Birth Stone

Re: Birth Stone

• gabbagal member

  April 2014

  I bought a necklace with the birth flower of the EDD month, which conveniently was the same for both of my losses (also conveniently it's a gladiolus which represents "remembrance"). One way I acknowledged the other dates was to donate money to our local children's hospital on the actual due date of the first loss (the second hasn't come up yet) and I chose to donate $125.18 b/c I got the BFP on Dec 5th (12.5) and discovered the missed miscarriage on Jan 8th (1.8).
  

  Me: 41, DH: 42, married 2009
  BFP #1: 12/05/2012; EDD 08/09/2013; MC 01/2013 (missed, D&C)
  BFP #2: 12/19/2013; EDD 08/25/2014; MC 01/2014 (natural)

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• stephy1221 member

  April 2014

  I have an angel charm with the Oct (edd) birthstone on my purse.

           

  
  

  Oct Angel*BFP 1/25/14 * EDD 10/6/14 * US#1 2/26/14 *US#2 3/3/14 no heartbeat*d&c 3/12/14*

  
  

  BFP 1/17/15 * EDD 9/30/15

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• MrsKush1014 member

  April 2014

  I bought a necklace with the birthstone of my EDD month (November).  I feel that if the baby was supposed to be born in November then November's birthstone would have been the baby's birthstone, but you should do what you feel is right for you.

  
  

  

  BFP: 3/9/2014  EDD: 11/11/2014  MMC: 4/10/2014  D&C: 4/11/2014
  

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• TheAerialist member

  April 2014

  I think you should do what feels natural to you all of these are solid options and what matters most is what feels the best to you.  I would be inclined to do the month of loss because that would be a remembrance of when the baby was last with me.  If I was further along (I was only 8 weeks) then the EDD would probably feel more right to me.

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• mara005 member

  April 2014

  Month of loss. My babies were born in April and January so I wanted those stones.

  
  

  "Love is what makes pain bearable." - I love you my Angels. 

  **All After a Loss Welcome**
  BFP #1: 6/25/09 EDD 2/13/10 @ 6 weeks- Saw HB @ 9 weeks - DS born 2/11/10 (39w5d)
  BFP #2: 2/20/13 EDD 11/4/13 - Saw HB 3/19/13 (7w2d) - MMC discovered 4/13/13 (10w5d) - Est. loss @ 9w3d - D&C 4/14/13
  

  BFP #3: 12/19/13 (4 w1d) EDD 8/27/14 - 1/1/14 discovered it was ectopic/ tube had burst/ had surgery to remove tube (@ 6 weeks)
  BFP #4: 9/10/14 (3w6d) EDD 5/21/15 - natural MC 9/23/14 @ 5w5d
  BFP #5: 11/23/14 (3w3d) EDD 8/4/15 - Please be our Rainbow! 

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• AggieBeth06 member

  May 2014

  I felt this was a hard thing for me to reconcile. I chose EDD for my pendant, but if it had been a 2nd tri or 3rd tri loss, I would have used the loss date.
  
  ****living child mentioned*****
  
  DS was born 6 weeks early, so obv I use his birthday for his birthstone as opposed to the EDD. I went round and round with considering using the loss date because the logic is the same. But then I questioned what exactly was the loss date... When we were diagnosed? When the heart stopped beating? When I had the d&c? My head started spinning and I felt EDD was clearer for me in my situation.

  
  

  

  PG#1 - 3rd cycle BFP. Team Green. HELLP syndrome @ 34 weeks.
  Later diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, possible link to HELLP.

  PG#2 M/C 3/14 - Surprise BFP 2/13. Beta's doubled every 52 hours from 3w5d-5w5d
  Viable pregnancy scan at 5w5d; 2nd u/s showed 2 days of growth in 7 but a HB of 120
  3rd u/s on 3/10/14 had no HB and baby had only grown 7 days over 14
  D&C 3/17/14 - complications - DX Retroflexed uterus, multiple tears to cervix

  All Welcome

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