Have you ever...

tashad18 · April 2014

Someone suggested this poll in the first AMA, but it was never done. If it was your idea feel free to take credit. If it was done, and I missed it, feel free to post gifs or throw bananas at me. Or both.

Have you ever been in love with anyone that is not your current DH/SO/father of child?

elllaf · April 2014

Yes more than once. But it was different kinds of love.
The level of love for DH is deeper than the others. Obvs.

jennlin · April 2014

i clicked just once, but i honestly don't know...we were young, so i can't take it seriously as love these days...but we dated for 3 years (17-20)...i sure as hell thought it was love at the time. (i also thought every single one of my insignificant boyfriends since 7th grade was love, but that's another story).

5speckledfrogs · April 2014

Just MH. He was my first and only boyfriend.

Side note: it makes me sad that someone voted they don't love their DH. Hugs to you, mystery bumpie

trackgirlparis · April 2014

I voted only once before DH but I guess you could say I was in love twice before. Once was my high school boyfriend/neighbor but I think that was a longtime obsession of puppy love and being comfortable. Then when a disaster happened between us after he went into the Navy/early college years, I stopped speaking to him.

The real "in love" time was with my best friend. We would have been a terrible match though so I'm happy I got over that hahahaha

tashad18 · April 2014

I really only have ever been in love one other time. It was my first love. We had a crazy relationship. I never really got over him until DH came along. I would say that I wanted to love other people for certain reasons or I even convinced myself I was in love after him, but I know I wasn't. At any moment if the two of us would have had a chance to get back together I would have left whoever I was with to be with him. Which is funny considering I left him both times we broke up. My dating life is a crazy story all by itself. It would need a much longer post. LOL

alyshamarie007 · April 2014

I voted "just once" besides DH.

He was my best friend and then we developed feelings for each other when I was 18. I went away to college and we had a long distance relationship. We were very much in love and wanted to run away and get married. We even named our future kids. He ended up breaking up with me out of nowhere because he didn't want me to change my life by me dropping out of college to be with him and there were dreams in life he wanted to pursue. I was devastated to say the least. We kept in touch for awhile and I always thought we would end up together again. I dated other guys but never got him out of my head. He was basically the Noah to my Allie.

Finally, after a few years I decided I needed to let it go and that someone who could hurt me like that isn't worth my time and isn't worth waiting for. I met DH shortly, who is so perfect and good to me. I have never looked back and wouldn't trade him for anything.

vargasgurl · April 2014

I dated someone for almost 7yrs . I thought he was the one ... And he really was the one ... The one I got RID of for being and ahole! My DH and I met the day I actually dumped him but at the time I didn't think anything of it. We became friends and ended up dating a few yrs later.

I was heartbroken because I knew he wasn't treating me right .. Sometimes you just have to love yourself more.

BMom99 · April 2014

quartermisses said:

Yes. My first college boyfriend. A couple of years later, I found out he was gay. So... crisis averted? Lol.

Me too!!!

chelseyestelle · April 2014

I thought it was love but now I can see I was young and stupid. Only real love for my husband.

ballygirl · April 2014

oh yes, multiple times. I didn't meet DH until I was 33, so I'd had several serious relationships before him. I'd say I loved them all as much as I was capable of at the time. I was pretty much an emotional trainwreck in my teens and 20s. I think some of my exes probably consider me their 'crazy ex'. I think it would have been difficult to be in a relationship with me back then, but I always jumped into love with both feet. I never held back. There were two in particular that will always hold a place in my heart. They were really difficult when we broke up and I mourned the loss for a long long time.

norbert5 · April 2014

Twice before DH.

The first was a guy that I just fell head over heals with the moment I met him and it was a crazy mess of things. I was dating his brother but it wasn't going well; his brother actually suggested I should date his brother when we broke up. Then I met him and it was amazing, blah, blah, blah, but time passed and things just didn't work out.

The second guy was a guy I worked with. I was in love with him and he said he felt the same but he was married. He ended up transferring to a different department because he said he couldn't see me everyday and not be with me. It sounds bad when I write it but it was really pretty innocent we never acted on it. Kind of hard to describe but that's love right?

jennlin · April 2014

wedding06 said:

Yes but it was a very unhealthy co-dependent love.

yes!! this is a better way to describe it.

ajjf1026 · April 2014

Yes, my boyfriend I dated from 10th grade through freshman year in college.

mweav1025 · April 2014

I voted more then once. My HS boyfriend and I still have a love for each other. It's a strong friendship and honestly even when he pisses me off and we stop talking I always make sure to keep him in my thoughts and prayers and when we start talking again it's like no time has passed. We have over the years realized we are better suited as friends and if we tried for more when we were out of high school it would have gone down in flames.

I was also engaged prior to DH. I was in love and then as time went on more and more things about my ex just started to make me realize that even though we loved each other, it wouldn't have made for a good marriage. We don't really talk anymore and the last time we talked I found out he is still living with his parents. Dodge a bullet with that one.

calibr8te · April 2014

Deft more than once, and I am actually still friends with a lot of them. I will love them for life, but in a friends way at this point obvs, and I will always be thankful that I dodged a bullet by breaking up with them. They are either crazy, or a lot of them never grew up. Still partying hard in your 30s is so very sad in my books. They think they are living in the moment, but the truth is they are actually living in the past. The 'shoulda stopped doing this 15 years ago' past.

Weljadraak · April 2014

I said once, but I should have said I loved 'em all! lol. I hate that I was ever with, let alone loved, my 2nd (out of 3) boyfriend. UGH gross.

calibr8te · April 2014

Weljadraak said:

I said once, but I should have said I loved 'em all! lol. I hate that I was ever with, let alone loved, my 2nd (out of 3) boyfriend. UGH gross.

But you learned something from being with him right? My motto is no regrets. . EVER.

One of my longer relationships is with someone I consider so damn ghetto now. Gross. so gross when I think about it! That relationship ended with him cheating on me. But some of my dearest friends that I still have to this day, I met through him. That was the silver lining to my severe lack of judgement in choosing him.

jennlin · April 2014

@calibr8te am i being creepy? i swear i'm love titting every one of your posts today.

calibr8te · April 2014

@jennlin: I am loving all your love titties!

Weljadraak · April 2014

@calibr8te‌
Of course. I gained a clean slate from it and a hell of a lot of insight. I don't regret it but it's not something I look back and smile.

MangoMama82 · April 2014

More than once. I love being in love! But given that hubby and I are splitting, it would be more appropriate to vote that I don't love him- which is true. I did love him at one point, obviously! I'm not the mystery bumpie who voted that way though. Interesting...

tashad18 · April 2014

MangoMama82 said:

More than once. I love being in love! But given that hubby and I are splitting, it would be more appropriate to vote that I don't love him- which is true. I did love him at one point, obviously! I'm not the mystery bumpie who voted that way though. Interesting...

Sorry that y'all are splitting! I know it is a tough decision especially when kids are involved.

MangoMama82 · April 2014

Thanks! It's all good! Just want it all to be over already

ashleymarie512 · April 2014

I voted once before DH, but I agree, I love DH much deeper.

Long story...best friend in college. We never dated, but were FWB. We both had the feels for each other, but didn't want to "ruin the friendship". We dated others but when we were both single, we were "dating but not dating". It's jacked up. He took advantage of my feelings at times and we had a falling out when I couldn't take it anymore. Then I met DH. We hashed out our issues years later and I got some closure.

This is the short version....drama.

slh6363 · April 2014

I voted SS bc I thought I was at the time (high school and early college years) but now I feel I know better and it wasn't.

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