Would you reschedule U/S? UPDATE

gimmeyronionrings · April 2014

My first ultrasound is scheduled for this coming Tuesday. DH is out of town (for pleasure, not business), and though he originally thought he could arrange being back in time to come with me to the appointment, he has now realized he can't reschedule his train ride home. I have been so excited about this appointment and DH doesn't seem too concerned about missing it. Part of me wants to reschedule so he can be there (this would likely push the appt. ahead two weeks or so), the other part of me feels really selfish and wants to keep the appt. for Tuesday. Does that make me a total douche?

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I called the U/S office today and they're able to get me in for an appointment Friday, May 2, so I rescheduled! So glad they had an opening and that DH can be there!

Thanks again for all of your input ladies!

LupeVallejo · April 2014

I voted keep i, because that was my first thought... But now that I have experienced losses, I would want the mister to be there in the event of bad news.

nesenotes · April 2014

It doesn't make you a douche. DH didn't get to go to my appt and he was fine with me telling him all was ok and sharing the US pic.

love2travel2014 · April 2014

Dh almost didn't make it to my ultrasound last week. I think he would have been completely fine with that, not that he is a jerk or anything, but I don't think he is emotionally involved yet. He just wanted to know baby was ok...and really there

So, I voted keep the appt! It will help for your peace of mind and you can just tell him about it & show him a picture!

Duckie419 · April 2014

If your H seems okay with missing it then I wouldn't worry too much about it. I couldn't have done that because my DH was hell bent on being there as long as you're both okay I think you should just keep it

hellopartyof5 · April 2014

I haven't voted, but I would ask your doc if they have any appts that aren't weeks ahead of your first. Maybe your H can get there for those? But if they don't, keep the appt! Eta: blah grammar!

jlbaxter33 · April 2014

Do you have someone else who could go with you? Like a friend or family? If not, I'd still keep the appointment.

You could also call and see if they have something in the following days if not, definitely keep.

Winter2166 · April 2014

I think if he is fine missing it then keep it. I couldn't hardly wait for our first U/S.

ZAP12 · April 2014

My husband would be disappointed if he hadn't been at the first ultrasound. I think it depends on your husband. I personally would reschedule.

E&B0811 · April 2014

RN536 said:
I voted reschedule but only because I had two missed miscarriages and was alone both times. I am sure you will be fine but god forbid something was wrong would you want to be alone? Doc can't get you in sooner then 2 weeks? It's also a nice moment when you first hear the heartbeat to be together. Just my opinion

All of this.

LaxMOM44 · April 2014

My H wasn't too concerned about appt but when he saw that first u/s it was a huge deal for him. If this is your first try to involve him as much as possible even if it's forced. He will appreciate it soon.

Meether · April 2014

I vote keep it since he doesn't seem concerned, AND you would have to wait 2 weeks. My DH would want me to make the appt because seeing the baby gives me peace of mind.

gimmeyronionrings · April 2014

Thank you all for your input! I'm still torn but leaning towards keeping the appointment. I want to see the little blob so badly! With that being said, I will call tomorrow morning to see what the soonest available date would be if I were to reschedule. I appreciate all the thoughtful responses!

emsrdh03 · April 2014

I voted reschedule. I don't see a ticker or any other info, but I'm going to guess this is your first. It's a pretty amazing experience, I wouldn't want DH to miss it.

SummerLove21 · April 2014

The only appt my DH ever went to was the 20 week US appt, and only because I insisted. There will be others he can be at.

laine950gmail · April 2014

gimmeyronionrings said:
My first ultrasound is scheduled for this coming Tuesday. DH is out of town (for pleasure, not business), and though he originally thought he could arrange being back in time to come with me to the appointment, he has now realized he can't reschedule his train ride home. I have been so excited about this appointment and DH doesn't seem too concerned about missing it. Part of me wants to reschedule so he can be there (this would likely push the appt. ahead two weeks or so), the other part of me feels really selfish and wants to keep the appt. for Tuesday. Does that make me a total douche?

Honestly at this point the longer you wait the better images you'll be able to see and you will have that "moment" with your spouse.
My husband was really bummed when I was given an US last week (had absolutely no idea ) to see how far I am since I've been having a period every month

hewilliams177 · April 2014

Keep it. My boyfriend has given me the choice between being a single mother or terminating and working on our relationship. WTH? Ya keep the US. Mister will get to the next one.

gimmeyronionrings · April 2014

You are all giving me a lot to think about, thank you for your input!

kath16 · April 2014

I voted keep it - Personally I couldn't wait another two weeks if that's really what you're looking at.

My H is a teacher and we aren't sure if he will be able to make it to ours on Thursday. It's just not that easy for him to take a day off or a half day.He'll be at the next ones.

I think the choice is yours and your husbands though and there is no right answer

abcmom12 · April 2014

my DH didn't attend my first apt cause I was there like, 2 hrs with all the tests and such, but he def came for the 2nd apt when we found out the sex and could actually see a baby instead of an alien tadpole lol

kellyo0131 · April 2014

me personally I would still go ahead and go....I would not be able to wait for a later appointment. this is my 2nd and I'm pretty sure my husband only came to Anatomy Scan and maybe 1 other appointment last time. he would have came to more if I wanted but it was too hard to coordinate with our work schedules.