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Toddlers: 24 Months+
maggiesmom1
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behavior help!!!!
maggiesmom1
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I just told my sister that my daughter was misbehaving and I put her in her bed. My sister's response was that she needs to be punished more and have things taken away. So I asked my other sister if she thought my daughter was too misbehaved and she said I don't think more than other kids but the fact I don't want to take her to stores because I am afraid of the way she is going to act is a problem. She is right.
My daughter has tantrums SOMETIMES and other times she is wonderful! I put her in her bed, I will take toys away. My husband and I both work full time and she goes to daycare during the day. I just feel hopeless. What else can I do?
My daughter has tantrums SOMETIMES and other times she is wonderful! I put her in her bed, I will take toys away. My husband and I both work full time and she goes to daycare during the day. I just feel hopeless. What else can I do?
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Re: behavior help!!!!
Timeouts are just in a different room than the toys she was just playing with, are for 2-3 minutes depending on how bad the infraction was (usually only for hitting/being violent or being flagrantly disrespectful), and either DH or I stand in the same room so she won't get up or anything. She cries through timeout every single time, and then apologizes. Timeout upsets her so much, so she doesn't do things that would land her there very often.
And if she does something wrong with a toy, we take it away for the rest of the day. If it's something new, she gets one or two warnings with an explanation for why whatever she was doing was wrong, but something she's been in trouble for before, immediately. Like putting the Mr Potato Head pieces in her own nose or ears - gone, immediately. We've only had to do that a couple of times, though, and now she doesn't do it anymore. Yesterday, she was swinging the Magnadoodle around the living room by the pen. She had one warning that she was going to lose it if she did it again, and she didn't. If I catch her doing it today, the toy is gone until tomorrow - she had a warning.
At stores, she also gets chances to show us that she can be a big girl and act right, with consequences if she doesn't. She gets to walk around at Target, for example, but has to stay close, no running, and don't touch anything without asking - if she can't follow those rules, she goes into the big part of the cart immediately, where she has to stay on her butt or she gets strapped into the kid seat. Occasionally, if she is good and asks nicely to get out and walk again after a while, we'll let her.
The only way your DD will behave better in stores is if you give her the chance. To me, not taking her wouldn't even be an option. It sounds almost like punishing yourself by continuing to bring her, but if she never goes, how will she learn to act right? We usually diffuse tantrums by talking through them, but DD's tantrums have never really been epic to begin with. Good luck, I hope this phase passes quickly for you!