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stacers33 · April 2014

How is your friend doing now after last weeks discovery? You all have been in my thoughts!

Cambury108 · April 2014

My friend left her husband. It's a really shitty story in the end. He was way more involved with that "other" woman than anyone could have guessed. He just really proved to me that you can never truly know someone's character and think something is above them. My friend and her 3 kids are living in their house still but the husband has moved out and his choice was to move in with the other woman. Come to find out they have been together for quite a long time. Like 3 years. She knew about his family but didn't care I guess. He was pretty much leading a double life. My friend is heartbroken. Seems he met her when my friend was pregnant the 2nd time. So this other woman has now been thru 2 pregnancies. My friend is left to hold it down with an 8 and 3yr old along with a 6 week old baby. I spent quite a bit of my weekend with her. It's really a sad situation. The husband pretty much says he loves them both and can't choose and that they can keep their life as it was as long as he can have both. He told his wife she was happy in the dark for so long and that his personality and love for her have not changed. He says the only difference is now she knows. I am just being there for my friend. She goes to see a lawyer this week to start the divorce process. Keep praying for her. She needs it.

Cambury108 · April 2014

Douche monkey doesn't even cover him. The things he has spewed out lately make me want to vomit. Thanks for the prayers

Caitlinh27 · April 2014

I can't even fathom how someone does that to their spouse! I feel so horrible for your friend. Glad she chose to tell him to GTFO though!

ETA: Didn't need to say "even" twice in one sentence.

canicksmom · April 2014

Ugh. That is so awful. Disgusting. I can't even imagine how hurt and angry she must be. I hope she finds a good attorney and keeps support around her. She's lucky to have you! I will be thinking of she and her kids.

clhathaway · April 2014

I want to punch him in the nuts. Seriously, why do people think things like this are ok? I'm sorry your friends husband is a complete ass hole. You're a good friend! I hope her and the children can move on from this and lead happy lives without the jerk!

Kermode61581 · April 2014

He is a sorry excuse of a human being, your friend is far better off without him.

grannyweatherwax · April 2014

She's better off. I know it probably doesn't seem that way right now though. And she has a long road ahead of her with all of that. It may take her a long time to trust someone again. He is truly a horrible person. As long as she has good friends to support her, she will make it through!

Cambury108 · April 2014

superspecialsnowflake said:
There's no way that he actually said that to her, right? You're exaggerating... right?

Sadly no its exactly what he said. He says he really doesn't understand how she was so happy with him all this time and loved him so much but now that she knows it makes a difference. He says loving the other woman does not change his feelings for her and the kids. The only difference for him is now she knows and he would like her to turn a blind eye so to speak and not let it change anything. He truly is a pig. Thanks for the thoughts and prayers for her and the kids. They need em.

Cambury108 · April 2014

SailorTink said:
That is seriously fucked up. This isn't "Sister Wives," douchebag dudebro. "Well gees honey, you didn't have a problem with this when you didn't know about it. Let's just keep letting me have two lives!" Ugh. I feel sick for your friend.

This is pretty much him. Wants all the cake and to eat it too. He tells her that he provides her a good life and they have a foundation and things can work. He didn't mean to meet and fall in love with the other woman. He used the fact that she is the only person he has been with during their marriage as a line.....seriously. He says it's better if your going to go outside of the marriage that it just be with 1 person vs many. He thinks he gets points or something. He is delusional and clearly I didn't know him like I thought I did the past almost 9 years. She is feeling like she is on a crazy train. All she does is cry guys. Sit on the couch, breastfeeding her baby and cry. Everyone has had to take turns at her house for the oldest two. I never know what to say so I just help around the house and hand her tissues pretty much.

Kermode61581 · April 2014

Has she considered counselling? Perhaps she is not there yet...but going it might be good. whether or not she likes it she is going to have to co-parent with this sick and she is going to need tools to deal with it.
Also this other woman is in for it...as the saying goes "once a cheat always a cheat"

fauxvegan · April 2014

That's so sad! I can't believe he did that to his family. You're doing a good thing by being there for your friend, especially right now that she needs you most. I'll be praying for her and her kiddos. Going through a divorce is difficult enough to have to deal with the infidelity. He sounds disgusting.

stacers33 · April 2014

I'm so sorry this has happened to her and her kids. Thankful she has friends like to you pitch in and help out!

tyedyeme12 · April 2014

Wow. Just wow. I'm so glad she has someone like you to help her through this though. Thank you for being there for her. I just cannot believe someone can say things like that to their wife. How awful.

Cambury108 · April 2014

I think she is going to go on her own. Her mom suggested it. She is definitely not working anything out with him. When she sees the divorce lawyer they are also going to put a temporary custody/visitation order in place. She needs time to work thru lots of things and I think counseling will help her quite a lot. The other woman can have him they deserve each other imo.

clhathaway · April 2014

@Cambury108‌ I'd let her go for now, but if she doesn't get help for herself in a week or so, let her know she isn't weak, it isn't her fault, and it's ok to need a professional to talk with. Offer to watch the kids while she goes (if you can)

You're doing the right thing by not leaving her alone with her sorrows. You're a great friend.

lifesaverz · April 2014

oh my goodness, wow, so heartbreaking! I feel terrible for her.

And seriously what an ass-hat that guy is!!

notkateanymore · April 2014

Sounds like a bad Lifetime movie of the week.

nofcksgiven · April 2014

Wait, in your last post about this wasn't your friend still pregnant?

Cambury108 · April 2014

No, they have a 6 week old now. When I posted he was 4.5 weeks.

leahraewku · April 2014

What a scumbag!

Cambury108 · April 2014

Fail

Cambury108 · April 2014

osajia said:
Ugh just saw this...missed it yesterday. So sorry for your friend and her kids. How completely undeserving of this douchebag to involve his family in his douchebag shenanigans.

Asking her to turn a blind eye and go with it is truly the most selfish thing possible. The negative impact this would have on everyone, especially those kids, is huge. My cousins could tell you. My aunt moved them and her husband halfway across the country some 30 years ago to get away from her husband's girlfriend. Come to find out he only agreed to go because the girlfriend followed. My aunt never left him and to this day he continues to live a double life that is no secret. Vomit.

Thinking of your friend and her kids wishing them peace and healing if possible. You are such a great friend to be there for her and help her through this. Hugs.

Sad for your aunt and cousins. This sounds like what this jerk face would do. He makes me vomit. My poor friend last night could no longer hold it together as I talked about in chat and her mom had to call her Dr and get some anxiety meds for her. She is the sweetest person and so does not deserve this.

Cambury108 · April 2014

I wasn't even thinking and just hit quote and answered. Lack of judgement on my part after waking up from a nap.

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