I envy those...

miss2697 · April 2014

...whose husbands don't care about sports. Here I sit on another boring Sunday because we can't leave the house since there is a hockey game on at noon. I had no idea this is what my life would be like. Any ideas on what to do with LO alone? At this point, I may be one and done because there is no way I can do this with two. Sorry babies, but daddy can't come to the zoo with us because he has an important game to watch. Sigh...

bumpuser8571475 · April 2014

I feel your pain. DH isn't into hockey but once football season comes around? Forget it. Plus he does the Fantasy football leagues so that takes up even more time...

miss2697 · April 2014

SummerBebe47 said:

I feel your pain. DH isn't into hockey but once football season comes around? Forget it. Plus he does the Fantasy football leagues so that takes up even more time...

It's not just hockey, either. That's why I am so tired of it. It's every single sport. He does fantasy leagues for baseball, basketball, and football. Last weekend, it was some golf championship. I don't want my life or LO's to revolve around sports.

[Deleted User] · April 2014

Do what you want. I've gone out to lunch and done lots of things with LO alone. Don't let you husband hold ya back!

miss2697 · April 2014

Me and Aubrey do everything together. He came to the park once with us and it's so uncomfortable because I can tell he doesn't want to be there. It's depressing.

heatherbrownm · April 2014

Do you only go out and do things with LO if your H is around? If I did that, I would never do anything! He works weird hours and many weekends (he does only work 15 days out of the month though, but many of his days off I am working), so DD and I are on our own a lot. Don't rely on your husband in order for you to have fun with your baby

coco2787 · April 2014

That sucks. It's one thing to be a sports fan, but it almost sounds like he has an addiction; it's a problem when it interferes with your daily life. Especially when you're sacrificing time spent with your family. You can always find out the score later. It honestly sounds like you need to have a serious talk to him about it, or seek counseling if he refuses to compromise. I could see this turning into a HUGE issue down the road.

mittensonkittens · April 2014

My husband doesn't care about sports, but he likes to take his motorcycle to the track, spend hours working on the cars, and he will spend an entire day washing his car. Yes, AN ENTIRE DAY to wash his car. If I could choose hobbies for him, I would choose photography (of the kids only) and woodworking (if he would build me nice furniture). But he's not interested in those things. I don't mind the car hobby when he is fixing my car.

When I'm on my own on the weekend with a baby we go shopping, or go for a walk or run with the jogging stroller. The grocery store is probably just as exciting as the zoo to a 9 month old, so we go there a lot. But going to the zoo by yourself with LO could be nice too.

bumpuser8571475 · April 2014

miss2697 said:

SummerBebe47 said:

I feel your pain. DH isn't into hockey but once football season comes around? Forget it. Plus he does the Fantasy football leagues so that takes up even more time...

It's not just hockey, either. That's why I am so tired of it. It's every single sport. He does fantasy leagues for baseball, basketball, and football. Last weekend, it was some golf championship. I don't want my life or LO's to revolve around sports.

Yea that would be very frustrating..

rondosa · April 2014

Cfreymc said:

That sucks. It's one thing to be a sports fan, but it almost sounds like he has an addiction; it's a problem when it interferes with your daily life. Especially when you're sacrificing time spent with your family. You can always find out the score later. It honestly sounds like you need to have a serious talk to him about it, or seek counseling if he refuses to compromise. I could see this turning into a HUGE issue down the road.

I agree with PP, I'm really sorry OP it must be really frustrating. Life is about moments with your loved ones and spending time, not being stuck watching games every week. I wonder if you added up the hours in a year, that might help hit it home with him. If it's 8hrs every Sunday, that's 17.3 days a year!

I'm so thankful my DH isn't into most sports, or gaming etc. When we have disagreements, he "threatens" me that he's going to get really into "first person shooter games" as a joke (like Halo etc). We both are huge fans of Formula 1, and Moto GP, so we watch those together but only when we find time.

One thing we agreed upon was doing "me time" things only when DS sleeps, as much as possible. So if he wants to go for his bike ride (the major thing that takes lots of time), he goes during the am or pm nap. Can you try that @miss2697 - either he watches live or on PVR the sports he wants, during naps or after LO is in bed?

martyn17 · April 2014

I feel for you. My dad and husband love sports. A few things have helped us.
One is if you can't beat em, join em. I joined a fantasy football league and loved it. I've always loved baseball but wasn't that into football. Playing fantasy was a great way to learn about football plus I won $100.
Another is trying to make sports into a family event.. going to college games or other local sporting events, or throwing kid friendly parties on game day.
Lastly (and this was something my mom had to do with my dad) is to set ground rules. Family time is more important than a game. Except during playoffs

during playoffs, we learned not to bother Dad. Which is probably why my sister and I are such big Yankee fans... if we didn't watch with Dad we wouldn't have seen him all October.
You definitely deserve some sports free family time so I hope you can work out a compromise.

arlingirl · April 2014

DH loves football, so I would either hang out with him while he watches the games so we're spending time together or let Oliver hang out with daddy and I get time to myself. Oliver has also gone with Daddy to friends houses while they cookout and watch the games. It's "man" time. That has been the most alone time I've had. I cherish it. Lol

[Deleted User] · April 2014

That's really hurtful & selfish honestly. Can he Dvr the game & watch it when LO naps? Sorry. My husband fishes a lot & I actually enjoy hanging with just the kids, but then he owes me. It can't be all about them & their hobbies. [-X

thegoodpotato · April 2014

My husband doesn't watch sports of any kind. I love him for that.

However, he is seriously Type A. So I lose him to work or to construction projects a lot.

mandyrator79 · April 2014

I was gong to suggest he record the things he wants to watch as well. you should approach him when you're not feeling rage towards him

and tell him how you feel. I get both of your sides, and there should be a compromise. my husband and I both like sports, but we record lots of things and watch them in the evenings or even a different day if needed, and we just avoid going to any websites ect where we could see the results. family outings are important and fun and always come first for us! hopefully as she gets older your husband will understand that.

karen0477 · April 2014

I agree with others, time to start recording and spending some time as a family. My husband does not watch sports, but he has his own company and a few years ago ws had to have a huge discussion because he was always putting work ahead of us and I lost my shit.....completely.

I suggest talking to him and getting it figured out now because it's only going to get worse. I don't mind spending time alone with my kids and usually dh just messes up our schedule, but there needs to be some time that is just for family, not sports, not other people, not work, not whatever it is that keeps you away from your family.

PrimRoseMama · April 2014

Park? Library?

The weekend is Daddy Central.

arlingirl · April 2014

I do agree that if he isn't making time for you guys that that isn't ok. DH likes to mountain bike, but we have had serious and heAted convos that he can't spend his life on the bike, away from us.

jennipalmer · April 2014

My exH is sports person we had to have anniversary dinner in a bar because the NBA championship was on.
DH loves doing stuff with family but because of work I often do things by myself.

[Deleted User] · April 2014

miss2697 said:
Me and Aubrey do everything together. He came to the park once with us and it's so uncomfortable because I can tell he doesn't want to be there. It's depressing.

I'm sorry. My DH can be like this some times (not about sports but other things). It can be so hurtful. >:D<

Lelo2006 · April 2014

Hugs!! My husband watches every sport known to man and also does every single fantasy event. He has started recording games and fast forwarding through them so it doesn't take as much time. I also try to keep things equal by letting him watch sports if I can go out and get a manicure by myself. I try not to keep score (I mean, let's be honest, I would win by a million points) but I try to remind him that it's important that he spends time alone with the baby. And that we get a break!

miss2697 · April 2014

I have suggested counseling before and he doesn't think there is a problem. He will not sacrifice. Right after LO was born, we had a lot of things happen that put us in a dire situation financially. I told him we needed to go back to basic cable and see where we could save. He refused to get rid of his sports packages and fantasy leagues and we paid our mortgage late. We are still living paycheck to paycheck with no sacrifices from him. He still plays softball which costs money and has all his direct tv sports channels while I'm cashing savings bonds I hoped to save for LO.

martyn17 · April 2014

@miss2697‌ yikes... that definitely sounds like a more serious problem. I'm so sorry

24karat · April 2014

Yeah that's not just liking sports. That's called selfish immaturity and he needs to grow up. Stat.

miss2697 · April 2014

I've talked to my MIL about it. Her husband was the same way and they lived separate lives for years before they could afford to get divorced. She isn't very sympathetic though, because she says he never helped her with anything and my DH helps with the baby. I tell her that we had a conversation before baby was planned about that specifically so that he knew I expected help. We just had a big conversion about him helping out more because he was slacking. I'd say it's about 70/30 now but it's better than no help.

miss2697 · April 2014

He's also a big gamer. He was heavy into it when I met him, but he stopped for about 6 years. Didn't get back into it until recently. He is up most nights playing so I sleep alone every night.

heatherbrownm · April 2014

So sorry

this is definitely a bigger problem than him just wanting to watch sports. Is the cable in your name? If I were you I would just downgrade since he is being unreasonable.

Dani428 · April 2014

Most things we do are just LO and I on weekends. We bought a house that needs a ton of work so he gets stuff some and I get her out of the house. I kind of enjoy our alone time (don't tell him that)

coco2787 · April 2014

Well now I'm gonna offer big hugs too >:D< . This is a difficult situation, but long story short, your H needs to grow the fuck up. If you are living paycheck to paycheck and paying the mortgage late because he won't give up his sports package, then I am even more convinced he has a real addiction.

If that's the case, he will require help to change his ways, and if he won't get it then you are going to be trapped and go down with him. If you're unhappy now it's only going to get worse if he won't acknowledge the problem. It sounds like he needs a HUGE reality check/wake up call to see that he is going to lose you if he keeps this up.

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