, this is what works best for us and the kids couldn't care less.

hmp1 · April 2014

James went through a big sleep regression and goes to bed later and wakes earlier than Leo. He wakes in the MOTN some too. From what I have read, it is fairly common for this to happen. I am very glad they are in different rooms right now. I do plan to have them share a room when they get a bit older, but right now it wouldn't work well for them. With Leo's teeething weeks of hell, it would have woken up James a lot and if he saw me pulling Leo into bed with us, all 4 of us would have been in bed together. If you have the option for separate rooms, that gets my vote regardless of what floor the rooms are on.

BPer · April 2014

I wouldn't have them share a room, just because I would rather have one sleeping like shit, than both of them because they are waking the other. KWIM?

I'm actually setting up a bedroom (not going all out or anything) in our spare room for just a couple of months for 2.0, because I want to have somewhere to put everything, and it'd be nice to at least have that space.

GEM529 · April 2014

My kids shared a room until we moved last month. DS was 3.5 when DD was born so he was already a good sleeper. DD slept in our room until she was 4/5months and only waking about 1 time a night. DS never woke up when she cried. It really worked well for us. When we put the house on the market we took down DD's crib and she slept in the pack and play each night. Every morning we put the pack and play away so the house was "show ready".

If you say that Nancy is a good sleeper I would have them share a room. Maybe you can make his wall blue or decorate it differently.

PenelopePond · April 2014

My boys share a room because there is no other option. Ethan is almost three years older than Sean. Sean slept in our room until five months. When we put him in the room with Ethan, it went awesome. Sean woke up once a night for the longest time (until 13m), and Ethan never woke up. I'm sure we got lucky, though. Ethan's a sound sleeper and Sean only woke once a night.

MarisaKathleen · April 2014

Nancy was sleeping from 9pm-430am at around 7wks old, so I doubt we'll get that lucky twice, but the plan is to transition him to his own crib or room before I go back to work at 12wks. With Nancy we did it around 8wks in case it was a difficult transition. But, because she's the chillest kid ever, it was an extra 10 minutes of fussing for 2 days and that was it.

Holly_1007 · April 2014

We had this predicament also. Our original plan was for the boys to share a room once Colby was STTN. We had a lot of trouble with Colby and he didn't sleep thru until almost 9 months. Around 6 months we got sick of having Colby in our room. We ended up moving keagan down into a new "big boy " room on the first floor and giving Colby the nursery. He was still in his crib when we made the transition so it really worked out well for us. Eventually we might move both boys back into the nursery,but it won't be until after we transition Colby out of the crib.

misspunky · April 2014

I'm going to echo what most others have said. I wouldn't have them share a room until LO 2.0 was STTN regularly. DD started STTN by 3 months (if I remember correctly) and we still waited a little bit to transition her to her own room. She slept in the PNP by our bed, and never once had a problem transitioning.

Hyaline · April 2014

Couldn't care less about girly vs not girly or nursery vs older kid room, but if I had any other option, I would not have them room together because of STTN issues as others have said. Last thing I would have wanted when getting up with DD MOTN would have been to wake LO#1 while getting her back down.

kelbel527 · April 2014

I refuse to have my kids share a room until they're both much older. And then, I will leave it up to them.

However, that's our kids. So do what's best once you get a feel for how your kiddos are sleeping. In my case, big kid doesn't nap, but has "rest time," so I can't have him goofing off in his room while the little man is trying to sleep. As Nancy get's older, you may run into different sleep schedules. The "girly" decor wouldn't bother me in the least, though.

I'd actually consider moving Nancy down stairs and keeping 2.0 upstairs. Is that an option?

Oh, and you can get lucky with two good sleepers. I have proof.

mrsbhk22 · May 2014

My boys share a room by choice. If one has the flu and is up in the middle of the night throwing up, the other one never wakes up. If the dogs walks on the wood floor, they are both wide awake. I don't get it, but other than farting around sometimes at bed time, it's great.

We threatened to make them move to seperate rooms because they were getting loud at night and they knocked it off.

Eastie156 · May 2014

I voted share a room, because that's what we'll be doing. We are in a three bedroom apartment, but one bedroom is on another level. I'd rather be closer to Ethan and the baby than on a separate floor than either one.

Eastie156 · May 2014

After reading some responses about kids sharing a room and it being too hard with noise, I know my SIL who's two little are only 26 months apart room share and at first was an adjustment but was nbd after that.

Bluebird2318 · May 2014

I voted not to share. My DD is a light sleeper and a baby in her room would destroy her sleep schedule. I would just use a separate room and not bother with special decor if we planned to move in two years. Once we moved I would keep them separate and sate my need to decorate at that point.

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