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Secondary IF
lawmom747
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Intro
lawmom747
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in Secondary IF
Hello everyone! I posted on TTCAL first, but realized that my place may be here with you ladies.
Both DH and I are 34 and have been married almost ten years. We waited to start a family having no idea that we would face such a tough road. We are blessed with one adorable and sweet little girl via IVF, but have been trying to have another child.
In March 2013, DH lost his mother suddenly. In September 2013 we decided to try for another child via FET - I was pregnant with twins but lost both of them after 2 weeks bed rest / out of work. Genetic testing came back with no issues for either embryo. I tried to remain positive - thinking 2013 is just not our year, right? We had three frozen embryos left, and decided to try again in March 2014. Only two embryos survived the thaw, and we transferred both - and I faced a BFN. RE told me today that both embryos were high quality for transfer and my lining, etc looked good - so once again, no obvious reason for the failure.
With the PCOS, going through the egg retrieval process the first time was more painful than I expected. I met with the RE today and he wants me to a 3 hour sugar test next week to see how things look before we move forward with IVF. I am nervous about starting over again with all the additional hormones, etc. and also I have a not-so-supportive boss - a woman believe it or not - who will not react positively to the prospect of me missing more time for the additional doctor appointments, etc. I feel like my life has been on hold during all of these ups and downs - which I am sure you all understand.
Thanks in advance for giving me a place to chat as I feel many women who have not faced these obstacles (including my boss and family members) just have no idea how to respond to my loss and to the difficult times ahead.
Both DH and I are 34 and have been married almost ten years. We waited to start a family having no idea that we would face such a tough road. We are blessed with one adorable and sweet little girl via IVF, but have been trying to have another child.
In March 2013, DH lost his mother suddenly. In September 2013 we decided to try for another child via FET - I was pregnant with twins but lost both of them after 2 weeks bed rest / out of work. Genetic testing came back with no issues for either embryo. I tried to remain positive - thinking 2013 is just not our year, right? We had three frozen embryos left, and decided to try again in March 2014. Only two embryos survived the thaw, and we transferred both - and I faced a BFN. RE told me today that both embryos were high quality for transfer and my lining, etc looked good - so once again, no obvious reason for the failure.
With the PCOS, going through the egg retrieval process the first time was more painful than I expected. I met with the RE today and he wants me to a 3 hour sugar test next week to see how things look before we move forward with IVF. I am nervous about starting over again with all the additional hormones, etc. and also I have a not-so-supportive boss - a woman believe it or not - who will not react positively to the prospect of me missing more time for the additional doctor appointments, etc. I feel like my life has been on hold during all of these ups and downs - which I am sure you all understand.
Thanks in advance for giving me a place to chat as I feel many women who have not faced these obstacles (including my boss and family members) just have no idea how to respond to my loss and to the difficult times ahead.
Me: 35 DH: 35 - Married 10 years
PCOS and MF
Two failed rounds IUI in 2010
IVF #1 in 2011 - BFP 8/5/11 - Our IVF miracle was born 4/8/12
FET 9/23/13; BFP -Twins-10/3/13; EDD 6/10/14; MC 11/1/13; D&C 11/4/13
FET 3/28/14; BFN - 4/7/14
IVF #2 - Transfer 2 embryos 11/14/14; BFP 11/24/14 - Beta 265;
11/26/14 - Beta 612; 11/28/14 - Beta 1263; 12/1/14 - Beta 3571;
12/3/14 - first u/s - two gestational sacs; 12/17/14 - two healthy heartbeats (132 and 134)
Our IVF miracles were born 7/16/15
PCOS and MF
Two failed rounds IUI in 2010
IVF #1 in 2011 - BFP 8/5/11 - Our IVF miracle was born 4/8/12
FET 9/23/13; BFP -Twins-10/3/13; EDD 6/10/14; MC 11/1/13; D&C 11/4/13
FET 3/28/14; BFN - 4/7/14
IVF #2 - Transfer 2 embryos 11/14/14; BFP 11/24/14 - Beta 265;
11/26/14 - Beta 612; 11/28/14 - Beta 1263; 12/1/14 - Beta 3571;
12/3/14 - first u/s - two gestational sacs; 12/17/14 - two healthy heartbeats (132 and 134)
Our IVF miracles were born 7/16/15
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Re: Intro
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
As for your boss- that REALLY sucks. Make sure you log every reaction and (yes I'm being serious) along with recording your missed times, for what appointments and why- and if you make up hours or use PTO, sick time, vacation, working to make up hours. This way if it ever becomes a true issue w her, you have covered yourself showing your actions- any negativity she has given you (ie- discrimination or hostile work environment) and can prove that you were doing the right thing. You may think this seem over board or crazy, but what is the happens in the best case scenario? You throw out this info and glad it was never needed! Worst case you wished you had it and don't. I found out the hard way.
Anyway, much luck and big welcome!!!
June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS.
November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS! February 2011- lost twin. BS.
SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
BABY BOY VINCENT!
We can't wait to meet you!
Conception:
June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS.
November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS! February 2011- lost twin. BS.
SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
BABY BOY VINCENT!
We can't wait to meet you!
Conception:
June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS.
November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS! February 2011- lost twin. BS.
SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
BABY BOY VINCENT!
We can't wait to meet you!
Conception:
TTC #2 since 8/2012
IUI #1 April 2014: BFN
IUI #2 July 2014: BFN
IUI #3 August 2014: BFN
BFP: September 15, due May 22nd 2015
TTC#1 May 2009- July 2010 on our own with no luck
Started with RE in August 2010, dx with unexplained IF and then finally our 3rd IUI cycle using Follistim and Trigger resulted in our wonderful little man. Born 12/2/11
TTC#2 Never really prevented, but were careful early on as Dr. reccomended
Surprise BFP 12/16/13, started progesterone immediately as first numbers came back low, but betas were good. Progesterone wasnt enough. Natural MC 12/24/13.
Back with RE as of January 2014...
5/27/14- Chemical Pregnancy
April 2015 IVF#1
5/13/15- BFP, please stick LO!
Oh and I'm a major Harry Potter Nerd
welcome and i hope your stay here is short!
BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).
the universe can fuck off.
"You are overly paranoid and delusional that every one is out to get you." -lastsliverofhope
TTC #2 since 1/1/13
TTC #3 since June 2013
BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14
IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN