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May 2014 Moms
whimsy515
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I can only say "I don't know" so many times
whimsy515
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I mentioned this earlier in a post, but it's just gotten worse.
At my shower, my Uncle got my DH and I passes to this festival of plays. There's theaters that show different plays, food trucks, and lots of outdoor activities. I live in a tropical climate, so it's already in the 90's here, and I've already seen the play my Uncle got us passes to. Here's the deal, he asked me my due date as he was giving the gift to us, and it turns out that these passes can only be used a couple of days before I'm due. I know I'm cranky, but I was upset that he didn't think to ask that before or consult my Mom or someone who already knew that, but whatever.
I'm not exaggerating when I say that every single day this week, he's been up my ass and so has my Mom about what day I want to go. The passes clearly state that I can choose the dates up to 24 hours in advance. I'm getting calls, texts, emails, facebook comments/messages about when I want to go. I have told them over and over that I refuse to commit cause I don't know what will happen. I even mentioned that due to GD I could be induced that week, but that's not a good enough answer. They want me to go on the 15th, which is my birthday but also a weekday. They mentioned going to a party at 10 that night. I said no due to my DH having to work (and because it's my b-day I don't want to see a play I've already seen, sorry). The asking just keeps getting worse and worse, and today I snapped at my Mom about it. I told her that she of all people should know that I can't commit and refuse to RSVP knowing full well that I could be in labor and even if I'm not, I'm not walking around in 90 degree weather. She flips and says "Normal people make a commitment with the understanding you might not make it. But that's what normal people do!" Maybe I just don't want to seem like a flake. I have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday, and I'm thinking I may just lie and tell them that she says it's a bad idea.
Maybe I'm the jerk in this whole situation, but seriously. How many times do I have to tell these people before they get it? I have 24 hours before the day to decide, it's still freaking April, just leave me alone!!!!
At my shower, my Uncle got my DH and I passes to this festival of plays. There's theaters that show different plays, food trucks, and lots of outdoor activities. I live in a tropical climate, so it's already in the 90's here, and I've already seen the play my Uncle got us passes to. Here's the deal, he asked me my due date as he was giving the gift to us, and it turns out that these passes can only be used a couple of days before I'm due. I know I'm cranky, but I was upset that he didn't think to ask that before or consult my Mom or someone who already knew that, but whatever.
I'm not exaggerating when I say that every single day this week, he's been up my ass and so has my Mom about what day I want to go. The passes clearly state that I can choose the dates up to 24 hours in advance. I'm getting calls, texts, emails, facebook comments/messages about when I want to go. I have told them over and over that I refuse to commit cause I don't know what will happen. I even mentioned that due to GD I could be induced that week, but that's not a good enough answer. They want me to go on the 15th, which is my birthday but also a weekday. They mentioned going to a party at 10 that night. I said no due to my DH having to work (and because it's my b-day I don't want to see a play I've already seen, sorry). The asking just keeps getting worse and worse, and today I snapped at my Mom about it. I told her that she of all people should know that I can't commit and refuse to RSVP knowing full well that I could be in labor and even if I'm not, I'm not walking around in 90 degree weather. She flips and says "Normal people make a commitment with the understanding you might not make it. But that's what normal people do!" Maybe I just don't want to seem like a flake. I have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday, and I'm thinking I may just lie and tell them that she says it's a bad idea.
Maybe I'm the jerk in this whole situation, but seriously. How many times do I have to tell these people before they get it? I have 24 hours before the day to decide, it's still freaking April, just leave me alone!!!!
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Re: I can only say "I don't know" so many times
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
ETA If you were a doctor who was on call all the time, or a volunteer fire fighter, you would have the same schedule issues too. It's not just super-pregnant women who aren't good at making solid plans. I'm seriously bothered on your behalf that your mom was all "well NORMAL people make plans that they might cancel." No, OP's mom, rude people do that. Maybe rude is normal these days. *grumble*
You are definitely not being a jerk.
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09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!